| Please explain Love
Posted: 7/1/2009 10:29:54 AM | It seems like we all are looking for that connection with someone, we spend our time on dating sites , fixing ourselves up to go out to clubs..
Is it love we seek or just companionship.
Is love a need or a want?
Is there such a thing as Unconditional love ?
What does love give you?
any thoughts ?
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Posted: 7/1/2009 10:41:12 AM | love is somewhere out there at the end of maslow's hierarchy of needs.
it means different things to different people but i don't think you can find it in a club. it could be a peak experience or merely a moment or two of debauchery, depending on one's own personal wants and/or needs.
unconditional love is a preposterous and worthless concept unless you're talking about children or animals, because adults are fully responsible for their behavior.
love doesn't "give me" anything, because it's a whole lot more fun for me to give it away. to a deserving object of my undying affection, that is.
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| Please explain Love
Posted: 7/1/2009 10:46:27 AM | 'love doesn't "give me" anything, because it's a whole lot more fun for me to give it away. to a deserving object of my undying affection, that is.'
Awww, just what I would have said but you beat me to it! :-)
I think the whole point of 'love' for me is that it is something you can't help BUT give, you can't help yourself doing things for the object of your feelings, you really don't care what you get back as long as she is happy then that in turn makes me happy. I'm quite sure there have been several poems written with far more insight than I could ever provide here :-) | |
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| Please explain Love
Posted: 7/1/2009 10:52:19 AM | Love is a want, or should be. If it is a need then the individual needs to spend some time thinking about why it's a need- what void are they trying to fill in their lives. A need is an unhealthy thing.
I believe in unconditional love, but in the sense that it's invoked- your partner/love doing things unhealthy towards you or the relationship, or even themselves, and you overlooking them simply for the love, well I think in that case unconditional love becomes a need, but sure I believe in it- it exists. Doesn't mean I agree with it.
Love, when I find it, you know, I can't even articulate what it may/not give me. Hmmm. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 10:52:22 AM | people can deny it all they want..but companionship is what most people want..they dont want to be alone..its just human nature to want to share your life with someone..of course its also important that we love the person we are with and vice versa...but companionship is the main thing we seek.
As for what "love" is...I don't know what the universal definition is...if there is one that is. For me I just want to have some to spend my life with...someone who cares about me and me for them...I just want to have the feeling of knowing there is someone that is looking out for me and being there for me and the other way around. I want to grow old with someone. | |
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| Please explain Love
Posted: 7/1/2009 10:53:26 AM | Darlin if we could explain "love" we would all be best selling authors making millions, sitting on a beach somewhere not posting on a free internet dating site forum for gawds sakes.
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| Please explain Love
Posted: 7/1/2009 10:57:24 AM | Love: A feeling of strong attachment induced by that which delights or commands admiration; preeminent kindness or devotion to another; affection; tenderness; as, the love of brothers and sisters.
Especially, devoted attachment to, or tender or passionate affection for, one of the opposite sex.
Courtship; -- chiefly in the phrase to make love, i. e., to court, to woo, to solicit union in marriage.
Affection; kind feeling; friendship; strong liking or desire; fondness; good will; -- opposed to hate; often with of and an object.
Due gratitude and reverence to God.
The object of affection; -- often employed in endearing address.
Cupid, the god of love; sometimes, Venus.
A thin silk stuff.
A climbing species of Clematis (C. Vitalba).
Nothing; no points scored on one side; -- used in counting score at tennis, etc.
To have a feeling of love for; to regard with affection or good will; as, to love one's children and friends; to love one's country; to love one's God.
To regard with passionate and devoted affection, as that of one sex for the other.
To take delight or pleasure in; to have a strong liking or desire for, or interest in; to be pleased with; to like; as, to love books; to love adventures. | |
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| Please explain Love
Posted: 7/1/2009 11:22:09 AM | Well, lone hawks posted most of it! But I'll say this..I don't believe in simply unconditional love, while there may well be moments of it, most times it's conditional at least in a relationship! As an example; To be in love with another you hope their in love with you too! And as pointed out in 1 Corinthians the word "hope" is used, and the defininition of hope is; a desired expectation.
Great post recently goes into this in depth..."And God said". | |
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| Please explain Love
Posted: 7/1/2009 11:26:04 AM | Lone Hawk:
Give me any plague, but the plague of the heart: and any wickedness, but the wickedness of a woman.
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| Please explain Love
Posted: 7/1/2009 12:47:43 PM | | ^^^it's also not being afraid to say "I'm sorry" | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 12:49:00 PM | | you can't explain love, as it means different things to others!! Of course its a want for companionship, nothing else. To feel loved and wanted is a basic need of society today. Unconditional love comes from children, love you for who you are, faults and all!! As to your question 'what does love give you'? from my children, great happiness!! from the other perspective, for me, havent found it yet! | |
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| Please explain Love
Posted: 7/1/2009 12:57:33 PM |
unconditional love is a preposterous and worthless concept unless you're talking about children or animals, because adults are fully responsible for their behavior.
Nice to finally see an intelligent response to "unconditional love." The problem, so many have a different concept to what that phrase actually means. Would you be in a relationship with a serial killer or someone who constantly had affairs with others, someone who treated you horribly?
As for Love, I think it's also a bit different for all. Maybe my feelings of love were selfish. If I gave her something or did something that made her smile, happy or put a sparkle in her eye, it filled my heart with happiness. | |
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| Please explain Love
Posted: 7/1/2009 1:00:42 PM | Boy meets girl they lives happily ever after.
Girl meets boy and buys 3378 pairs of shoes.
Wicked meets muffins...and the rest is history
or is it
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| Please explain Love
Posted: 7/1/2009 1:12:11 PM |
Love is never having to say I'm sorry.
I can see, given your posting history, why you would cling to this definition.
Either that or you have watched more than your quota of chick flicks for this month, lol. | |
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| Please explain Love
Posted: 7/1/2009 1:21:53 PM |
I can see, given your posting history, why you would cling to this definition.
Ah, Margo. What a delightful breath of fresh air was your last post. Oh, not so much due to its content, but instead the concise, controlled mastery of both the English language and and the Language of Lo-u-ove with which you uncharacteristically express yourself.
I bow down and say OOO to you, oh Oracle of the Obvious and Obtuse, for your knowledge has been gained at a heavy cost and all the greater the value as a result, for you obviously know all about having to say "I'm sorry." | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 1:35:15 PM | | Ah, beg to differ with you dbab, Love is being able to say "I'm sorry". | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 1:54:08 PM | Love is the absence of fear and spans all aspects of life. One cannot fear and love simultaneously. If fear exists, love is not present. We are born as loving creatures. A child or puppy loves unconditionally, as they have not learned fear. Look at those you know who are the least loving....they are consumed by the learned fears they have grown up with. As we learn about and understand our fears, we can realize that these are the obstacles to love. Remove the fear and love is there.
Think about this the next time you hesitate to write that email or commit to a date with a someone new. What holds you back is fear...what propels you forward....LOVE!  | |
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| Please explain Love
Posted: 7/1/2009 2:22:35 PM |
Is there such a thing as Unconditional love ?
I know you're not a religious person, but I think we can agree that love (like it says in the bible) is the greatest thing of all (1 Cor 13:13).
I think we all have the desire to love and be loved. We certainly all have the capacity, although some seem to less than others.
It sounds to me like you're asking what love really is. Like, you're aware that love is something you desire and hope for, yet for whatever reason, it is somehow elusive and you're unsure whether or not it's real.
So, perhaps you're asking, "Is love real?"
Yes, I believe that love is real. I believe that we can all experience real love, and we are capable of giving real love.
But, I don't think that human beings are capable of showing unconditional love without failing. We should all know ourselves well enough to realize that we're imperfect, and we fail to love as we should love...as we want to love....in the way we desire to be loved: unconditionally and without failure.
We all fail to love one another unconditionally.
Now, since you said you are nonreligious you can tune me out before reading further.
According to the Christian faith, God's love never fails. The only place human beings will ever experience complete and unconditional love and acceptance in through a personal relationship with God, through the means of the grace and forgiveness that He has provided: His Son Jesus Christ.
If anyone would like to know more about the gospel, or if they have questions about God and the bible, feel free to email me.
With love,
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| Please explain Love
Posted: 7/1/2009 3:01:19 PM | Love is an exploding cigar we willingly smoke. ~Lynda Barry
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired. ~Robert Frost
Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence. ~Eric Fromm
When love is not madness, it is not love. ~Pedro Calderon de la Barca
Love must be as much a light, as it is a flame. ~Henry David Thoreau
You know you're in love when you don't want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams. ~Dr. Seuss
Love Light Peace Magic and Miracles ~Enchanted8808~
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| Please explain Love
Posted: 7/1/2009 3:08:48 PM |
Is it love we seek or just companionship.
We is a pretty big population. Different people seek different things.
Some people seek the same things but think it's different. Some people seek different things that are really the same.
Is love a need or a want?
It's a subjective word that people will either add a positive or negative connotation to depending on how they feel or what they want to convey.
Is there such a thing as Unconditional love ?
There must be. There's vocabulary for it.
What does love give you?
A family card every christmas and some cologne on my birthday. But we've grown apart.
any thoughts ?
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| Please explain Love
Posted: 7/1/2009 3:22:40 PM | Love to me :
A very deep seated emotion that can overwhelm all logic, reason, and ability to act or think in an single person mode. It takes over all of me, to compel me to join with this other being, in an invisible web of emotions. For that male, my heart was only for him, and I saw no other. Until he removed the web as slowly and painfully as he could. So it died, shriveled, and was released, as he walked away. \
Love binds me to these (children) to protect, nurture, and invest all my possible time and talents. Until they are able to stand alone, in their own life..And they(children) then cut through the invisible webbing to create their own life. I suffer the pain of the cutting, and yet resound with pride and hope for their growth.
For my future,,my love waits in the depths, waiting to see if love will ever appear again.
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