| Is it like baby bear's porridge?!
Posted: 7/2/2009 3:57:18 PM | I am a person who some might say suffers from an excess of subtle self assuredness...
The thing is, I actually get quite a lot of mail from girls and I rarely find that my sent mails fail to result in a reply...
I'm not complaining! The thing is I don't want to be mean to anyone or hurt anyone's feelings, but there is a minority who mail me who are actually hilariously I'll-suited to me. I've tried to construct my profile in such a way to be clear about what I look for!
I'm just concerned that I come across as being overly ascerbic/sarcastic/sardonic?!
Any feedback would be deeply appreciated! | |
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| Is it like baby bear's porridge?!
Posted: 7/2/2009 4:05:56 PM | You'll still get the ill-suited emails and probably in a higher percentage than you'd want or imagine.
You'll get people who will see the picture and dive right in without reading.
Short of not allowing emails in, that's just going to happen. Up to you if you want to let them down nicely or not. It does take more time to do so. | |
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| Is it like baby bear's porridge?!
Posted: 7/2/2009 4:08:42 PM | | I mean... I'm so clear in my profile about what I'm not looking for I'm just concerned that my funny side doesn't come out and I also have concerns that I'm coming across as a bit of a**** | |
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| Is it like baby bear's porridge?!
Posted: 7/2/2009 4:13:01 PM | Been there, done that - you know the profile feedback if you want to open it up a little.
Women will either get it or not. The one you're looking for will. You get to be picky on whomever contacts you, and whomever you contact. The rest is just timing. I haven't exactly been on here much but haven't found mine yet - come close a few times though.
(shame about one of them having been abducted by aliens - other than that she was quite lovely) | |
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| Is it like baby bear's porridge?!
Posted: 7/2/2009 4:22:31 PM | I'm actually not really actively looking.
I'm just here as I really enjoy it and it's a great laugh!
But I really really would appreciate any feedback whatsoever! | |
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| Is it like baby bear's porridge?!
Posted: 7/2/2009 4:56:53 PM |
an excess of subtle self assuredness...
 - excess ~ subtle?? lol ... cute ..
You're funny. and humour is generally a biproduct of intelligence .. and that's not just "my" opinion!
She'll be right .. the one who gets you - gets you .. Be you
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| Is it like baby bear's porridge?!
Posted: 7/2/2009 6:02:31 PM | | Holiday weekend here in the US with many being off tomorrow. I'm only on because I'm doing freelance in the background tonight so I can have my weekend free. I'm sure others will offer feedback when they're on. | |
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| Is it like baby bear's porridge?!
Posted: 7/2/2009 6:05:02 PM | | Thanks for your helpful comment but the frequency at which you're replying to me and my threads is making me feel uncomfortable. Please stop. | |
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| Is it like baby bear's porridge?!
Posted: 7/2/2009 10:38:12 PM | Because someone near and dear to me has a sense of humor, intellect and attitude very similar to yours, I think I can say with all confidence that your profile is 'just right' for you. I don't think you should should dumb it down or try to make your humor more subtle. The right woman will get it and she'll appreciate that you've put it out there the way you did.
I'm actually not really actively looking.
I'm just here as I really enjoy it and it's a great laugh!
Perhaps the women you'd like to attract have already sussed this out and the women you're hearing from haven't quite picked up on this yet? Of course, they will now if they bother to read your posting history. I sure wish more people would do that anyway, because our forum posts usually say a lot more about us than our profiles do.
The only two suggestions I can even think to make are to add more photos, at least one with a smile and no sunglasses, and to describe the kind of woman you'd like to attract. Since you don't really say what your Ms Right is like, those who are ill-suited to you have no real way of knowing that they aren't her.
I've tried to construct my profile in such a way to be clear about what I look for!
...I'm so clear in my profile about what I'm not looking for ... It may seem clear to you, but most people need an actual description of the type of person one is normally attracted to. I suspect it's especially unclear to those women who don't 'get' you.
Oh, and just one more thought. If you're receiving lots of messages, even if it's from women who aren't your type, you're still miles ahead of a lot (dare I say most?) of the men here. There are many really terrific men on this site who can't even seem to get replies to the messages they send, let alone receive initial contacts from women, whether their type or not. | |
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| Is it like baby bear's porridge?!
Posted: 7/3/2009 9:13:11 AM | Having dealt with you before - remember you ASKED ME to post in your forum and then told me to stop.
And seeing how you've done it again to this other guy.
I'd say there's something wrong with you dude.
So just go away. U seem to be crying out for attention. | |
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