| Would a girl ever admit she was flirting with you if you accused her?
Posted: 7/3/2009 8:26:56 AM | | I just want people's general opinion on this. Would a girl ever admit that she was flirting with you if you asked/accused them of doing it? Or would she try and cover it up, even though she likes you a lot? In my case, the girl spent more than a half hour trying to justify why she wasn't flirting with me and even when I was nodding my head and didn't say anything, she just kept going. Is that a sign that she was flirting? | |
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| Would a girl ever admit she was flirting with you if you accused her?
Posted: 7/3/2009 8:35:34 AM | Okay, these are all the things she did:
(This is all from a previous thread. If you want to know the background of my situation, here's the link: http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts12608340.aspx)
- Consistently make eye contact with you then look away (whenever I was around her but not talking to her she was looking at me. I even caught her once blatantly staring at me while we were all watching TV and I even felt the need to ask her why she was looking at me. She sort of blushed).
- Smile at you
- Toss her hair when she knows you're looking at her (that one day when I walked into the TV room and she was all dressed up, she turned her head away from the TV and looked at me brightly and twirled her hair).
- Give YOU a nickname (she called me 'Buff guy')
- Stay with you when her friends move away (my step-sis and her other friend who was over that night decided to head upstairs but I said, 'No, I wanna' watch more TV", and Jane - the girl who I think is flirting - said, "Yeah, let's watch more TV," while smiling at me. In the end her friends pursuaded her to head upstairs but the intention was there...
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| Would a girl ever admit she was flirting with you if you accused her?
Posted: 7/3/2009 8:40:15 AM | I am the type to give eye contact, or buy a guy a drink. True story:
I was with my bestfriend at a bar talking about the movie we just saw. We notice a guy who had three ladies all around him vying for his attention. My bestfriend says "None of those girls is going to get him alone." I smile, and say "$20 I get him to come over to the table." She takes the bet, and I turn to the bartender to ask what drink the guy at the end of table was having. The bartender tells me, and I have him get the guy a drink. The guy is so surprised at the proffered drink that he ditches the other ladies, and asked me to dance. Yeah, I won the $20 too.
Flirting is fun, and a lady should not hide from it if confronted. That means the guy noticed, and is now flirting back with you, and gaining confirmation. | |
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| Would a girl ever admit she was flirting with you if you accused her?
Posted: 7/3/2009 8:45:56 AM | There was a thread on here not so long ago about "killing the butterfly". OP, she's either flirting or being friendly, and I'd say either way she has an interest that you can either fan or extinguish.
She's flirting to show an interest and you sound like you are being hamhanded rather than playful in your response. Nothing will kill the first stirrings of interest faster than that.
(I think it says in the flirter's manual to deny when confronted; it can even be part of the fun) | |
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| Would a girl ever admit she was flirting with you if you accused her?
Posted: 7/3/2009 8:51:00 AM | Everyone's different. Some might try to hide the fact, either because they're embarassed, or they don't want to admit they're interested if you're not showing interest yourself.
I've had various situations where I've approached a woman who was flirting with me...
I have responded to them in different ways... usually just trying to make them feel more comfortable, and maybe flirt back a little... or just be nice and clear about my interest...
"I get the feeling you've been flirting with me all night, but I've been too boneheaded to notice, so I figured I'd make it easier and just tell you that I think you're stunning beyond words and would love a chance to get to know you."
"You know, when flirting with me, "accidentally" brushing your hand against mine is always a good approach."
"I noticed you can't seem to keep your eyes off me... would you like me to get into any specific pose? Or are you happy just admiring me as I am?"
I find it always helps to make them laugh a little. It makes it easier for them. When they're nervous about getting to know you... it's hard for them to be themselves. | |
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| Would a girl ever admit she was flirting with you if you accused her?
Posted: 7/3/2009 8:57:37 AM | Yeah...once she's naked in bed, you can get a coy admission out of her. Flirting is an art when done properly. Problem is, if she's spending time trying to backtrack, while she may have been flirting, you probably pissed her off and now she's trying to quell the impression that she was interested in you. Or she's just scared.
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| Would a girl ever admit she was flirting with you if you accused her?
Posted: 7/3/2009 8:58:51 AM | Since I'm not a guy, I will answer for my situation.
If I am making eye contact, smiling and flirting, it means I am interested. If he reciprocates, I go over and say hello.
If he doesn't, I don't. I do the same when someone is flirting with me.
Also, if a guy is flirting that much with me and can't come and say hello, I kinda wonder if we'd be a match anyway.
I don't see why this is so difficult. Besides, if someone is flirting that obviously, do I really need to "accuse" them of it? I'd just go and say hi.
Meeting people in the real world is really not this difficult, at least it is not for me. Anyone that was ever flirting with me really was. | |
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| Would a girl ever admit she was flirting with you if you accused her?
Posted: 7/3/2009 9:16:04 AM | | I'm confused. Why would you bother to 'accuse' her of flirting? Flirting is harmless and should be taken as such. You took all the fun out of it when you ACCUSED her of flirting with you, as if it were some sort of crime, or an action that needed to be interrogated. | |
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| Would a girl ever admit she was flirting with you if you accused her?
Posted: 7/3/2009 9:18:09 AM | If you asked her gently...maybe
If you accused her !! dont think so
I actually asked my step-sis about whether her friend was flirting with me. Then she told her friend and her friend got all angry... the two stopped talking to me for a day, then the next day we had a conversation and she spent A LONG TIME trying to justify that she wasn't flirting. Later on I apologized briefly but she just kept justifying herself. She also stopped trying to give signs that she was flirting with me (ie. all the signs I listed in a post above). I am now out of town until Sunday but when I get back I plan to make a move on her (not sure how, or if my hunch about her true feelings are right). | |
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| Would a girl ever admit she was flirting with you if you accused her?
Posted: 7/3/2009 9:20:37 AM |
I'm confused. Why would you bother to 'accuse' her of flirting? Flirting is harmless and should be taken as such. You took all the fun out of it when you ACCUSED her of flirting with you, as if it were some sort of crime, or an action that needed to be interrogated.
Oh believe me, I realize my mistake. I should've just made a move, but I wasn't certain about anything and I am SO afraid of rejection (especially in front of my step-sis). | |
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| Would a girl ever admit she was flirting with you if you accused her?
Posted: 7/3/2009 10:01:56 AM | ^^yeah having certain people around when you are making a move can be a pain in the azz. I actually stopped hanging out with certain people when I was your age just so I could go and "date" and "pick up" without supervision or comments from the peanut gallery.
<div class="quote">I am now out of town until Sunday but when I get back I plan to make a move on her (not sure how, or if my hunch about her true feelings are right).
Good luck! Either way you will know if she is interested. But yeah if she's only here part-time, forget it and pursue someone else. | |
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| Would a girl ever admit she was flirting with you if you accused her?
Posted: 7/3/2009 10:05:15 AM |
I actually asked my step-sis about whether her friend was flirting with me. Then she told her friend and her friend got all angry... the two stopped talking to me for a day, then the next day we had a conversation and she spent A LONG TIME trying to justify that she wasn't flirting. Later on I apologized briefly but she just kept justifying herself. She also stopped trying to give signs that she was flirting with me (ie. all the signs I listed in a post above). I am now out of town until Sunday but when I get back I plan to make a move on her (not sure how, or if my hunch about her true feelings are right).
If this is the 17 year girl who is visiting for a month from Europe, I really don’t think you should make “a move” on her. Seems she may not be as open to your advances as you thought she would be. She could have been interested, but was highly embarrassed that Archie confided in Veronica about Betty’s behavior. She could also have no true interest in you whatsoever, because she’s just a P.T. (and I’m NOT talking about the Cruiser). It’s really hard to tell, because when your dating pool is comprised of students from Riverdale High, it is not unusual for them to behave and act immaturely.
IMO, it’s time to graduate from High School Musical, Troy. I strongly suggest dating young women who are on the same path as yourself (i.e., actively in college and working toward an adult career and life; not the Junior/Senior Prom). If you still don’t want to give up on this girl, then I suggest putting “the moves” on hold; apologizing to her for talking about her behind her back to your step-sis; and letting her know that you honestly LIKE her and would love to take her out to the movies or to ye olde soda shoppe for a phosphate. Good luck! | |
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| Would a girl ever admit she was flirting with you if you accused her?
Posted: 7/3/2009 10:57:56 AM | if the girl likes u then she will flirt again and if she doesnt then she wont, unles she is shy now that uve pointed it out.
idk it depends what kind of girl she is...
either way if u wana know if she likes u then just give it some time and ull start to get a strong vibe that she does... in which case ur probably right. if u dont get the vibe and r stil unsure either ask her or jus leave it
plenty more fish in the sea lol
i kno i know lame wasnt it
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| Would a girl ever admit she was flirting with you if you accused her?
Posted: 7/3/2009 11:07:54 AM | | Okay I'm thinking of doing this. Sometimes when I get back from work I go downstairs (in the basement) and the two girls are on the same couch watching TV. There is always a spot to sit in between them, but I end up lying down on the couch beside them and talking. This time I will sit in between them (I'm scared they're going to react by getting up though), and work my game on her. This, of course, requires that the two are downstairs when I get home from work. | |
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| Would a girl ever admit she was flirting with you if you accused her?
Posted: 7/3/2009 1:32:17 PM | Dude...you've already over-thought and over-prepared this to the point of total failure.
You missed your shot, and it was perfectly set up for you...so now you're trying to figure out how to maneuver for a second shot when they're laughing at you as you're coming on.
Stop...take what you got out of this experience and retire to your bedroom and masturbate...the whole time saying to yourself "I will not wuss out next time...I will not wuss out next time".
But for now, quit embarassing yourself. Humpty Dumpty would have a better chance...she was hot for you...you threw cold water on it. Game over.
PS: If you want to have a prayer of a chance, the only thing you can do is isolate her, then with complete confidence and comfort, look at her and say "Listen, when at first we (and emphasize the "WE") were flirting, I was a bit unsettled because you're my sister's friend and you're 17 and I'm 20...and to tell the truth, I really think you're incredible, so I'm going to kiss you now unless you flat out tell me 'no'...but I don't think you're going to." And then kiss her...the right way...and then ask her if she'd like to talk later. | |
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| Would a girl ever admit she was flirting with you if you accused her?
Posted: 7/3/2009 2:06:08 PM | "I just want people's general opinion on this. Would a girl ever admit that she was flirting with you if you asked/accused them of doing it? Or would she try and cover it up, even though she likes you a lot? In my case, the girl spent more than a half hour trying to justify why she wasn't flirting with me and even when I was nodding my head and didn't say anything, she just kept going. Is that a sign that she was flirting?"
If a woman spent more than half an hour talking to me (of her own free will) then that means she's either my mother, gramma, or flirting. | |
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| Would a girl ever admit she was flirting with you if you accused her?
Posted: 7/3/2009 4:18:44 PM |
Dude...you've already over-thought and over-prepared this to the point of total failure.
You missed your shot, and it was perfectly set up for you...so now you're trying to figure out how to maneuver for a second shot when they're laughing at you as you're coming on.
Stop...take what you got out of this experience and retire to your bedroom and masturbate...the whole time saying to yourself "I will not wuss out next time...I will not wuss out next time".
But for now, quit embarassing yourself. Humpty Dumpty would have a better chance...she was hot for you...you threw cold water on it. Game over.
Jeez, why are you so confident it's over? I have 2 weeks to go and when I get back, she's had 5 days to miss me. The question is if she actually did. But I'm going to take the positive end of the advice so far and go for it... and because I've already dug a hole for myself, I have to show that I mean it. | |
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| Would a girl ever admit she was flirting with you if you accused her?
Posted: 7/3/2009 4:19:58 PM |
I would admit it. But if you had to ask to be sure, there's a problem
I didn't ask her, though. I initially asked my step-sis. The fact that I did that might have pissed her off because I didn't have the guts to make a move on her. Would you think so? | |
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