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Posted: 7/1/2009 6:26:19 PM | | I have had very, very little response to my profile, and most messages I have sent out go unanswered. If you could take a look and see then let me know what you think, I would greatly appreciate it. I hope I have written enough in this box, it keeps getting kicked back because my message must have at least 200 characters in it to be accepted by the computer... thanks | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 6:32:14 PM | Pictures taken by oneself never turn out well.
It's very well done to be honest.
Although personally I wouldn't write back (irregardless of age) because you don't look your best in those pictures, and the Renaissance Fair, paranormal and bellydancing just pit me right off. But that's just personal. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 6:37:48 PM | | You are interested in things that require intelligence and substance and you don't have full body pics of yourself, waaaaaaaaay too many closeups of your face, one good one is enough. Other than not your profile is fine. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 6:42:35 PM | OP, you are an attractive woman, so cut down on the face shots. One, maybe two, is good. The rest, should be of you out and about, with friends, places, etc. Show the world that you exist beyond your walls of your own home.
Your profile is good, but seems compressed with information. Expand on some concepts, such as your interest of the paranormal. You may peak the interest of a ghost hunting passer-by.
Finally, be more descriptive in what you are looking for. Don't be afraid to be specific, since you know what you want. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 6:57:49 PM | hmmm... I always pass on the profiles with the separated status.... I tried dating while separated and my best advice is ~ finalize one thing before starting something new!
good luck and have fun at the Tut exhibit! | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 7:18:51 PM | Thanks guys, much appreciated.. I will delete some of the face photos and try to find some outdoorsie, action shots. Being more specific in what I am looking for is a good suggestion. As far as being of a separated status, it is what it is right now... and I want to be honest about it...
You are all sweethearts for taking the time... thanks again. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 7:27:16 PM | | If you're going to leave the "Separated", it might not be a bad idea to write a sentence or two about your situation. Just enough to make it clear where you are and where you're heading. Personally, I see "Separated", and I think, "Drama". Court fights with the ex, the ex mooning around trying to get her back, the ex coming by and slashing my tires or inviting me outside with him and a few of his drunk buddies... | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 7:59:32 PM | One thing that jumped out at me is the inconsistency of how you format your paragraphs. Some are double spaced and some are single spaced. I would keep them all double spaced to make it flow more easily and be more even on the eyes.
I also agree on the pictures front. Self-taken pictures rarely work out to your advantage. Get a friend to take pictures of you and try not to have them all inside. Outside pictures breath life into a profile. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2009 8:42:42 PM | I agree with the picture comments people have posted. I would get a better head shot as well. The ones you have right now are very washed out, not to mention the lighting is pretty poor.
I would also take out the first sentence. It has grammatical error (it should be "I like them tall & smart" not "I like um tall and to have smarts"), which makes you sound stupid, especially if you are asking for a smart man. The first sentence also makes you sound like you are asking for a lot.
No offense, but a intelligent, tall, witty, funny, educated, handsome man is not going to want to date you. You are 45 years old, a few extra pound, not very tall (4'5" is pretty average), not very intelligent ( you only have an associate degree), not to mention you have a kid, which makes you high maintenance. You are not in the position to ask for a lot. You are not the greatest looking, and you also have a lot of drama & luggage behind you.
I would also rewrite and have someone proof read your profile description, especially if you want a smart guy. There are typo, grammatical error, & oxymoron everywhere, which would be a big turn off in the eyes of a smart man.
Changing your status from "dating" to "long term" would help you as well. Most guys around your age want to find their soul mates & settle down, not dating.
Also, lower your standard. Your low response rate could also have to do with who you contacted. If you only message tall, smart, educated, humorous, handsome young man, of course you you won't get any response. You should be looking for someone around your age, slightly over weight, a bit bald, and wears a pair of nerdy glasses and mustache. If you want to raise your standard, lose some weight, get a master degree, put on some make ups & sexy dress, & seal the deal with your ex & kids. Until then, live with what you can get. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 1:57:26 AM | Hi gladgrad,
I think your profile is very nicely written - if you lived in my neck of the woods, I would certainly drop you a line :)
If I had to be *really* nit-picky, all I would say is that you left the 'e' out of Stonehenge. Also, (I know this has been said before), get some pics of you out and about.
You come across as being friendly and having a good attitude towards life. I am sure you will be fine.
All the very best to you.
J | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 2:13:31 AM | I know you are asking for mens opinions but I thought i could help....You seem like a lovely and aattractive girls...but i do see afew mistakes u make.
The second pid, appears that u r in your pjs. This is not cool...unless they r sey pjs....in other words.. u r there in pjs like from target and guys are not attracted to that.
not saying post sexy pics, just dont post yourself in unsexy pjs
Also... u begn ur profile talking first about your impending divorce. Guys dont wanna hear about your 'baggage' right away. PLEASE dont take that wrong way
Men love....mystery and the unattainable. Let them work for it. They WANT to. | |
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