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 3sand7swld

Joined: 6/26/2009
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TO date or not to Date?
Posted: 7/2/2009 5:27:36 PM
Tonight I finaly told my ex- how I felt. I told her that months ago I had decided to focus on myself rather than our relationship. The fact is that this girl was lying to me for so long and our relationship had turned so bad over and over. I finaly got the truth from her recently about something over a year ago. We had an argument and I decided to pack up and leave her. That night she slept with someone else and never told me until a year later. She had considered it not to be cheating because we were "broken up." but we both still felt something was there. After months of her making me feel like I was crazy for having suspicions she was with someone she finaly told me. At that point I was more upset that she had lied to me for so long rather than the Act Itself. And It kind of had me wondering how often she had personaly considered us to be broken up. I now know that my paranoid attitude towards her being unfaithfull was nothing more than me following my hunch. The oddest thing about our drawn out endeavor is that I had decided to not care about her months ago , putting more effort towards my own concerns and finaly making some changes in my own life. With this new attitude its not that I don't care its that I finaly care enough about myself to not let her persuade me anymore. SO obviously it drives her crazy because she no longer has control. SO TO DATE OR NOT TO DATE? Thats not the question , IF youve been paying attention to my story youll notice . ONE person got Over on the other right? She cheated and I drove myself crazy. So to me dating is absolutely the only way you can be sure that u won't be hurt by someone else. Over a long period of time you may be with a million girls and you might break a million hearts in two, but In the end It you hearting you. Which is More painful? reply
 citrus1blue

Joined: 6/27/2009
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TO date or not to Date?
Posted: 7/2/2009 5:32:09 PM
Good question. I would like to know the answer to that one as well.
TO date or not to Date?
Posted: 7/2/2009 6:00:39 PM
I wished we could know her side of the story to be objective. I know you still have feelings for her. Are there children left behind? Did you know the man she cheated with? Was he your good buddy? Did you try relationship counseling before you decided to break up? I am afraid you didn't. I believe you should try to see how she feels about you now after so many months of separation. You need an honest talk... NOT on the phone
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