| how to attract a man???
Posted: 6/29/2009 11:15:27 AM | | i am a relatively good looking young woman, but i only end up making friends with guys. most other guys i meet seem like they're not interested. i've never had a real relationship. i've been feeling kind of lonely lately and i wanted to know how to attract a man that isn't just in it for sex? any words of advice would be very much appreciated. thank you. | |
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| how to attract a man???
Posted: 6/29/2009 11:26:22 AM | I think it kind of depends on the type of men you are looking for!
Younger guys seem to want a woman who can "show them the light"
Like guide them or teach them something, in bed or spiritually. What the younger guys don't know yet is once they become friends with you for a while and see how that friendship is the base, they will want something more.
Older guys. . . who aren't perverts. . . want. . . their own space and to only see you when it is convenient :) | |
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| how to attract a man???
Posted: 6/29/2009 11:43:00 AM | Now that Aguaya has neither answered your question or posted a reply that had anything to do with the subject, let me actually attempt to help.
You first need to answer us (and yourself) this; Are you looking for a long term relationship, or do you just want someone to be closer to (snuggles and huggles, lovely dovey high school relationship)?
Are you still in university? School is probably THE best place to meet people and start relationships, especially with other classmates and regulars at the campus club/bar/main hang out. If there's nobody in your group of friends you're attracted to, then you're going to have to be outgoing and attempt to approach other people. A great way to do this, believe it or not, is while you're with your friends, fold up a piece of paper, only write, "Hey, what's up?" on it, and toss it at a guy you find attractive. Make sure you watch him as he picks it up, reads it, then looks to see who threw it so he knows it came from you. This small act of flirtation will REALLY catch his attention (in a positive way!).
If there is someone in your group of friends you want to be with, just flat out tell them that they like you. If they tell you they just want to be friends, try a second time a week later to let them know you're serious. If they still insist on being friends and nothing more, then you're out of luck and should stop trying, as going any further will only annoy them. | |
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| how to attract a man???
Posted: 6/29/2009 12:58:11 PM |
i wanted to know how to attract a man that isn't just in it for sex?
Good luck with that. | |
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| how to attract a man???
Posted: 6/29/2009 1:04:10 PM | | I would just say put yourself out there where people are. Make new friends, they usually end up introducing you to many new men. Make eye contact when out in public and smile when you see a guy you like. Talk to people while standing in line or hit a public place on a weekly basis so people get to know you. Increasing your social circles will inevitably allow you to meet guys. | |
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| how to attract a man???
Posted: 6/29/2009 1:15:47 PM | How to attract a man that will not want sex??? Date gay guys. There's your answer.
In all honesty dear, don't go to clubs. No decent man or woman will be met at a club. Make a small circle of social friends and he will just be there without your trying.
If you try to find a man, he will know it and that means he will have all the cards. Also, any advice you receive from your lady friends will only drive away a decent man. Being yourself will attract a man. But if he wants sex, what's wrong with that?? Do you not enjoy sex?? | |
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| how to attract a man???
Posted: 6/29/2009 1:26:02 PM | 'i am a relatively good looking young man, but i only end up making friends with girls. most other girls i meet seem like they're not interested. i've never had a real relationship. i've been feeling kind of lonely lately and i wanted to know how to attract a woman that isn't just in it for sex? any words of advice would be very much appreciated. thank you.'
Wouldn't it be interesting to see the posts to the above revised question in the Ask A Girl section ;-) | |
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| how to attract a man???
Posted: 6/29/2009 1:55:22 PM | I like monarchmom's advice....
1. go where there are guys.
2. find one you are interested and let him know you are interested....smile, eye contact, talk, drop something for him to pick up, flirt.
3. repeat steps 1 and 2 until you find one that is mutually attracted to you and not attached...
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| how to attract a man???
Posted: 6/29/2009 3:44:33 PM | If the guys aren't looking for sex on some level, they aren't dating. So they can either admit it, or lie to you, or there is a remote chance they are gay, and need to fool thier mom's at Thanksgiving.
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Talk to the guy, and see if you can get real answers that you may not like. If every answer is perfect, you are being played.
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And we all like a little cleavage. | |
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| how to attract a man???
Posted: 6/29/2009 4:04:48 PM | I thought it was show up naked and bring beer. Rattles the neighbors......okay that's a JOKE!
Men, like women seem to like to talk to someone who is interested in them. Ask them about their occupation, their hobbies, the type of music they like. And LISTEN.....give them your full attention.
Let's face it, hon you don't want to attract EVERY man I'd guess. It's okay to compliment them, but keep that totally sincere. I know very few men that have such ridiculous egos, and I don't believe that a few complimentary words do any harm. Everyone like to hear when others have good thoughts about them.
Attraction is something you don't really have much control over, just be your own sweet self, either they'll be attracted ot they won't. You have to learn to accept that either way it goes. And treat them how you'd like to be treated, that goes a long way. | |
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| how to attract a man???
Posted: 6/29/2009 4:29:09 PM | | Not to put too fine a point on it but the difference between dating and friendship involves sex somewhere. Maybe you always end up as friends for the simple reason you act like a friend instead of a date. | |
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| how to attract a man???
Posted: 6/29/2009 4:31:38 PM | | I agree with abelian. You don't have to be a whore but there has to be some sexual desire in a relationship to advance to the next level, otherwise you'll just be friends. | |
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| how to attract a man???
Posted: 6/29/2009 5:12:07 PM | My best advice to you is to head to the nearest string of grocery stores... look for guys that you find attractive and ask them to help you reach something on a high shelf.
If they are available and have a pulse ... they will strike up a convo and you can take it from there.
good luck... money back if this doesn't work lol !!!! | |
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| how to attract a man???
Posted: 6/29/2009 5:38:36 PM | | Go to the Stanley Hotel on a Saturday afternoon and find a tubing partner...everyone is there to have fun and it would be an awesome environment to meet someone...assuming that is still going on, been about 7 years since I lived there. | |
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| how to attract a man???
Posted: 6/29/2009 5:43:48 PM | i don't agree that you can't find any decent people in night clubs. He probably said that because he has never met any women at a night club. A lot of people do have success at night clubs where the patrons are ready to mingle. That's one of the only places you can go where people let their gaurds down and want people to talk to them.
You've got to be outgoing and put yourself in a psition where other people are and the environment is conducive for conversation. If you do meet someone you can have conversation with don't be afraid to give him your number. Volunteer it if he doesn't ask.
If you don't want to get in the friend zone, then you'll want to allow your conversation to take some perverted swings now and again but not too much. I'm not going to provide any examples brcause they all sound lame. But, it's a form of flirting without hanging on him, and it allows him to know you aren't thinking "just friends." | |
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| how to attract a man???
Posted: 6/29/2009 5:47:12 PM | you are relatively good looking, and you seem very interesting too. i'd date you if you weren't a zillion miles away.
if guys aren't interested, screw 'em. the ones that are, are you sleeping with them before they develop feelings for you? if so, you may wish to delay doin' it until you have their heart on a hook. guys always listen to their testicles first. but after a while, they'll quiet down because they know you're not an easy nut to crack. then the heart can be heard. and if that guy is looking for love, he'll latch on. hang in there, you're a cute one! | |
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| how to attract a man???
Posted: 6/29/2009 6:14:16 PM | | Take the time to get to know someone. Don't bother with bars or clubs because I don't think it'll lead you where you want to go. It's a cliche, but get involved in activities you like and make new friends. The more people you meet the better yuor odds that someone you like and who likes you will show up. | |
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| how to attract a man???
Posted: 6/29/2009 6:48:13 PM | The comdeian Chris Rock said it best...............You want a man? Learn how to cook!
Put a pot on the stove with food and men from miles around will line up at your door to date you! Totally true!!!!!! | |
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| how to attract a man???
Posted: 6/29/2009 7:34:34 PM | | I agree with some other posters in the sense that there has to be SOME degree of sexual desire and attraction in a relationship or dating. What's the difference between a good friend and a boyfriend? Well, to cut RIGHT to the chase, YOU F*** the BOYFRIEND!! I only make this a huge point because I think that most guys will agree that they don't want a complete slut (at least for anything more than sex), but if it seems like you're so careful NOT to put out or seem risque, then they'll think you only want to be a friend. Maybe you should let your hair down girl, and loosen up a bit. Maybe you could be a little bit more aggressive. | |
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