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Posted: 7/2/2009 5:36:14 PM | | Ok ladies I need some advice here. It has taken me about a month to get a lunch date with this girl that im crazy about. I work 12 hour shifts at night and had a one oclock lunch date scheduled. Well any way I woke up at three oclock and stoop her up by accident. I called her when I woke up and she understood because she has worked shift work before. Any help would be appreciated. | |
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| I screwed up
Posted: 7/2/2009 5:42:16 PM | What's the problem?
She said she understood.
When you spoke with her, did you reset the lunch date? | |
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| I screwed up
Posted: 7/2/2009 5:43:04 PM | So..you said she understood..
Did you ask to make another date when you know you can make it?
She won't be feeling terribly good..and won't be very sure you'd turn up by now I expect..maybe you could suggest a phone call prior to meeting...so that she knows you are awake and free? | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 5:48:35 PM | Don't beat yourself up over a simple mistake. She's understanding of this. Reschedule a date for four o'clock and don't miss it.
I'd schedule the date on one of my days off if it were possible. I know eveeryone's schedules don't align. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 5:50:51 PM | | We didnt set a day and time yet but said she would see me. Im just trying not to be to pushy. I have a hard enough of a time as it is getting dates. | |
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| I screwed up
Posted: 7/2/2009 5:54:46 PM | What's pushy about resetting the lunch?
If you wait TOO long she could lose interest. Who knows?
Just make sure you're awake.
Perhaps you could have someone to give you a wake up call if it's a day you are
working.  | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 5:55:23 PM | | Im going to make sure I have that day off | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 6:04:08 PM | It's not pushy to reset the date.
How will you cope if you need to take a whole day off every time you see her?
Get a wake up call..set 16 alarms..if you can't do waking up for a planned event at the moment are you sure you are in a position to date?
I'd be looking at that side of it and whether I honestly have the time and energy myself. | |
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| I screwed up
Posted: 7/2/2009 6:05:13 PM | Ask for a new date with her, the sooner the better. It's not pushy. It's pretty lame to ask if she'd still see you and not schedule a date.
Set up 3 or 5 alarm clocks next time. | |
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bg3293
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| I screwed up
Posted: 7/2/2009 6:06:52 PM | | I wont have to take a day off everytime. Im off tomorow and im tryin to reschedule it for tomorow so hopefully everything goes well. But here is another question do I try to look really good or just go for casual since it is just a lunch date. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 6:12:48 PM | | Offer to do her laundry and her toe nails | |
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bg3293
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Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 12 | |
| I screwed up
Posted: 7/2/2009 6:35:07 PM | | That would probaly work | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 6:36:07 PM | Look good wearing casual attire.
Clean fresh shirt, decent pants (not shorts) or jeans. They don't have to be fancy, but if they went through more than 50 washes they no longer qualify. Decent shoes that haven't lost their shape.
Look up "dress code casual" if you need a better idea. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 6:59:51 PM | | I don't know what your idea of casual is. This is the first real impression you're going to make on her. Leave the suit and tie at home, but dress to impress. You don't plan on going to Denny's right? You are going to go somewhere decently impressive I hope. Doesn't have to be Spago's, but at least a candle lit table would be ideal for getting to know one another. You only have one chance to make a first impression. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 7:23:42 PM | You should have apologized and tried to reschedule...
I think you should send her a small gift too...some flowers or something nice as a further apology...if you really like it, and want to see her again.
Next time maybe have her call you or have a friend call you and make sure you get up in time. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 8:51:57 PM | I'm not really all that into flowers (I prefer jewelry  ) but I would bring a single rose or similar with me as an apology for standing her up. There is a big difference between having to reschedule and actually having left her sitting somewhere by herself - and I would think it well worth the 5 bucks for the rose to let her know you took the time to do that to apologize for your mistake. Because, she would be only human to think you changed your mind about meeting her and she had some very uncomfortable minutes after realizing you weren't going to show. | |
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bg3293
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| I screwed up
Posted: 7/2/2009 9:19:13 PM | | thats a great idea I will do that | |
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| I screwed up
Posted: 7/2/2009 9:37:55 PM | When a girl says "I'll see you" instead of rescheduling that can be a brush off. It couldn't hurt to send her a small gift asap, this will say you don't think she's someone who will drop everything to fit your schedule. Women analyze things to death at the beginning of a relationship and a romantic gesture goes a long way.  | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 9:47:14 PM | | If you get another chance to go out with her, make sure to set your alarm. Set TWO, in case the first one doesn't wake you up. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 7:32:15 AM | No No No not the single rose.....Big mistake
Happy flower not LOVE flower, unless she is 13.
Don't worry just be clean and fresh and show her a good time. | |
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