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Posted: 7/1/2009 4:35:36 PM | Hi...getting a lot of pushy, strange guys...what's up? Too much, too little, too???
If I reply for a couple of emails and then back off some are VERY upset and downright not nice...I know I have a right to choose for myself. Maybe there is a way to do it? I try to be sensitive and polite...I don't know quite how to handle this.
I'm worried that it may have something to do with my profile or my picture...I would really appreciate some suggestions.
thanks for any feedback; i will take it with a stiff upper lip!
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Posted: 7/1/2009 4:38:43 PM | What profile? I suggest you go to the thread highlighted in green, where it shall assist in writing a profile.
And get more pics, too. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 5:17:52 PM | Well you do not have much in your profile but if I were a bit younger I would still want to chat with you.
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Posted: 7/1/2009 5:22:56 PM | The only major critique I can make right now is to drop the line about hating religious country music. We almost all hate religious country, but the minority who love it could include the guy you're looking for.
In fact, it probably will. Murphy's law. Luckily CDs of bad music will burn with a little lighter fluid, so it's not a huge problem. Is it? | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 5:27:20 PM | | got a sec? I changed it. I think its better.....you?? thanks soooo much. :) holly | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 5:58:33 PM | Well if I were 15 years younger, we would sell it all and be off.
I think you will do well.
All the best
Ron | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 6:30:23 PM | OP, here are my suggestions. First I would drop the "great friends and am busy" part. Everyone has friends, even great friends, unless you are a misanthrope and abhor social situations. Also everyone in the world is busy. With career, education, family, etc. You should add something revealing about yourself that will help a guy out in initiating conversation and even assisting you in attracting the right ones.
Second don't paint yourself negatively by stating that you are 10 pounds overweight. Personally I have nothing against your weight, since I prefer women with a little meat on them over the tooth pick Barbie dolls, but lot of men are picky about a woman's figure. Some will outright say it, others will not. In fact, you don't even need to mention your weight. You're beautiful just by pics alone.
Third, you can state specifics of music you enjoy and even throw in a favorite song or artist. Majority of people on this side of the galaxy love "all types of music". Be more descriptive.
Fourth, stop painting yourself negatively -- yet again -- by stating that you watch TV when you are sick or depressed. Think positive and relay the positive. Also it can be misconstrued that unless you are sick or depressed you will not watch TV. Plenty of guys, including myself, love watching the boob tube for various entertainment. Actually, a lot of people like watching TV.
Fifth, expand on what else you like about the city aside from the culture fix. This has the potential to be seen negatively that you only visit the city for cultural reasons and nothing else.
Sixth, about your original post on how you reply back to guys and then back off does send the wrong signal to guys that you are communicating with. Put yourself into their shoes, would you want someone that you are interested in to back off or disregard your messages after some communique has been established? I'll assume your answer is no. Therefore, it is understandable that these men get upset or even extremely hostile. You're on a dating site and people, at least the serious ones, are on here hoping to make some form of connection. Pulling the plug on an ongoing conversation is bad mojo. At least you can be honest to them that you are not interested anymore.
Finally, you sound like a decent woman with her head on straight, why are you so far away from me? I'd love to talk with you and have us get to know each other. And you are still young! | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 8:24:06 PM | wow I just wrote back a lovely response and where has it gone?
thank you thank you
and why are you so far away...? | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 9:12:15 PM | 1. Be glad that you are getting response, even from weirdos. Most guys here don't get anything period. A lot of women around your age are complaining about it.
2. I would take out the lines that talk about your weight, that doesn't sound confident.
3. Just people write hostile messages, just block them, big deal. Don't reply their message to begin with if you don't think he is the one.
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Posted: 7/2/2009 6:15:54 AM |
wow I just wrote back a lovely response and where has it gone?
Did you use the ampersand symbol? I found out that the site breaks when you use it in your post and refuses to post your message.
and why are you so far away...?
Well I'm in NYC and I have a car ;o) I'll just have to hop over a few of the Great Lakes to meet up with you | |
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