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Posted: 7/2/2009 4:07:17 PM | | I spent several weeks trying to perfect my profile, but I'm not getting the results that I want. I am wondering if there are certain stuff on it that should be removed, or if I should add some more stuff to it to make it more presentable. Right now, I think that the biggest flaw are the pictures, but I hope that I can remedy that by around next week. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 4:19:52 PM | I think you should end it on a more positive note, not focusing so much on what you don't want. Also, as for the piercings thing, does that include earrings? I assume you're talking about excessive piercings. You might want to make that more clear.
As for you not getting the results you want: very few of us men do. Men always have to try a whole lot harder on things like this than women. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 4:40:12 PM | Well, I focus on what I don't want since I want to make sure that the women that I get are the ones with whom I can be most satisfied. Could it be that the women who otherwise meet my standards are put off by the negative criteria that I have set?
I just clarified the piercings part. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 9:54:36 PM |
Could it be that the women who otherwise meet my standards are put off by the negative criteria that I have set?
Yes. And the ones that don't meet them, too.
Instead of being an ass about it, there are ways to phrase things that don't offend your viewer. As much.
You don't want to be an insta-daddy? Easy. "Although I appreciate how hard it is to be a single mom, I'd rather start my family with someone who hasn't had that experience yet."
You want someone with a college/univ education? Easy. "My education and future career is important to me. I am looking for someone with similar ambition and career goals for their future." See? Now try again. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 5:05:30 PM | | I smoothed some of it out, but certain edges are meant to be rough. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 5:16:29 PM | It's still a bit much. I loved the: "I don't like this," "I don't like that," "I'm not into this I'm not in to that" and then you say, "Just ask, I'm open to everything." :)
Seriously, you can find out most of that stuff through the first couple of emails and you don't risk putting off the right "one" with all your demands. | |
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Posted: 11/20/2009 5:03:28 PM | | Four months later, after doing a series of overhauls, I am still stagnant. My pictures are a lot better, but the problem would have to be how I'm positioned. And I'm sure that my description could use a little tweaking. | |
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Posted: 11/20/2009 5:15:33 PM | "As for the kind of woman that I want, she has to have no kids, no tattoos, and no piercings (other than traditional ear piercings), and is not older than me. If you think that I'm your "Papi", then I think that you should keep searching for him. Being in college is a big plus for me. If you're not in college, then it depends on what you're doing, but no high-school dropouts!" - I mean REALLY?? WTF! Who WILL you go out with? Dude, for a 24 year old kid you are probably the most uptight one I have ever run across. You need to have your prescription changed I think. Wow.
Your pictures while YOU may think they are a lot better suck man. And WHY OMG WHY are you showing us your dog's pee pee?? Are you insane? That is doggie porn and I am VERY sure against all the rules of PoF picture posting.
One other question... Do you know how to smile? I can't tell based on your pictures. | |
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Posted: 11/20/2009 6:03:03 PM | LOL, well how do these women do it? I have seen my share of profiles from women who were a hell of a lot more uptight than what I posted, during the era when the number of people who have favorited a profile can be seen (they were favorited anywhere from 30 to over 100 times, one such woman had around 400), and that's where I got the idea where frankly expressing what I don't want in a mate was acceptable. But seriously, what I wrote when I first made this thread was a little worse than what you see now. And what do you propose would be a more diplomatic way of expressing the first half of what you quoted from my profile, since I really do not a woman with those traits.
As for the pics, what I had before were downright embarassing and I'm glad that I can replace them with relatively better ones. What do you suggest would be an ideal pose for a profile pic? | |
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Posted: 11/20/2009 6:22:11 PM | Women got 100+ favorites for profile pics alone. Most favorites had absolutely nothing to do with anything they wrote. I actually saw a few completely blank profiles with 50+ favorites on them.
As far as profile pic, they're all from a downward angle. Try taking a few from different camera angles and see what sparks your fancy.
Unlike the others, I don't think there's anything wrong with saying "As for the kind of woman that I want, she has to have no kids, no tattoos, and no piercings (other than traditional ear piercings), and is not older than me."
The next sentence is pretty useless, but the first part is fine. Sure you'll turn away women, but that's the point of it. Instead of the papi line, add in what you WANT in a woman, rather than what you don't want. Stay away from physical traits, and avoid cliches. Just run your thoughts through here and I'm sure someone will speak their mind on it.. probably very bluntly :-p | |
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