| I found the man of my dreams
Posted: 6/29/2009 9:49:51 AM | Since my divorce, I have not been very successful on the singles scene. I kept up the hope of meeting the man who gave me the feeling I got when I met my first husband. That connection and knowing that goes far deeper than the physical attraction and 'honeymoon phase' of a new romance. I found myself settling into lesser relationships that may, in time, have given me some of the things that were important to me but those virtues I was looking for would never come to fruition and I was soon left with more disenchantment, insecurity and sadness.
I came to POF in hopes of connecting with someone on the level I was looking for. Someone who would cherish who I was while being a man I could cherish and grow with on many levels. Someone to dream with and to make them come true with. He had to be out there, right? I had to keep up the hope. My friends kept telling me to just stop looking and it would happen but whenever I did that, I met no one at all and there was little hope of having someone to share my dreams with.
On POF, I met some very nice men and some men who I will remain friends with. The experiences I had were pleasant and unregretful. The last date I went on was with someone I shared a few mesages with and though we both saw each other as a distant possibility through our profiles, it wasn't until our meeting in person and casual phone texts that we started to feel the connection. At the end of the first date, I knew I wanted to see this man again and soon. We had lunch together the next day and then dinner and by the second week of dating, we both knew we had found our soul mates.
I am a cautious person with my heart and do not open it up easily but we melted through each other's apprehensions immediately. Our common interests and excitement in each other's careers, along with our desires to be with someone we can support and nurture emotionally, made us realize that we are just what each other needs. In our mid 40's, we do not call our quick emotional involvement impulsive but a conviction of our needs based on life experience. We call it fate and we are thankful.
Look past the little things that get in the way of what you think you want in life and focus on integrity and values of what will take you into a lasting romance. I believe that there is someone out there for everyone and you will know for sure in the first moments you meet them. Do not settle but let each experience lead you to to the realization of what is really important to you in your daily life.
Be the person you that want to find and once you find them, never let a day go by that they do not know how thankful you are to have them in your life. Sweet nothings and actions go a long long way towards a long loving life together. | |
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| I found the man of my dreams
Posted: 6/29/2009 9:59:00 AM | Now that is COOL! Best of luck to you and I hope it's forever.
How far off your stated preferences were the two of you? The distant possibility description has my "stick your nose in their business" mode up and running.
Or just tell me to shut up and go to your hunk which has got to be a lot more fun!  | |
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| I found the man of my dreams
Posted: 6/29/2009 10:01:17 AM | | Congrats! For some people this venue will work......for others time will tell! I am truly happy for you both! | |
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| I found the man of my dreams
Posted: 6/29/2009 1:59:47 PM |
Be the person you that want to find and once you find them, never let a day go by that they do not know how thankful you are to have them in your life. Sweet nothings and actions go a long long way towards a long loving life together.
Wrong. Been there, got the T shirt.
You find someone you really like, and you tell them how thankful you are to have them in your life each and every day, and the odds are they're going to bolt because you came on too strong and you appear desperate and clingy. | |
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| I found the man of my dreams
Posted: 6/29/2009 2:30:42 PM | Now maybe you can change your profile from "Divorced - Looking for long term" to something more appropriate, like "Not looking/Not single"? 
Congratulations, though. | |
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| I found the man of my dreams
Posted: 6/29/2009 3:27:22 PM |
Now maybe you can change your profile from "Divorced - Looking for long term" to something more appropriate, like "Not looking/Not single"?
Maybe she's Polyamorous and still intends on picking up an additional guy or two...
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| I found the man of my dreams
Posted: 6/29/2009 3:46:16 PM | Thats pretty quick for a "causious" person, good luck.
Hope you don't end up in brioken hearts forum a few months down the line. | |
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| I found the man of my dreams
Posted: 6/29/2009 7:15:10 PM | | Was planning on taking down my profile but I have made some friends here so I changed it. I wish everybody luck and hope. | |
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| I found the man of my dreams
Posted: 6/29/2009 7:27:00 PM |
and by the second week of dating, we both knew we had found our soul mates.
DANGER! DANGER! By the second week????
DANGER! DANGER! Soul mate????
DANGER! DANGER! Middle age and from a dating site????
I truly hope it's real but you've got three strikes for meeting someone with BPD. Use caution. | |
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| I found the man of my dreams
Posted: 6/30/2009 9:04:03 AM | Happy that you found someone you think is your soul mate.. I would be a little wary though.. its a lot too soon = too good to be true?
I tend to agree with Lil Brooker
...have fun in any case ;) | |
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| I found the man of my dreams
Posted: 6/30/2009 9:18:09 AM |
Does he have an older brother?
bklynrebel you are the Queen of wit. You keep cracking me up in all the forums. | |
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| I found the man of my dreams
Posted: 6/30/2009 9:20:52 AM | '*uck the naysayers, cause they don't mean a thing...' sorry 311 song.... :)
but in all seriousness....i have been married twice and both times I knew & they knew that we had found something special. maybe not soul mates, but def wanted to share a life together. I hope you don't end up with a broken heart-but certianly don't let us jaded folks bump you off your cloud....cause the view is Way better from up there I'm sure. :) | |
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| I found the man of my dreams
Posted: 6/30/2009 10:24:53 AM | I agree with LilBroker.....
Seems to me at this time under the Current Dating Market Condition, it is Unpossible to find a Soulmate, specially at a later part (40+) in the life. In this case if the guy is 7+ years older than the lady he may stick around as this may be the optimal choice (when in 40+). But if they are around the same age, or the guy is younger he would never stick around for sure, as other choices may loom large. Also I don't rule out the case when a man takes her woman to a very fancy place for a very very fine wining and dining to impress desperately, and it works sometime, though for a limited time. | |
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| I found the man of my dreams
Posted: 6/30/2009 5:49:40 PM | Rock on!!! I'm very happy for you and wish you both peace, love and energy (!)
I also have found the love of my life in a very short span of time. We are both in our 40's also and while we all know that caution is a good thing, when it's right, you just know it.
I think that there's a certain amount of faith when you fall in love, knowing that if things go wrong, at least you gave it your best and hoping that you can survive if it ends.
Sometimes you just need to enjoy the ride...
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| I found the man of my dreams
Posted: 6/30/2009 5:55:53 PM | Wish you luck, but I'd bet the farm(even though I don't have one) that in about a month or less he'll be long gone! | |
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| I found the man of my dreams
Posted: 6/30/2009 6:43:14 PM | I know a couple of women who meet their soul mates and fall in love at least once a month. Its gotta be exhausting.
Good luck to you OP. | |
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| I found the man of my dreams
Posted: 6/30/2009 7:16:59 PM | | OP, your story sounds a lot like mine. And this this Thursday, July 2 will be the 1 year anniversary of our first date! Our feelings have only grown deeper and stronger, and I don't remember the time when we weren't together. I have found "it" and I hope things go the same for you two! | |
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| I found the man of my dreams
Posted: 6/30/2009 7:18:15 PM |
You find someone you really like, and you tell them how thankful you are to have them in your life each and every day, and the odds are they're going to bolt because you came on too strong and you appear desperate and clingy.
Only if they are the wrong person. The right person will never bolt because you are thankful to have them in your life. | |
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| I found the man of my dreams
Posted: 7/1/2009 2:07:14 AM | | Wow thanks so much for this... it gives me hope!! Good luck to you both, it sounds like you deserve it! | |
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