| Would love a review of my profile from men!
Posted: 7/2/2009 1:46:08 PM | | I have contacted men, but no one ever answers me back. No man has ever contacted me first! Either my picture is REALLY UGLY, or my profile is really bad! Would appreciate honest (but kind) feedback please from men. | |
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| Would love a review of my profile from men!
Posted: 7/2/2009 2:06:23 PM | Your picture is fine, maybe add a second one. Only suggestion I have is try taking the mail restriction about being within 75 miles off. You can always decide later if somebody lives too far away.
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| Would love a review of my profile from men!
Posted: 7/2/2009 2:53:11 PM | Ok here is how your profile struck me.
1. The “prefer not to say” about kids is a red flag for a 50 year old woman. You lose nothing by saying “no” as few guys have them after divorce and even those who do would read this question as you bearing them. There are very few men ( a smaller pond) who want start up again with a new baby in your age group
2. While the telling of your ability about chores is good, it is written in a way that men will interpret as you want a handyman. Just add a sentence that indicates you are looking for someone to date, not mow your lawn
3. Do not reference your age as old.
4. move the section on your career to the about me section
5. I want to be respectful about this next comment but I also want to be honest with you. When you say you are a “Christian?” many non Christians will read that as you are a prude. This is something that should be left out for later unless you are restricting your search to a Christian man. If your search is that limited then I would urge you to consider Christian websites
6. more pics and smile in all of them
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| Would love a review of my profile from men!
Posted: 7/2/2009 3:16:35 PM | To increase your chance, I would:
1) get better pictures, your current picture is not bad, but it's not great either
2) I would change "dating" to "long term" & change "prefer not to say" to "no" or "yes". Men at your age want to find their soul mates and settle down, not dating. I agree with Steve Cho's comment about kids
4) delete your first paragraph. It makes you sound like you've been spoon fed & just start to learn how to do things on your own. You don't want to come across someone who is high maintenance & need a baby sitter
5) Move the stuff from first date to About me, they don't belong there. Things you write under first date should be simple, straight forward, and fun.
6) Delete & rewrite things that contradict each other. For instance: Divorce & honest, trustworthy Christian don't go together. Someone with graduate degree shouldn't make the kind of mistakes above. Do you really have a graduate degree?
7) Delete your last sentence, that doens't make you sound very intelligent. Again, it's about contradiction. Writing a simple self-description should be a piece of cake for someone with a graduate degree. Either change your education to associate degree, some college, or write a master degree or phd level profile. | |
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| Would love a review of my profile from men!
Posted: 7/6/2009 11:02:07 AM | I guess I don't understand what you mean in # 6 and yes, I do have a graduate degree. If you are implying that those who are divorced can't be honest and trustworthy Christians, well, you are talking to an honest and trustworthy Christian woman whose husband was not so honest and trustworthy and had an affair and filed for divorce. How is that contradictory.
Being unable to "brag" about and "sell" oneself doesn't require a degree.
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| Would love a review of my profile from men!
Posted: 7/6/2009 1:57:37 PM | It's too long your profile and too much detail. Exclude the part about dancing unless you are speaking to latins most men don't want to dance and won't reply. | |
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| Would love a review of my profile from men!
Posted: 7/6/2009 3:03:37 PM |
Willing to give this a try!
I'm not a fan of stating the obvious. Most people are on here to "give this a try". Can you think of something else that can give a clue about your personality?
A Few Extra Pounds
* From your pics, you look closer to average (taking age into consideration) to me. But, I can't tell fore sure.
* Which brings me to the other point: you should really have at least one (recent) full body picture.
Profession Business
Not sure this really tells me much about you. Other than you don't work outdoors.
Now, though, I find that I am spending too much time doing all the work that needs to be done, and not enough time having fun, so I'm looking for someone, with similar interests who might want to share some time together.
My personal interpritation on this: "I'm unable to figure out a way to have fun on my own, and I require someone else to provide this for me.". I'd immediately skip anyone like this.
I am an honest, trustworthy, fun-loving woman and I am looking for someone who is equally trustworthy, a man of integrity and great character.
This falls under stating the obvious. See above. Some (including me) also feel these type of statements do more harm than good, as they can be interpreted as "damaged goods" statements. Damaged goods chases away stable people, but not unstable people or "players".
I have a great sense of humor, witty and dry, am open-minded, low maintenance, and easy to get along with.
Can you give specific examples, or a story to back this up? This sounds more like a list of attributes than a creative example of who you are. The next paragraphs seem like more of the same. What's, "I'm outdoorsy to a point- preferring the outdoors mainly when it is sunny and warm!" really tell me about you? I don't really feel like I've gotten to know much about you (and therefore why pick you over others?) after reading the profile. Explore ways to spice it up. Use specific examples, and more adjectives.
Go read other women's profiles. Pretend you're a man. You're an HR person - this is your resume. How can you make your profile stand out, and not get lost in the crowd? I've literally written my profile to read like both a resume, and a job posting. I inserted dry nerd humor throughout. Some hated it, and some loved it. This screened out women who wouldn't "get" my sense of humor, and attracted women who were attracted to my personality. | |
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