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Posted: 7/3/2009 9:05:31 AM | So when does it stop hurting and how do you move on when he tells you that you have to get better and hopefully down the line we will bet back together and he will check on me in a couple weeks. When do I stop worrying about what he's doing? I see his profile on here and it makes me sick.
All I can do is think about him and cry......
Someone help me cuz I don't know if my heart can take it..... | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 9:16:09 AM | | You need a diversion. Everything else will come back together in time. How much time? It will depend on you. Try to stop checking up on him. Tough yes, but remember the old adage, "out of sight, out of mind." It happens to everyone and it will pass. Look up EFT , or emotional freedom technique, and learn to use it, its simple and effective. Good luck | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 2:31:50 PM | | ok i can help you with this one i have been broken up 4times and they have broken up with me with time heals everything trust me but its a learning experience and it depends on the situation do you love him or r u in love with him and i have to say im glad im single i have nothing to worry about yes i hate being lonely and it would be nice to be with someone but its just not my time and what is meant to be will be only time can tell just keep your head up if he really loves you or in love with you then things will work out trust me i know | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 3:14:54 PM | | there is no quick fix for this one im afraid..time is the healer for a broken heart..but when it does heal you will look back and smile and think..''what the feck was all that about,,he wasnt worth the hassle''..and believe me you will laugh at this experience and move on and be a much stronger person in the future..but for now..just soldier on and you will get through this no problem..x | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 3:22:34 PM | OK, first, what do you have to get better from? Are you ill?
Second, I took a look at your profile and you are Gorgeous, so bump him! The worst thing you can do is dwell on it. Don't look at his profile. I think you can Block it from coming up in results. If you are on his favorites list, You can leave a testimonial which will show up on his profile when anyone looks at it. I'm not saying to bash him or anything, but if you write something sort of nice about him, but aloof, like you don't really care, it will drive him crazy, trust me I know, I'm a guy. Remember, time heals everything, read other peoples experiences and learn from them. That is how I found this, I also met this lady on here. The psych test said that we were 93% compatible and it was right. From the first moment we met, we couldn't stand to be apart. Constant emails, calls, text messages. We had our first date on Saturday, then Sunday, Monday, Thursday, Friday,... You get the picture. After the first two weeks we were almost living together. I had so much fun with her, I had never really met anyone I felt so connected with. Then it happened, I knew she had been in a relationship with another guy she had met on here and that they had dated for months. What I didn't know was that when she first started emailing me, she was still living with him. She failed to mention that part. They had been split up a whole 7 days, when we had our first date. It didn't take long, about 3-4 weeks, and we ran into him and his new girl while shopping at Wal-mart. I went to go get a gas can, and poof, when I got back she was crying and then she pointed him out and told me that he caught her off guard is all. I knew then it was probably over then, deep down. After that afternoon, she changed completely, gone was the spunky vibrant girlfriend, replaced by an emotional, withdrawn, heartbroken woman who constantly talked about going into therapy to get rid of her baggage. It tried to keep it alive, but after a couple more weeks I got the email, you know, I need some time. Now I'm heartbroken and she is actually in therapy, all the while saying that she still wanted to see me, and maybe when they fixed her we could be together. It's like getting picked last for a pick up soccer game. The email thing tore me up too. So hang in there, keep your chin up and all things will get better. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 3:35:53 PM | Sam,
I don't know if you ever really stop hurting, but the majority of the pain will go away with time. You will worry about what he does for a long time, but eventually you will focus more on what you do than what he does. I know when I first got separated it hurt me very deeply and I didn't want to be alive. Just pray that God will help you and if it is meant to be, you will get back together. Do not contact him until he contacts you. If you don't call and text him he will want you. My cousin had the same thing happen with her. Then after a couple of weeks he called her with some story about a voice mail he received and he called and asked if it was her and he knew it wasn't. He probably didn't even get a voice mail. He just knew that he didn't have her wrapped around his finger anymore. Then after the voice mail he knew that he had her wrapped around his finger again. She said he did and now they are in a two week waiting period. It is a cycle and it is about control "It's nothing more than knowing that he can have you when he wants you." She said once that happened he didn't want her anymore. She says he is a great guy, nice, has a job, loves kids, and an all around American guy. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 3:41:12 PM | | Give it a couple months. It hurts like hell now but it will get better. Your heart can take it, i know it feels like your world is crumpling around you but its really not the end. Distractions, yes is what you need. The thing that helps me is, hanging with freinds, music, reading, and shopping. Shopping works really well. If you dont hear anything from him its his loss right? You will be okay. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 5:45:15 PM | Ms. Sam,
With those man-killer eyes, you should have no trouble finding a better man that him, in no time at all.
I am sorry that it hurts so bad now, it will only get better. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 11:39:03 AM | dont cheak his profile out nothin good will come outta doing that.if u wanna repair your heart go out have some fun with your freinds,enjoy life to the most you can.life is never gonna be easy so go hard at it | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 8:37:38 PM | Sam,
Like growing older which happens imperceptibly from day to day, it will hurt less with each passing day.
Give yourself a deadline for feeling like shit and thinking about him. Circle it on the calendar. Use the time to figure out if you really want him back if he decides to return. Once that date arrives, use a diversionary tactic if you find yourself thinking about him. Compose an email or letter to a friend you haven't spoken to in a while if you think about him. The idea is to give yourself something to take your mind off of your lost love. This worked for me last year. The key is finding the diversionary tactic that works for you.
Don't look at his profile. At all. EVER!!!
You look lovely and I hope you work through this without too much difficulty. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 9:49:10 PM | Dear OP,
What is it that you have to get better about????
please if we can get more info. to try and comfort you and /or give you advice.
Like many mentioned, you are pretty and many would love to have you as their gf.
Just give it time and smile....you loved and were loved....just couldn't be forever.
Dnt think and rethink what happened....it causes pain. Just look forward and soon
you will be smiling again. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 9:52:34 PM | I am sorry for your pain.,,, but if someone doesnt accept you for who you are, then why do you want him? Refocus your heart to realize reality.... dont look back.
When it hurts, ...go out, and fill your time with something much better....you will be surprised how time passes and you are healed. | |
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