| How lame is my profile?
Posted: 7/2/2009 9:10:25 PM | Give it to me straight Doc!
I wonder if people like the thumbs up or if its super lame....also i suppose the profile is a bit serious which ought to be changed.
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| How lame is my profile?
Posted: 7/2/2009 9:37:05 PM | The thumbs up is only lame if you think it is lame. If that's your personality, so be it. Why be embarrassed of who you are? Is anybody so much better than you that you think you should be a certain way? I doubt it.
I think you could get rid of the last picture which is obviously one or two frames after your thumbs up shot. The thumbs up looks better because you look like a good spirited guy. I would get rid of the picture of your car. The two most common complaints I have read in women's profiles is their disapproval of guys who have pictures up that show them topless or with their car.
My only suggestion in the wording department is to get rid of these particular words: "I've got a lot of respect for women and what they have to put up with..."
Guys in our generation have been trained to respect women and treat them with respect. And women do want that. But even more they want a man who doesn't have to be subservient or apologetic or a conformist who is willing at the drop of a hat to lay out emotional mumbo-jumbo. Women know they are the emotional ones and they don't want that in a partner no matter how much they think or say they do.
While a few decades of politically correct teachings says that men should acknowledge their respect for women, several million years of evolution dictates to a woman's genetic core that they want a male who is strong and will not bow for anyone. So, don't put any PC crap in your profile. They will assume you respect them until you prove otherwise. Saying so right off the bat doesn't tell them you respect them; it tells them you are seeking their approval. Only subservient people seek approval. Don't be subservient.
The same would apply to the words: "I think its important to genuinely listen when being spoken to..." It is better to surprise them by having this trait than to advertise it. Once again, you are not seeking their approval. Don't even try to. It won't work.
Otherwise, great profile. | |
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| How lame is my profile?
Posted: 7/2/2009 9:44:46 PM | Hey man thanks alot for the response
Those were some really great points to reconsider thanks for taking the time to write all of that!
cheers! | |
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| How lame is my profile?
Posted: 7/2/2009 10:08:39 PM | I think your profile is excellent and I would suggest not changing the things the other writer said you should. I like reading what you wrote. I think it's important to hear a man say intelligently and unashamedly that he believes certain things or that he understands things and wants things to be different. I get that impression from you, and that would lead me to want to contact you and go out with you soon after. I dislike the typical profiles, and your's isn't typical. I also think car pictures are stinky for the most part, but you have lots of other good ones, so you can leave the car one up if it makes you happy.
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| How lame is my profile?
Posted: 7/3/2009 12:35:19 AM | Agree with specialheartedlady, except that because of the age difference, obviously, I wouldn't go out with you. ;-)
Your profile is fine. No blabla, no cheezing up reg. whatever some men think women want to hear. *yawn*I get an idea of who you are, and that's what profiles should give, in my decidedly not humble opinion. | |
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| How lame is my profile?
Posted: 7/3/2009 9:52:35 AM | Just to clarify... I do think that what you said is intelligent and important.
All I am saying is you must ask yourself what your motive is for putting that out there. If it is because you are actively involved in teaching people on an everyday basis the importance of women in the world, keep it in. If you are a member of a group that promotes women's rights and equality and you attend meetings and marches and such, all the better. Just make sure you mention that you are involved in these organizations.
However, if you are putting that in there to impress somebody or to get somebody to like you, there is a certain fundamental problem. I said it before, women will say that they want to hear what you wrote (they just did here). And they really do like to hear it. But human beings are instinct creatures ESPECIALLY in the relationship world. That's why 99% of the time women know within 5 seconds of meeting a guy whether he is right for her and why once a woman says she thinks of you as a friend, that ain't ever, ever, ever going to change. You may prove you are the nicest, sweetest guy and you might be attractive, but all that intellectual material isn't going to change how they perceive you on a sexual (read: instinctive) level.
The circuitry in human brains works that way. Instinct always trumps intellect in human sexual compatibility. You might impress somebody on an intellectual level by saying such a thing, but you are not going to connect with the all-important instinctive aspects of their human conditioning. And as I said, what you wrote is going to be assumed as such until you prove otherwise so why bother mentioning it?
Trust me... I've read and listened to a lot of discussions on human libido. You will connect with maybe 10 or 15% of the female population with that kind of talk. But you'll instantly drive away more than half. You won't drive anybody away if it isn't even mentioned. So just do the math and figure out which is your best option. | |
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| How lame is my profile?
Posted: 7/3/2009 8:57:24 PM | Did somebody around here claim to be an expert?
All I said was that I studied this psychological and physiological area of human behavior. There are lots of scientific studies on the subject available in your local bookstore. If people had a better understanding of what really makes them do what they do before they pursue a romantic relationship with a person, marriages would have a higher success rate.
Of course, you're not exactly a marriage success coach... now are you?  | |
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| How lame is my profile?
Posted: 7/8/2009 6:33:55 AM | >Did somebody around here claim to be an expert?
yep. you ("Trust me... I've read and listened " )
>Of course, you're not exactly a marriage success coach... now are you?
I give my opinion. You lecture.
You think you know women ("I said it before, women will say that they want to hear what you wrote. And they really do like to hear it. ") because you read a few self-help books. : rolleyes: | |
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