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Posted: 7/2/2009 8:38:34 AM | I joined this site just last week...have had tons of responses... and I've contacted a couple of guys...but I've had no GOOD luck...
MOST of the men are just looking for a quick 'hook-up'... It doesn't matter what their profile says... or what they tell you in the messages... THAT is all they're after...I'm NOT interested in that... I am also NOT looking for anything too serious right now...mostly dating and sharing activities...but since when did that started to mean JUST HAVING SEX!??!?
I'm honest in how I described myself... and my pictures are fairly new... about 2 months old... UNLIKE some people that post pix from 6 and 7 years ago...
Just last night I was supposed to meet this GREAT guy... or so I thought... we've been talking here and over the phone for a week... seemed like the right time... turns out when I told him I was at a club with my gf's (he was working till midnight!) he asked me to bring one of them with me for a 3some!!!! WE HAD NEVER discussed s-e-x in our conversations... we FLIRTED yes...but NEVER to that extent...when I said NO WAY...he never responded back... and I KNOW what that means...I'm NOT trying to find an excuse for him... like 'oh, maybe he was busy at work', or 'his phone might have died'... I have read some girls' 'FANTASIES' here...where they give the guys the benefit of the doubt... THIS ONE is a total JERK who still thinks women are just for playing and that's all...
So, please...let me have it... WHAT can/should/must I change about my profile? WHAT THE HECK am I posting there that is so badly misconstrued?
Laughing at myself and STILL fishing!!!    | |
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| I need a MAN's HONEST opinion...Ladies... You can tell it to me straight!! LOL!
Posted: 7/2/2009 8:50:25 AM | I always used to say 'It's not fair a woman is being judged on the way she dresses on the pictures on her profile, but on what she says'. And a male friend of mine here replied 'Really? Do you honestly think if I posted a picture with my c0ck hanging out, you think women will look and think 'He must be a really nice guy looking for a long-term relationship!'.'
And I did get his point. You are a lovely looking lady, but your dresses on some of the pics might get the men all hot and bothered under the collar and they won't even read your profile. They'll only have one thing on the mind.
I'm not saying cover up, by no means at all, nor are your pics the worst I've seen regarding that, but certain pictures do attract certain men. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 9:17:01 AM | Hey I gonna give you my honest opinion. Your profile is great as it is. To improve it you shoud first put your age on there because I know your not 103 unless your vampire lol. Secondly I would suggest that you put in some of your dreams and aspirations but remember to leave something for people to learn about, not that you can put it all in that one box but you should know when its too much. Hey honestly if those are your pics I think your hot!!!! So you shouldn't worrie about finding someone maybe they'll find you first. Finnaly if something seems almost too good to be true it probably is, not saying that you don't deserve great things but from your bad experiance I would say give a guy more time before giving out your # or even going on a date. Giving it out too early is a sure sign of weakness and guys will eat you the hell up out there. Give it time but if you think you really like the person keep it fun and interesting. There's someone out there for everyone give it time. You can do a reveiw of my page if you like and don't go easy on me I'll take it like a man.............  | |
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| I need a MAN's HONEST opinion...Ladies... You can tell it to me straight!! LOL!
Posted: 7/2/2009 9:19:30 AM | Hanneke... yes, I get what you're saying...but I've also found that if I were to post ONLY pics where I'm covered (like the ones in the mountains) I would NOT get ANY responses!!!
Have you SEEN some of the ladies' profiles on here? Bikinis, beds, swimming pools, etc...
Well, I'm gonna take your advice and try to take new pix this weekend... and post those... let's see how it goes next week...
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Posted: 7/2/2009 9:21:54 AM | The ratio of men to women on here is 10 to 1 or worse.
The ratio of dogfish to good catches is likely 100 to 1.
It's a simple numbers game. There are good men out here, but the vast majority are looking to scratch an itch. That's the sad reality.
I have to back up what is being said about what you are accentuating.
The most hilarious profile I read has a title saying that 'playas' needed to stay away - yet it's a picture of her grinning while bending forward and letting her 'girls' (as she put it) out for display. Yeah, I'm sure she'll find exactly what she's looking for 
Anyway - you catch what you fish for and you're probably using the wrong bait with your pics.
2 cents
Do you honestly think if I posted a picture with my c0ck hanging out, you think women will look and think 'He must be a really nice guy looking for a long-term relationship!'.'
I SOOOOO need to give that a shot... | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 9:32:23 AM | Thanks for your reply also siderite and abitmore!!!
siderite...you're VERY generous in your reply...but if a guy GIVES me his number after talking on here for a few days, and I feel comfortable with our conversations, I don't see anything wrong with calling or giving them MY #... After all, I KNOW what I want... and I believe A WEBSITE OR A PIECE OF PAPER can hold ANYTHING you put into it... but an actual LIVE CONVERSATION, you know...the OLD FASHIONED WAY... is ALWAYS better!!! 
Ok... of course I'm NOT 103... but why would the ACTUAL NUMBER make a difference... obviously people can tell I'm NOT 20...but I'm NOT 60 either...
Some guys put me right between 35 and 45... WHICH IS JUST PERFECT!!!
I feel POF should be a bit more lenient towards asking a woman her age... Would a guy you just meet ask you that straight off the bat? I think not, ladies...
Anyway...I'll will fess up right here... I'm 45...there... I've said it... Now what do you think of that? | |
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| I need a MAN's HONEST opinion...Ladies... You can tell it to me straight!! LOL!
Posted: 7/2/2009 9:35:36 AM | Ok, ok, ok... since I HAD to check out YOUR profile 'cause I liked your pic... and I LIKED what you wrote...I'm DEF. gonna take new pics this weekend...
Could it also be that I MOSTLY look for Hispanic men? Yes, I know... I HAVE to break out of that pattern...
Thanks for your response pratch!!!
I KNOW no one will believe me...but this is the FIRST and ONLY picture I have of me posing that way... Never thought it would create such a fuss!!! | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 9:54:34 AM | I wanted to respond on your profile as to not 'highjack' this thread...but it wouldn't let me 'cause I'm TOO OLD for you!!!
Si, entiendo que a los gringos pueden ser encantadores... But I had a HUGE crush on my gringo neighbor about 40 years ago and he broke my heart...he moved away... I think that's why I stick to hispanics... at least I KNOW they're mostly dogs!!!!
So, I've removed my yellow dress pic... let's see how this one fares... 
Have a safe and fun 4th of July, everyone!!!  | |
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| I need a MAN's HONEST opinion...Ladies... You can tell it to me straight!! LOL!
Posted: 7/2/2009 11:00:27 AM | I don't think your issue is the picture or your profile. The issue is the dummuses that are being disrespectful to you. I've heard the same complaint from a lot of women on here Hollywood. Don't take it personal. You have to figure if you're ever going to find that special someone, you're going to have to put yourself out there to be found. And you are doing just that. So you have to put up with some BS.
The only pointers I can come up with is.
1. Spell it out. I see you listed no discreet encounters etc., but you may want to include something in your profile that says " I am not on this site looking for a sex, so if that's what you are looking for, don't waste your time". Good grief, women don't need websites to find sex.
2. I found out that activities partner has a negative connotation attached to it. When I first came on POA I listed activities partner as something I was interested in. Then I started noticing a lot of profiles saying "must not be looking for an activities partner". So I polled around and found out that activities partner for many refers to sex. Geee, I thought the activitity was bowling, concerts, hiking or something like that. Anyway, I changed mine just to be on the safe side.
Good luck Hollywood. | |
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| I need a MAN's HONEST opinion...Ladies... You can tell it to me straight!! LOL!
Posted: 7/3/2009 1:01:50 PM | WOW...I guess you DO learn something new every day... and here I am being VERY NAIVE thinking that 'activities partner' meant someone to go to the movies with, or go kayaking, or to the gym, or rock climbing... HOW STUPID do I feel!!?!!??!?! 
OK, so time to change that also...and SPECIFY what I'm looking for even MORE!!!! 
Thanks, guys!!!! Going back to look for more  | |
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| I need a MAN's HONEST opinion...Ladies... You can tell it to me straight!! LOL!
Posted: 7/3/2009 6:01:15 PM | | like a couple of the dudes were saying on here. most guys that are on online sites are looking for sex and feel that talkin' 2 a girl on here is easier because he doesn't have 2 be quickwitted or anythin' 2 that affect and doesn't even have 2 dress up 4 it. he has time to think about what he wants 2 say and all that good stuff. dude seemed cool and then brought up the 3-some, are u sure he wasn't joking? if he wasn't joking there were prob things he said b4 that gave him away and u just don't remember because they were subtle. for 1, if i guy is playin' u...and feels he has u, he's not gonna screw things up outta the blue and do somethin' stupid...there's usually a pattern. if he was a genuously nice guy then maybe there are certain circumstances goin' on, maybe he does have 2 work...neva know. you're pics are fine and u look very attractive but just know that when you're tryin' 2 meet peeps online that you're goin' 2 get a good amount of pervs...this isn't church, the supermarket or the library...most dudes are online here 2 get laid. i'm not sayin' i'm an angel, on here...i'm really picky but at same time i'm pretty honest and tell it how it is. if a girl is boring 2 me or whateva...i'm not gonna screw her and then not talk 2 her anymore. just keep your eyes and ears open. | |
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| I need a MAN's HONEST opinion...Ladies... You can tell it to me straight!! LOL!
Posted: 7/3/2009 9:33:21 PM | Too many filters. Limiting folks that can e-mail you.
good luck fishin'!
Male
Age between 35 and 45
Live in United States
Live within 75 miles.
Must not have messaged users looking for intimate encounters or sex.
You must have a picture to contact this user.
Must not be looking for Other Relationship
Must not be looking for Intimate Encounter
Must not be looking for Activity Partner
Must not do drugs
Must not be married
Must not smoke | |
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| I need a MAN's HONEST opinion...Ladies... You can tell it to me straight!! LOL!
Posted: 7/3/2009 11:06:45 PM | So no one's gonna mention this:
"A perfect first date for me would be to just take a stroll on the beach at sunset...I'll bring a blanket and a picnic basket and we can just hang out there all night...how does that sound?"
If you say that your perfect first date involves "hanging out all night", you're gonna attract guys who wanna spend the night with you! | |
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| I need a MAN's HONEST opinion...Ladies... You can tell it to me straight!! LOL!
Posted: 7/3/2009 11:19:09 PM | | alright.. ya know somethin.. ive been on here looking for a decent guy for a little while now.. and i can tell you it isnt your profile or that you have too many filters... you are sooo allowed to PICK who you want to reply to based off of what you like. because come on lets face it people... attraction is a big deal.. and i have a lot of things that i really dont like.. i get hit up by guys just for that bs too.. and you just have to ignore it, keep your head up and move on... or if you feel like you need to reply tell them to hit up craigs list.. thats what that nonsense is for... but really its not you... or youre page.. its like that guy said.. its a numbers game... theres going to be a good one at the end of all the trash and wasted time.. you just have to wade through the men that are seemingly wasting your time... moreover dont let them... if you think thats all hes after be blunt... just ask him.. if he is good riddance and if hes not... hopefully.. then maybe hes worth a date or a phone number... but you deserve exactly what you want.. never ever settle!! | |
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| I need a MAN's HONEST opinion...Ladies... You can tell it to me straight!! LOL!
Posted: 7/4/2009 3:27:57 PM | Hi... lilcha0s2 ... thanks for your reply.. Well, let me explain a bit more about that guy... We had been flirting over here and on the phone... yes, I admit it...that is something I ENJOY...but it was very subtle... nothing nasty... just fun stuff...nothing sexual...but double entendres, yes... I don't think he was KIDDING when he said to bring the other girl over...because as soon as I responded No way...he dissappeared... I know he was working until late that night...he's cop...and when he called me I could hear the dispatcher in his car... there is absolutely nothing I did... it was all him... I know that... I do not look for excuses for certain types... Unfortunately, it comes with the territory... Most cops I know in person are into playing like that... (I know the cops because in my job I need to hire police escorts something for different events) The have women all over the place...and would think nothing of doing that and much more... so I knew as soon as he mentioned it that it would be the end of our conversations...but that's fine.. It's his loss...not mine...
GMan85615...thanks for your reply also...but those are the things I like and don't like... there's nothing I can do... I do not want people that are into stuff I don't like to contact me...
erolyn... You hit the nail on the head, girl...thanks for your honest reply... I think exactly the same... but I'm in no hurry... so...I'll be on here till I meet my little | |
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| I need a MAN's HONEST opinion...Ladies... You can tell it to me straight!! LOL!
Posted: 7/4/2009 3:39:20 PM |
WOW... I just learned something new...and I NEED to specify here what I'm EXACTLY looking for...
NO SEX ON THE FIRST 'CHAT' OR 'ENCOUNTER'... I have had tons of responses to my profile, but MOST men JUST WANT a HOOK-UP...and I'm NOT looking for that... AND NO 'ACTIVITIES' PARTNER... I know I'm gonna sound stupid and NAIVE...but I thought that meant someone to go hiking with, or rock climbing, or any kind of regular ACTIVITY one might do with a partner NOT including SEX...
I've also removed one particular picture that seemed to scream to you guys that I was looking to 'get in trouble' which was NOT my intention whatsoever... I mean, I'm no PRUDE, if we get along and something develops... I would probably be the first one to entice YOU to be BAD...but the picture was apparently sending the absolute WRONG message...
I'd lose all of that.
Any guy who thinks he can get sex on a first date isn't going to be dissuaded, just as "no liars or players" isn't going to keep liars and players away. And a bigger problem is, after you go through all of the "no sex" stuff, you know you're sounding "prudish", and try to "fix" that... which just re-fuels the "bad" guys to think, "Oh, yeah, all of that was for those other losers who can't get any, but I'm the master pimp, she's saying she'll put out for the right guy, and here I am!"
A first meeting should never be at a club, or anywhere that's loud or that encourages lots of drinking. You should be trying to get to know who that person is and what makes them tick. You should be talking, listening, asking and answering questions. There'll still be guys who message you for a "hook up". You can't stop that. Just hit the Block button and move on. But putting on a big production about "No sex!" is just going to be a challenge to the players. And if you lay it on too thick, the rest of us may figure you have some kind of hangup and will just move on.
Let's put it this way... is what you consider to be a "decent guy" going to be looking for sex during chat or at a first meeting? Probably not. So let them shoot themselves in the foot. Plan first meetings for a short but open-ended period of time, nearby, at a public place. Heck, ask a girlfriend to call you 15 minutes in so you have a ready-made excuse to beg off if you need to. When some dude acts like a jackass, that isn't an indictment against you or guys in general. It means that one guy was a**** Block him, and move on. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 3:47:17 PM |
Hi... lilcha0s2 ... thanks for your reply.. Well, let me explain a bit more about that guy... We had been flirting over here and on the phone... yes, I admit it...that is something I ENJOY...but it was very subtle... nothing nasty... just fun stuff...nothing sexual...but double entendres, yes... I don't think he was KIDDING when he said to bring the other girl over...because as soon as I responded No way...he dissappeared... I know he was working until late that night...he's cop...and when he called me I could hear the dispatcher in his car... there is absolutely nothing I did... it was all him... I know that...
You sound like you're disappointed that he "disappeared". Frankly, you ought to be glad. What, did you think he would apologize and banish all such thoughts from his head? No way. If you let him hang around after pulling that stunt, he'd just be thinking he needed to time it better.
GMan85615...thanks for your reply also...but those are the things I like and don't like... there's nothing I can do... I do not want people that are into stuff I don't like to contact me...
I know where you're coming from here. I had a similar "wall of restrictions", and everyone said that it was simply too forbidding. I figure that, by whittling it down to half the size, my profile appears a little more inviting, and I can still just block anyone who starts making bizarre requests | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 4:42:32 PM | Hi, johninsd... thanks for your reply also... I am not dissapointed in the fact that he dissapeared...but I am dissapointed that we were talking here and on the phone for over a week....and I didn't catch anything wrong with him before then... the fact that I decided a first meeting in a club was OK... was because we were there with a bunch of people...and I felt safer that way... already had a built in excuse if I didn't like him...and so did he... that's all... Plus, I thought... if we BOTH do like each other... and wanted to talk without all the noise... we could always go and sit outside the restaurant and do just that... (it's not a So. Beach club... this was more of a restaurant/martini bar type of place...)
Ok... so I took down what you suggested...I changed it up quite a bit... let me see about 'whittling it down' a little...
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Posted: 7/4/2009 4:49:19 PM | | Seems like a good profile to me. Nice, flattering picture that brings out your best physical features and a well rounded written account of yourself. I'm sure you will get some attention - it seems that there is a proportion of men/boys out there who just want to send suggestive emails, most women complain about this so don't take it personally, its just because you have a hint of clevage on display! | |
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