| PMS apparently holds a hand in my relationships....
Posted: 7/1/2009 7:03:45 AM | Alright as stupid as some things may be, i hate when people in my family tell me that im over reacting and that i have severe PMS. (i laugh at myself at the thought of this)
Reason: In the past three years that ive been seriously dated i seem to have flipped through my guys and always broke up with them around my period. Usually i can go three months in a relationship and then POW im like, "Im so done with you" then later i go through the regret. OH and even better! Three of them broke up with me around the same time, that this "monster PMS" is occuring.
Its not like im a bad person, but its deffinatly causing problems in relationships...
I really would love for it to go away :[
Ugh, i've actually been given the snickers bar as a present in hopes of a good day... | |
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| PMS apparently holds a hand in my relationships....
Posted: 7/1/2009 7:15:28 AM | bummer tashrawr!
Not sure if your thread will last .. however ..
I did a Research Project for Health Canada a few years back - on PMS. It was Very interesting.
There are a couple things you can do to help with your symptoms.
The # 1 thing that 'most' women found alleviated many symptoms (esp mood swings) was adding B Complex vitamins to their daily regime. 80% of those we studied had noticeable improvements with B Complex.
Also - try cutting out salt - esp in the week or so before your period is due.
Lots of water .. warm water is most beneficial (it is better for you than cold)
Walking for 30 minutes a day (or more).
Cut out or at least cut waaaay down on caffeinated beverages - coffee, tea, coloured soda's ..
That's about all I can think of right now.. off the top of my head.
Promise you .. with those few Minor changes/additions - You will notice a Great improvement .. so will your family, friends and dates!
Good luck eh!
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| PMS apparently holds a hand in my relationships....
Posted: 7/1/2009 7:21:28 AM | If you can't control yourself during a PMS bout, how can a guy expect you will control the other parts of your life?
To walk on eggshells one week of every month doesn't sound too appealing to me. Not even if the sex is good. | |
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| PMS apparently holds a hand in my relationships....
Posted: 7/1/2009 7:29:44 AM | At what age did you get your period? Which means you've had how many years to learn to deal with it?
I also have very high mood swings during the week before my period, but have decided that if this is part of my life... I need to just accept and deal with it.
You really shouldn't be dating at all until you learn to control EVERY aspect of your life that you are capable of controlling.
P.S. Being put on some form of birth control may help. What helps me is a cup of yogurt a day. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 7:35:03 AM | You are not the only one.
I always pshawed PMS - "it's a myth" I would say....until I hit forty...then I noticed the same cyles as you. As a matter of fact. I broke up with my guy four times during that time of the month. He recognized it and I'd get mad if he mentioned it...LOL. I agree with the poster who said to add vitamin B complex to your diet and walk it off and stop the unnecessary caffeine. I also take homeopathic remedy as well. It has helped me.
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| PMS apparently holds a hand in my relationships....
Posted: 7/1/2009 7:45:26 AM | Yeah, you really do need to get control over that. Diet and exercise really do help. I noticed a difference if I eat edamame ,soy beans. Just really watch the processed foods. Try to get the chemicals ands sulphites out of your system. Really helps with mood swings. If you drink red wine, that is another really big culprit. Don`t even get near it that time of the month. Sulphites, ( make you crazy).
Just eat mainly fruit, vegetables and unprocessed meats. Stay away from anything proceeds with additives, sugar and white flour. You might notice a huge difference. I did. I was never one of those "food freak" people who were all fussy. But boy since I started eating clean, huge difference in my health. I won`t ever go back to eating all that crap again.
And if you are in a bad mood, and you know it, tell the guy and cancel, chill with a good book or movie and stay by yourself. No reason to be putting all the bad vibes out in the universe. It hurts them as much if not more, as the mood is hurting you. | |
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| PMS apparently holds a hand in my relationships....
Posted: 7/1/2009 7:56:32 AM | AS IS.....thanks for the information on how to smooth PMS symptoms, this is specially useful for mom's of teenagers....thats when PMS is really full strength....
I forwarded to my sister and friends.... | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 8:08:18 AM | LOL Wow... PMS. Gotta love that stuff. NOT! I used to get hit with really bad mood swings in my younger years. After I got my tubes tied, it was no longer an issue. Not sure why since it really didn't change anything hormonally.... but meh. Whatever.
Although I'm not "educated" in the homeopathic remedies, I have found that mint tea really helps. If your mood swings are severe enough, you can try that Yaz that I've seen advertised. It's a birth control but also for PMDD which is just basically PMS on steroids! Another thing you can try is orgasms. I know..sounds crazy... last thing most gals want when PMSing is anything to do with sex. BUT! Orgasms release some of those hormones that can help balance and subdue your moods. (It also helps to relieve cramps!!).
When my daughter started going through puberty, her very first major PMS mood swing was just unbelievable. I came home from work and she was just bawling!! I mean we're talking full body sob! You'd have thought she just got news that her entire family had been killed or something! First thing I did was asked my son.. ok..what the hell did you do to her!! He was like I swear, mom, I didn't do anything! So I ask her and she just sobs I dunno!!!! There was no consoling her..she smacked anyone that came within 5' of her. LOL So I ran up to the store and got her a pint of Ben and Jerry's half baked. One bite and the tears instantly stopped. Her mood changed THAT fast! Since then, we've keep some chocolate on hand in case of another outburst.  | |
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| PMS apparently holds a hand in my relationships....
Posted: 7/1/2009 8:23:20 AM | Not that it's funny, but I've found that I tend to cause problems when I'm in that "state". I didn't catch on to the pattern for a while though...
I don't get real bad moodwise, but I do give people warning when it's that time. Also, I try to avoid "life" for 2 days. As soon as I feel like crying for every little reason, I know I have to watch my communications with others.
My recent long term friend used to know my "schedule" better than I did. Maybe it wasn't just because he was planning out the few days we wouldn't be having sex after all ... lol. | |
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| PMS apparently holds a hand in my relationships....
Posted: 7/1/2009 8:35:40 AM | | Many years ago i suffered badly from this,tried vitamins etc and nothing seemed to work.Doctor put me on a contraceptive pill,did the job! After six months i decided to come off it,as didnt like the idea of taking the pill for the rest of my productive life..........have never suffered from it since! It was almost like the pill had kick started my hormones into balancing up. | |
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| PMS apparently holds a hand in my relationships....
Posted: 7/1/2009 8:38:08 AM | Ugh, i get the cry day where if someone looks at me i just burst out. Lol i get the ben and jerry's Cherry Garcia. Kudos Sidewinder on good brands of ice cream : )
Today, im having a "vengence will be mine" i got into a verbal disagreement lastnight, and this morning i managed to scream on the phone to him and after thinking about it, its rather hillarious. I actually wished him diahrea at work. and that i would rip his finger nails of with a screw driver. UGH. Lol, he even laughed at me. It was horrible. (i hate when people say things that they shouldnt say and change words around and get me in trouble Grr.))
Maybe YAZ is something i need to do.
The only thing i heard was, was that birth control, causes weight gain. And i really dont want that. | |
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| PMS apparently holds a hand in my relationships....
Posted: 7/1/2009 8:46:49 AM | Now you know why indian tribes kicked women out of the village for 7 days.
cough .. What? ..
Actually - In many native / aboriginal tribes - they Honour the woman during the time that her body is preparing to carry a life. It was (is) seen as a Sacred time. Certainly not what many of us whities refer to as "the curse" ... Natives do not and did not "kick women out of the village"!! The women went to 'special' places to Honour this very Special time and esp the REASON for these 'symptoms'.
A womans body goes through Many changes in preparation for pregnancy, as it does when no pregnancy occurs - ie: PMS and the sloughing off of that extra stuff in the uterus - ie: the period.
These changes are Physical - Normal and Natural. They do (for some women) cause some pretty nasty symptoms. For the mostpart these symptoms can be controlled through diet, exercise and sometimes adding vitamins - ie: BComplex.
This "controlling through diet .. etc" doesnt come overnight, nor is it the same for each woman. Some need medical attention others get away with a brief moment that needs no extra attention - Most of us fit somewhere in between.
The best way to take care of your own is to start with charting the symptoms, figure out your own cycle .. find what works for You. Like I said - when doing the (very interesting) Research Project for Health Canada - 'we' found that 80% of women had very positive results from adding BComplex to their daily regime.
**Also - it is noteworthy that Support from other women is Extremely beneficial.
Remember - PMS is Not your fault, it is simply your body adjusting to some pretty major changes - esp those hormones! You CAN do things to make it easier / better .. Be patient with yourself .. and also Remember - it is because of the fact that your body prepares to create life every month that you 'suffer' these symptoms. IMO That is pretty darned special!
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Posted: 7/1/2009 8:57:39 AM |
It was (is) seen as a Sacred time.
That's because with a much shorter life span, no reliable contraceptions, and thus more pregnancies than modern women, they could expect maybe 10 menstruations in their entire lives, compared to some 400 now -- which means men nowadays have to put up with 40 times more shit from our women than biology ever intended.  | |
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| PMS apparently holds a hand in my relationships....
Posted: 7/1/2009 9:02:10 AM | WTF???? You're nineteen??? It's often more intense in the beginning. It'll get better. more manageable. Really. I also find that if you control the symptoms it'll make your mood better. Eat lightly, exercise gently, get plenty of sleep, and I took Ibuprofin as soon as i felt a twinge. Did away with the cramps
Good luck dear
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Posted: 7/1/2009 12:30:10 PM | | OP, have you spoken to your family doctor about your PMS? Perhaps you could obtain a referral to a gynecologist and an endocrinologist for a thorough check up and blood work. There are options that your gyne can tell you about that can turn off PMS and a woman's period safely (Mirena). PMS and PMDD are both very real, but they both are successfully treatable. Good luck :) | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 12:35:26 PM | You're 19. What does your family expect of a 16-19 yr old girl?
PMS has always been, and always will be, a horrible excuse for female behavior. Men have even more severe hormone swings multiple times a week, and yet somehow we never blame our "daily" on things.
PMS is a bad excuse for an undeveloped or bad personality. Consider that for a bit. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 12:46:17 PM |
PMS has always been, and always will be, a horrible excuse for female behavior. Men have even more severe hormone swings multiple times a week, and yet somehow we never blame our "daily" on things.
PMS is a bad excuse for an undeveloped or bad personality. Consider that for a bit.
Well said Severin.  | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 12:47:44 PM | PMS is an excuse? Hardly! PMS and PMDD are both VERY REAL and I'm not ashamed to say I used to suffer from wicked PMS, but not anymore since I sought assistance from my gyne regarding it. There can be underlying medical conditions such as PCOS and endometriosis, which will worsen a woman's cycle and PMS. Consider that for a bit!!!!  | |
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| PMS apparently holds a hand in my relationships....
Posted: 7/1/2009 12:52:54 PM | I really thought that Guys "PMS" more then women do, which i can believe, because guys seem to be happy then disgusted.
:/ PMS is so real.
And i dont have an attitude problem, im actually a sweetie : ( | |
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| PMS apparently holds a hand in my relationships....
Posted: 7/1/2009 12:58:38 PM | you're missing the point- I'm not doubting that PMS is real, I'm suggesting that using PMS or other hormonal swings as an excuse for bad behavior is wrong.
Society has trained us for generations that 1) women are a 'fair' sex, and can't handle hardships, and thus 2) PMS is a hardship, a strain on their bodies and is a perfectly reasonable excuse for being b!tchy, crabby, cranky, fickle, or any number of flaky emotions.
And, again, I'm telling you- Men have even wilder, more severe hormonal swings which we've been conditioned to "just deal with it". If it's noticeable is besides the point- the point being *we don't blame hormonal swings for our actions*.
...so neither should you. You are not your PMS. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 1:03:30 PM | | Women DO NOT blame their hormones for their behaviour. Women can't handle hardships? We are the ones who bear children, men don't, so yeah we sure as heck can handle difficult situations and better than men too! You are the person here missing the point | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 1:52:41 PM | PMS is NOT used as an excuse by (most) women - It IS a very real, and for some - a Horrible experience. It is caused by Physical changes the womans body goes through in preparation for carrying a baby. Men do NOT go through these changes. Sure guys have hormonal fluctuations as well .. but to suggest that they go through "More" than women??? lmao .. go back to school. Seriously.
Women have ALL of the same hormones that men do - PLUS 2 extras - Estrogen and Progesterone. And yes .. yes we do have testosterone. If we didn't we'd never get horny .. and then Some of you would be mood swinging over that too! Women have those Extra hormones because we are the sex that have the babies! geezuz .. biology 101 ..
In my experience (and I have 51 years of it) .. it has NOT been women who've "Used PMS as an excuse" (like I said - yes some will and for good reason - complain about it) - It is usually Men who presume that when a woman is p'd off or has another mood that 'he' doesn't understand - the Male will make some comment like: "that time of the month dear?" .. or "she's PMS'ing" .. blahblahblah .. Any Excuse other than the Fact that she might have da**good reason to be p'd off at him! ..
Anyway .. the young woman who started this thread didn't do it so boys and girls could compete for who has it (hormonally) worse! . She did so looking for solutions. AND 19 is certainly Not young on the hormone train! Many girls start their periods at 9 or (albeit rarely) some even younger! .. P.M.S. - Pre-Menstrual Syndrome.
Here's an interesting link:
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts12578637.aspx
OVERVIEW:
Premenstrual Syndrome: PMS is a disorder characterized by a set of hormonal changes that trigger disruptive symptoms in a significant number of women for up to two weeks prior to menstruation. Of the estimated 40 million suffers, more than 5 million require medical treatment for marked mood and behavioral changes. Often symptoms tend to taper off with menstruation and women remain symptom-free until the two weeks or so prior to the next menstrual period. These regularly recurring symptoms from ovulation until menses typify PMS, premenstrual syndrome.
Characteristics
Over 150 symptoms have been attributed to PMS. After complaints of feeling "out-of-control", anxious, depressed and having uncontrollable crying spells, the most common complaints are headache and fatigue. But symptoms may vary from month to month and there may even be symptom-free months. No women present with all the PMS symptoms. Characteristically symptoms may be both physical and emotional. They may include physical symptoms as headache, migraine, fluid retention, fatigue, constipation, painful joints, backache, abdominal cramping, heart palpitations and weight gain. Emotional and behavioral changes may include anxiety, depression, irritability, panic attacks, tension,lack of co-ordination, decreased work or social performance and altered libido.
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Contrary to popular belief, the treatment of PMS dos not rely on tranquilizers and sedatives. Rather, the disease is caused by an excess of estrogen and a definiency of progesterone in the last two weeks of the woman's cycle.
Educate yourself - esp on things that are Health Related. Ignore the ignorant who 'blame' the person who is simply looking for appropriate solutions.
tsk tsk tsk ..
BComplex
Walk
NO Salt (1 week before onset)
Drink lots of warm water
NO MSG!!
Green leafy veggies
SUPPORT SUPPORT SUPPORT - From other women who KNOW of what they speak.
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