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| Why are woman such a one way street
Posted: 7/2/2009 11:28:52 AM | | Woman say they want love want to be judged from the inside, want truth........ But, can they give the same? How can you be looking for your night in shinning armor and a longterm realationship, if you have more than o favorites? Favorite = Preferred above all, which means 1. How do you know your not passing up love, if you dont indolge in conversation? Do you believe that you can find love with just a picture and a paraghraph? | |
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| Why are woman such a one way street
Posted: 7/2/2009 11:32:09 AM | | Hi, I don't think there's any way you can see how many people a person has selected as a favourite - what you see is how many people have selected her/him as one of their favourites. There is no control over this - I have chaps who have never spoken to me (selection criteria probably) who have listed me as a favourite, some from on the other side of the world. On the other hand, I've only got a couple of "favourites" myself, and you won't see that..... | |
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| Why are woman such a one way street
Posted: 7/2/2009 11:44:40 AM | I have favourited 4 people..all of whom are from the forums.
There happens to be 3 men on there..all from the USA and one female from Australia.
They are friends and I won't be dating any of them as I am from the UK.
I clear out the list of those who have favourited me who I don't know and have no contact with. | |
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| Why are woman such a one way street
Posted: 7/2/2009 11:57:46 AM | I have men and woman favorites that are from all over the world. They are friends and not romantic interests.
People will use their favorites in the way they choose to. You will not find them all making their selections based on your one person rule. Favorite may mean different things to different people beyond your interpretation.
Yes ,woman can give you the same interest but remember that not every person you seek out will be interested in return. Rejection is part of the process here. Just suck it up and move on to the next person you may have some success with.
I do not believe you can find love with a picture and a paragraph... but you can find attraction. The spark that leads to something more. That something more is the conversation, meeting and getting aquainted. Not everybody will want to talk to you here. Get a thick skin and don't take it to heart and internalize it. Try not to tar every woman with the same brush either. Just keep fishing and hope for the best. | |
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| Why are woman such a one way street
Posted: 7/2/2009 11:59:12 AM | I don't know why men trip over this. Favorites mean nothing. If you were to have a favorite in the sense that you are speaking of, then no one would be on here with a favorite showing. Once you had that fav, poof you'de be gone.
As another said the number of favorites that show at the bottom of the page have nothing to do who WE are interested in. I feel like if you take them off it's like a slap in the face, -"You're not good enough to find something about me interesting." How rude would that be?
If a guy has a well written profile that jives with me a decent pics then yes I indulge in convo. He doesn't have to be a hottie. The problem is most men don't take the time to write a nice profile so why should I take them seriously? (not that I'm looking for anyone right now.)
Stop putting so much emphasis on the favorites thing guys. Life's too short to sweat the small stuff. | |
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| Why are woman such a one way street
Posted: 7/2/2009 12:01:34 PM | Please learn to do a thread search before posting nonsense like this.
Go search for favorites OK? Good grief...
if you have more than o favorites? Favorite = Preferred above all
Favs here in general serve two main purposes
1) Its just a bookmark. So you can find them to correspond quickly. Tons here in the forums do it so we can see who is on line and see their last posts. Most the people I correspond with regularly (and there are a TON of people I email daily) are on my favs so I can find them quickly.
2) Its a way to "wink" at someone. To have them look at your profile to initiate contact.
1. How do you know your not passing up love, if you dont indolge in conversation? Do you believe that you can find love with just a picture and a paraghraph? You scare me even talking like this.
Being on favs doesnt keep you from talking to anyone. It makes it easier to contact them. And being on favs has nothing to do with "love".
PLEASE learn to do a thread search here before posting. Go and search for favorites.
I have dated several gals on here on over 500 favs. They are not in love with 500 guys they are not talking to 500 guys...
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| Why are woman such a one way street
Posted: 7/2/2009 12:03:36 PM | OP: The number of favorites most people have is not relevant to what their intentions are. Point being UNTIL and only UNTIL you weed out all of the potentials you can/will have as many "favorites" as your heart desires. Unless there are those that aren't seeking a LTR and just here to stroke their egos and "play" with many.
Don't get caught up with this - it's nonsense and means nothing. Put more interest on how the woman acts/talks to you, and then you will have a better sense of her true intentions.
Best,
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| Why are woman such a one way street
Posted: 7/2/2009 12:08:56 PM | | This almost sounds like a "I'm a nice guy, why cant I get a response" thread. Whats with all the night in shining armor, passing up love, crap? This is a way to meet people, not a bride catalog. | |
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| Why are woman such a one way street
Posted: 7/2/2009 12:19:10 PM | You do know there generally is more than one definition for a word and the cyber world has created even more, right? Multiple favorites at POF mean at most that a person has found an attribute about those persons they like, such as appreciating their posts.
I don't believe in finding love online. I believe in finding opportunities to eventually become better acquainted which may lead to friendship or more. I also believe I know a pessimistic personality when I see (read) one. | |
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| Why are woman such a one way street
Posted: 7/2/2009 12:24:14 PM | *CRIES* oh no, the girl I am interested in has other guys talking to her, what will I do?
Yes, its a "Nice Guy" thread, and not so cleverly disguised.
If I know a girl is talking to multiple guys at the same time as me, I let her go out with them first, because I love to hear the war stories, and I always tell her she saved the best for last. | |
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| Why are woman such a one way street
Posted: 7/2/2009 12:45:24 PM | | They do converse... just not with you. OK. Got it. No one makes a site and then blocks out 100%. True, some are picky... they will block 99%... but hey... they are entitled to wait patiently for that %1 they are really interested in. | |
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| Why are woman such a one way street
Posted: 7/2/2009 12:56:59 PM | | I think it is interesting to note that for every 1000 women vs men, far more men will talk to far more women than the other way around. It is almost as if a women will not correspond to a man at all unless they feel it could actually lead to something. | |
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| Why are woman such a one way street
Posted: 7/2/2009 3:25:40 PM |
It is almost as if a women will not correspond to a man at all unless they feel it could actually lead to something.
You have a problem with this?? Seems rather logical on a dating site, doesn't it?
If racking up pen pals is your cup of tea, that's your prerogative. Don't expect it to be a popular plan, though. | |
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| Why are woman such a one way street
Posted: 7/2/2009 3:59:36 PM | | I favorite my friends so I can find them faster too. Anyone in your faves can post comments about you so it's a good idea to favorite people you've gone out with but did not connect with so they can leave a nice comment at least. | |
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| Why are woman such a one way street
Posted: 7/2/2009 4:02:45 PM | Although this is a dating site, dating is a social interaction. You socialize, you meet
friends. You add them to your favs to bookmark them. Men add me to their favs and
I routinely go in and remove the ones who are not friends, etc. It's a good tool to have
express interest in someone and as use as a bookmark. Generally, the longer someone
has been on here (and it may be multiple times on here after hiding there profile, or
someone who has met their SO and is on here for the forums), the more favs they
acquire= more friends, etc.
"Woman say they want love want to be judged from the inside, want truth........ But, can they give the same?"
Yes. We can, we will, and we do. | |
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| Why are woman such a one way street
Posted: 7/2/2009 4:07:21 PM | I'm in big trouble then, since more than 50% of my favorites that are on MY favorite list are women. Maybe I'm trying to tell myself something?
Dude, favorites mean NOTHING to a majority of the people on here. What difference does it make how many people one has favorited or how many have favorited them?
As for the "how do you expect to find love without indulging in a conversation?" remark ... tell ya what, if I'm not attracted to you, I'm not going to try to find love with you, therefore a conversation with you is pointless ("you" is in general). | |
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| Why are woman such a one way street
Posted: 7/2/2009 4:15:04 PM |
How can you be looking for your night in shinning armor and a longterm realationship, if you have more than o favorites?
Not everyone's looking for that (or for that matter ever has been...*snicker*)
Indulging in conversation....I don't consider conversation an indulgence, when I indulge it's usually something with ice cream, chocolate or both. Sometimes conversation is dull and tedious, whereas a chocolate sundae...ALWAYS a pleasure.
If you are going to call someone it may be a good idea to have something in mind to talk about...just saying........ | |
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| Why are woman such a one way street
Posted: 7/2/2009 6:28:45 PM | Why are woman such a one way street
You come to this conclusion over favorites? 
If you weren't wearing your shinning armor, I would kick you in the shins. | |
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