| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/2/2009 6:33:14 AM | | I get alot of emails from guys who never even read my profile. I am sure we are all guilty of being attracted to a hottie or someone really attractive yet if there is no personality what good is the package without substance? A profile can't tell the whole story as we all have found out. Some are honest and some are not. Most are not. What makes you email someone? looks or profile? | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/2/2009 7:00:53 AM | what makes me click on a profile is looks - there are some specific types of man that just don't do it for me, so I don't bother with heir profile.
I figure you've got to scan their profile to send a message anyway, so why not read a little and see if you even think the guy might be interesting?
Guys see to be a different story though! | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/2/2009 7:02:28 AM | | A lot of them do not read. Look at my profile..and then I get e mails that say "hi, tell me more about you". They simply look at the pictures and e mail. I think most people e mail mainly over looks. For ME...I do BOTH. but there better be a hell of a good reason for me to e mail a man first...and I normally will not. I have met quite a few off here and really can only vouch for one being honest. And unfortunatly, he does not live in Florida. Be careful on here. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/2/2009 7:43:30 AM | PROFILE, Profile, profile. Without a question it is the profile that attracts me first.
As I've stated elsewhere in these forums the looks are unimportant in my wanting to contact them. If they have that "certain look" but not what I'm interested in in their written profile, I don't contact them.
If they have qualities I'm looking for in their profile but not that "look" in their picture, I contact them.
If they have qualities I'm looking for in their profile but no picture, I contact them.
My best preference is the last one.
I fully agree with the OP in "what good is the package without substance" if all someone wants is for the looks, most probably they are seeking a night session not LTR.
Noteworthy also is, I do not judge fully on how long written their profile is. I've responded to ones that had few words but the ideas were thought provoking or they shared common interests with me.
The photo may be misleading more than the profile.
I've found it easier to doctor or fake a photo then falsely communicate with words.
Easier to be misled by an image then by a mind.
I've known very physically attractive people to be ugly on the inside.
I've never found a beautiful person inside to appear ugly to me. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/2/2009 8:03:10 AM | If I'm not attracted to her looks, then her profile is irrelevant.
However, I always read the profile, and there are things in there that will affirm the attraction, or totally turn me off, starting with where she lives.
Of course, I don't send a lot of random "first contact" emails. If I were one of those people sending 20 or more "form emails" every day, I probably wouldn't have time to read the profiles carefully.
In any case, in terms of initial attraction, looks come first. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/2/2009 8:07:51 AM | I'm sure the degree is different from one person the next but for most it is "Oooo! Hello!" or "OOOooo! Goodbye!"
A lot of them do not read. Look at my profile..and then I get e mails that say "hi, tell me more about you". They simply look at the pictures and e mail. I think most people e mail mainly over looks. For ME...I do BOTH. but there better be a hell of a good reason for me to e mail a man first...and I normally will not. I have met quite a few off here and really can only vouch for one being honest. And unfortunatly, he does not live in Florida. Be careful on here.
There is much to be said on how you present yourself also. It is a free country but that does not translate into anyone not being taken advantage of or seriously. We all have some level of accountability and responsibility to discern sh1t from shinola. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/2/2009 8:36:05 AM | I'll admit it - picture first.
SHALLOW ALERT: if I see a full head of hair I'll always go to the profile. Bald or balding? Not so much. But I'm really bad about reading the actual profile. My family always jokes that you HAVE to get me a birthday card with under 3 lines of copy or I won't read it - and they're right. I check all the basics - age, marital status, smoking status, and if they have kids under 18.
Then I'll force myself to skim the rest - but I don't like doing it, dammit.  | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/2/2009 9:33:00 AM | | Humans have the nasty habit of basing their first impression on looks so we skip the profile. They drop a person a line and assume that he or she is nice. In actuality they may be a total a-hole. People don't realize that some are gold diggers, cheaters, liars etc etc. Personally, I read the entire profile because I don't want someone who'll treat me like crap. Anyone who soley bases their impressions on looks may be missing a diamond in the rough and the rough's name is an "average joe." Social Darwinism at it's finest. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/2/2009 10:13:57 AM | | Okay, if someone says they emailed you because of what you had to say, they're lying! Everyone knows both men and women are interested in looks first. If you can't kiss them, why date them, right. That's just a fact of life. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/2/2009 10:31:28 AM | | I changed my profile recently because most don't read it. Granted it was close to War and Peace, I actually had to shorten it, but now I just have a generic profile of cliches. I'm trying to blend in for the masses. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/2/2009 10:39:18 AM | | Forums~ that is why I say all I can about me, my hobbies and my lifestyle. You would be shocked (or maybe not) at the amount of mail I get, and people asking me about me...to me it shows they simply did not READ . I have my own doubts about some people, but most of that cannot be determined until I meet them in person. And yes, some people do say a crock of BS ...I have met a few of those too. In general, if people would look at pics and read a profile, it would make a first e mail a heck of a lot better than making it look as if they cannot read. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/2/2009 10:40:44 AM | Profile.
I don't see how people could send emails on looks alone.
I don't give a fly fig how fine a guy is. If his profile is pure crap, I haven't got the slightest interest. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/2/2009 10:42:30 AM | Pitch Blease said "I changed my profile recently because most don't read it. Granted it was close to War and Peace, I actually had to shorten it, but now I just have a generic profile of cliches. I'm trying to blend in for the masses."
Don't succumb to the masses. Stick to you guns. If we all lower to the wrong mindsets we have nothing better to expect from them.
Lets raise the bar and bring them up with us. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/2/2009 10:52:13 AM |
What makes you email someone?
Wanting a date.
looks or profile?
Pictures for fun, then profile for reason to seriously email.
They combine together in my head to determine probable success of communication.
if there is no personality what good is the package without substance?
The package can still be used for something.
There's no such thing as a lack of substance. Just not what is expected, hoped for, desired, or to the depth needed (or wanted).
A profile can't tell the whole story as we all have found out.
Neither can a picture. Nothing on the internet can tell the whole story of a person.
Some are honest and some are not.
None are honest in an absolute sense.
I would say some people believe their profile is honest, whereas other people know their profile is not.
As a side I think the question is kind of funny. Do you believe the people that don't read profiles read the forums? | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/2/2009 1:29:04 PM | | I read profiles and I make it clear to people I send messages to that I'm interested, it's up to the receiver if they want to get to know me. If they want to talk to me and get to know me that's coo, if not I just keep moving. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/2/2009 1:46:21 PM | | Looks usually first and foremost, then the profile. If the person looks attractive, but the profile is only or two sentences, I usually skip over it because there's not much to start a conversation on other than "Gee, you look really purty". | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/2/2009 2:28:14 PM | Good pics are typically always what are going to capture your interest initially. I think we're all guilty of that - there's nothing wrong with it. I've never reached out to someone without having read her profile and at least trying to get a sense of who it is I'm messaging.
I'm sure we've all had many occasions where we were drawn to someone's photos, only to realize there wasn't much in the profile - maybe a couple of lines - once clicking on it. Kinda difficult writing to someone and commenting on something within their profile that you liked, were drawn to or thought you had in common when they haven't left much, if anything, for you to work with.
In the same vein, I might find I'm really attracted to someone's photos, yet they've written the entire profile in CAPS. I never bother looking any further whenever I see that and simply move on. | |
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