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Posted: 7/2/2009 12:18:05 PM | I am one of those women that has a hard time having an orgasm through intercourse.
My bf takes care of me in other ways. I have had a G spot orgasm only once through intercourse.
I have a G spot vibe and I can have them that way easily. Do you think it's a "practice
makes perfect" kind of thing? I don't use it very often because I'd rather have sex with
my bf. I got to thinking last night though, maybe if I used it more often, it would sort of
wake up that spot and maybe I would have them with my bf. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 12:23:31 PM | | As with anything you do, the more you do it, the easier it becomes. The synapses that fire in your brain develop a pattern that becomes more readily repeatable. So yes, use your vibrator! | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 1:11:24 PM | | yes use it ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 1:18:59 PM | I agree...practice makes perfect!
Isn't it amazing how long we were expected to fall for that old line about vibrators "ruining the REAL thing"? I think this was begun by insecure men who knew they would never be able to give us orgasms that could rival those our vibrators give us!
OK, just kidding (mostly) - an orgasm is definitely better when a real live person is giving it to you (or helping you achieve it). Sometimes. Other times....not so much | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 1:52:55 PM |
I am one of those women that has a hard time having an orgasm through intercourse. My bf takes care of me in other ways. I have had a G spot orgasm only once through intercourse.
Damn...me too.........sucks doesn't it?You're not alone....Thanks for asking the question.I figure though...if I get"hooked" on a vibrator...I will still have to figure out how to come that way with a man.I didn't even know I HAD one until I was 35 thanks to know one ever making me come that way! But now that I know it's there...it's just another source of frustration most of the time!
I just want to know...what evolutionary joke created women this way and WHY!
You men have it EASY! All that sensitive AREA!(minus ED issues and size)
Women either have to be stimulated too far up and on the inside or too far away from all the action on the outside!
I call FOUL! And thank DARWIN's Theory for fingers! | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 2:06:13 PM | Can't believe I am posting in this thread......but here goes....
I'm sure you've heard and tried all this... but I figure it can't hurt
If you are having difficulty there are some other things you can try....
Look into the Kama Sutra there are several positions in there that will force even a modest sized man to hit the "spot".
A part of the problem may be somewhat psychological... tension... worried it may not happen etc etc. Teach your man to use your toys to on you, or mutually masterbate.... just as you climax, have him penetrate you...as it gets more and more familiar have him penetrate you sooner before you climax.
You may also try temperature changes.... give him oral with hot tea(not too hot!) and have at it.....
Textured condoms... I know... noone likes them if we are in a committed monogamous relationship...
Vibrating****rings.... not the cheapo disposable ones from Trojan. Get your self a high quality one... it will turn his member into a "Rabbit" giving you clitoral and gspot stim at the same time. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 2:19:50 PM | | go ahead and use it! hell, let him use it on you. your g spot is not in a spot that will be hit while he is trying to pound his whole penis in you so tell him to go all the way in and out, change the rythm. put some pillows under your back so that the angle makes his penis hit your g spot everytime or at least more often, a vibe stays on your gspot and vibrates a penis hits it and moves and hits it and moves and thats if hes not just going deep all the time. oh and stress can mess with you as well dont worry about it just let it happen and be ready to be overwhelmed. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 2:30:28 PM |
I have a G spot vibe and I can have them that way easily. Do you think it's a "practice makes perfect" kind of thing? I don't use it very often because I'd rather have sex with my bf.
I got to thinking last night though, maybe if I used it more often, it would sort of
wake up that spot and maybe I would have them with my bf.
I took a philosophy course once (one course, once, one time) about Ethics. The prof structured the course to run from what he called the profoundly unwise (those who believed that the finest thing about man was his ability to think, and that the brain controlled everything) to the profoundly wise (oversimplifying, that the individual will was king, and bent the mind to its bidding). Sounds kinda like you are one more proof of his theory- your mind is cleverly justifying your will's hunger for the vibes' ability to reach your spot. Lol. Let it go, let your mind lay back and relax, while you gratify yourself otherwise, be it with man, or man-made.  If I were you, I'd be kinda resenting that it had taken this long to locate that g-spot, with whatever, just as Closer2u says!
Btw, Closer, a prostate is buried just as well, and remarkably close to the same spot in men, as your g-spot is in you. Might well be an evolutionary joke, but think of it more as a challenge, a scavenger hunt with a huge prize, and your gaming/sporting side emerges. Not a bad way to approach your lover, a combination of contortionist-enthusiast, with an overriding sense of fair play! Lol.  | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 2:47:23 PM | At your age, you should be able to show him how to give you a G spot orgasm if that is what you want. I can only guess that he is inexperienced and perhaps you aren't speaking up?
Are you having orgasms? If you aren't having any, you do need to show him how. If he can't with just his penis, you can use hands, toys, etc. together. Read the threads on here and have him read about squirting too, there are some great links on that thread about pleasuring a woman. There are no rules, what you two find enjoyable is what goes. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 2:58:18 PM | Are you having orgasms? Yes I am having orgasms. I said that in my OP. My bf is very patient and considerate to take care of me even if it takes an extremely long time. We did buy a vibrating ring, but that just made him get off faster, not me.
To tell you the truth, I never even knew the G spot existed until I started reading the forums.
When I was younger, I could orgasm easily but I think it's got something to do with a loss
of hormones that makes it more difficult now. They were always clitoral orgasms though. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 3:12:52 PM | | It could be his shape and or your positioning during sex. There is a VERY good book at goodvibrations.com you should check out in regards to female orgasm"g-spot" Each female body is shaped differently and therefore what works for one woman may not work for another. The G-spot book on this website explaines it ALL. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 3:24:50 PM |
Yes I am having orgasms. If you two are having sex and you are having orgasms, excuse me for asking but I really don't get it, how do you know for sure they aren't G-spot? To me there is so much contact going on that I sure can't tell you which place is which or causing what. Now oral can be a bit different or playing with toys, but intercourse, there is so much contact if I am seeing fireworks, that is what matters to me.
Relax and enjoy and if you do read above suggested book and other threads and enjoy trying them, great, more fun for both of you. I don't think there is anything wrong with you, but if you think your hormones are off, get your doctor to test you. Mean time keep having fun | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 3:33:58 PM | if you listen to many of these responses you may be in for a bit of a surprise. over using sexual toys will get your body to only react to that special vibe. then no man on earth will be able to make you ever cum. then you will in return be a lonely soul lost without the ability to cum naturally. look it up, its real facts im sure the net can provide answers to. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 3:38:06 PM |
Daayymn!! Never in the right place at the right time. From your lips to my left ear, Darlin'. Sigh.
Bad, bad man.Then you'll get my hair all messy! ;) | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 3:41:43 PM |
At your age, you should be able to show him how to give you a G spot orgasm if that is what you want. I can only guess that he is inexperienced and perhaps you aren't speaking up?
One of the things that bothers me most about this place is the assumption many have about other's experiences being similar to their own. If you've known about your gspot and how to make it work for a while, congratulations. Not all of us have had that education/experience. I'm 40. I'm just learning how to get mine to work. I've known about it for a few years, have had many partners who are more experienced than I am/was... just never had it happen. Even now it's still a hit and miss thing. I'm still learning, still exploring, still trying to figure out what works best for me. Just like the OP is doing.
OP... if you want to try the vibe, try the vibe. It can't really hurt anything. Just try not to get too dependant on it, otherwise no matter what a living breathing man does, it won't fire the way it should. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 4:05:16 PM |
how do you know for sure they aren't G-spot?
This interests me too. Not being the one having them (obviously!) I don't know what, if any, difference there is. I do know I have felt two very different sensations when a woman has orgasmed. One where she suddenly gets hotter and her lubrication turns watery; the other where the temperature and lubrication don't change but she tightens up all along my length. Not instantly, more like the walls are inflating over a second or two and squeezing me.
Come on ladies, inform us poor ignorant guys. Is one better than the other? | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 4:13:28 PM |
One of the things that bothers me most about this place is the assumption many have about other's experiences being similar to their own. If you've known about your gspot and how to make it work for a while, congratulations. Not all of us have had that education/experience. I'm 40. Actually I stated that my experience is that I CAN'T TELL THE DIFFERENCE while having intercourse OP is 15 years older than you are and has said she has been married a couple times and has had sic many lovers. This should imply she has had the time and has been able to experience sex with others as well as know herself. So yes, at 55 it seems she should know herself, but she may not be with an experienced partner that knows her, thus the question if that could be what it is.
Again, if you can tell the difference, when you are having vaginal sexual intercourse between where the orgasms originate, congratulations or is it I am sorry? I don't differentiate. If I orgasm numerous times, why should I care where it comes from? | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 4:21:21 PM | My dear ChrisPickle,
You don't know jackshit about women's bodies or how they operate. You are exactly backwards in your post, to the point I had a good laugh reading it.
"if you listen to many of these responses you may be in for a bit of a surprise. over using sexual toys will get your body to only react to that special vibe. then no man on earth will be able to make you ever cum. then you will in return be a lonely soul lost without the ability to cum naturally. look it up, its real facts im sure the net can provide answers to"
LOLOLOL, Women need to practice to make perfect, and it doesn't make a hooey what she practices with. There is no 'special vibe' that prevents a woman from responding to a man instead of a toy. Using sex toys regularly actually helps 'teach' women how to let go and orgasm, and if you read any study by a decent group, they reinforce this. Sex therapists regularly use toys to help women learn how to orgasm easier, and advocate using them as often as the urge hits.
I have used sex toys with or without a partner for my entire sexual life, which is about 20 years,(God I feel old now!) and using sex toys has never stopped me from enjoying being with a man. It actually made me more aware of my body and what stimulus I needed, so I could tell my lover what to do to make it happen for me.
Chris, are you a bit intimidated by your girl getting off on a big ole BOB? LOL here's a little hint, you can play with it too! Any way you want to! You're all grown up, and it's your bedroom, so have some fun!
Beth | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 4:21:33 PM | My dear ChrisPickle,
You don't know jackshit about women's bodies or how they operate. You are exactly backwards in your post, to the point I had a good laugh reading it.
"if you listen to many of these responses you may be in for a bit of a surprise. over using sexual toys will get your body to only react to that special vibe. then no man on earth will be able to make you ever cum. then you will in return be a lonely soul lost without the ability to cum naturally. look it up, its real facts im sure the net can provide answers to"
LOLOLOL, Women need to practice to make perfect, and it doesn't make a hooey what she practices with. There is no 'special vibe' that prevents a woman from responding to a man instead of a toy. Using sex toys regularly actually helps 'teach' women how to let go and orgasm, and if you read any study by a decent group, they reinforce this. Sex therapists regularly use toys to help women learn how to orgasm easier, and advocate using them as often as the urge hits.
I have used sex toys with or without a partner for my entire sexual life, which is about 20 years,(God I feel old now!) and using sex toys has never stopped me from enjoying being with a man. It actually made me more aware of my body and what stimulus I needed, so I could tell my lover what to do to make it happen for me.
Chris, are you a bit intimidated by your girl getting off on a big ole BOB? LOL here's a little hint, you can play with it too! Any way you want to! You're all grown up, and it's your bedroom, so have some fun!
Beth | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 4:22:48 PM | In this case, I can tell easily. I am having them manually.
Maybe in the past, in other relationships when I was orgasming much easier, it would have been hard to determine where it came from . The one time I know it was a G Spot orgasm was from the position we were in. He was not even in contact with my clitoris. Believe me, we have tried that position many times since then. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 4:29:41 PM | Oh My God ! This is hilarious ! Look Out  derers a Bonah in deer Hold On to My I'm going to uh uh uh uhhhhh !  oh don't stop ! don't stop Yes Yes Oh God ....
now f#ck Off | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 4:31:50 PM |
OP is 15 years older than you are and has said she has been married a couple times and has had sic many lovers. This should imply she has had the time and has been able to experience sex with others as well as know herself.
I think you're missing my point. Your implication that she *should* doesn't mean that she does. I'm just learning now. Perhaps she is as well.
This interests me too. Not being the one having them (obviously!) I don't know what, if any, difference there is. I do know I have felt two very different sensations when a woman has orgasmed. One where she suddenly gets hotter and her lubrication turns watery; the other where the temperature and lubrication don't change but she tightens up all along my length. Not instantly, more like the walls are inflating over a second or two and squeezing me.
Come on ladies, inform us poor ignorant guys. Is one better than the other?
I don't know about the hotter part.. I'll have to ask him about that. For me.. one is NOT better than the other.. just different. One is an intense grouping of contractions that leaves me gasping for air. The other is one strong contraction followed by many smaller contractions that feels like it goes on for ages. Sometimes I experience *after shocks* that can happen without anyone touching me at all. He's been 10' away from me when they've hit. He likes it.. makes him smile to see the reactions. I like it.. makes me want more. | |
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