| First contact?
Posted: 7/3/2009 11:50:00 AM | OK, I look to see who has viewed my profile then view their profile to see if I might like them. Also I see who has added me to their fav list. My question is should I make first contact so is that to forward?
I ask because the dating roles have been switched, girls want to independent now days, and want the control. | |
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| First contact?
Posted: 7/3/2009 11:57:38 AM | If you see someone of interest that has viewed your profile, and you want to drop a line, go ahead, and do it.
The same can be said with favorites.
You have nothing to lose. Give it a shot. | |
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| First contact?
Posted: 7/3/2009 12:11:55 PM | Don't be a wussy cat, make the first move.
Message message message.
Now if they don't respond, don't fret or get upset.
That's just the way it is, you will eventually get one.
If you get a very short reply, such as thanks or Yeah, your profiles nice to.
They are not interested .
Do not send copy/paste generic messages.
We can smell them.
Don't be afraid, but don't be a c@cky ass.
Now read those profiles, pick out something you like about it and march on. | |
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| First contact?
Posted: 7/3/2009 12:16:31 PM | | You have to be different than the other 10000 guys emailing her. Point out stuff in her profile and combine it with humor or simple questions. You have to get INSIDE HER HEAD to spark any interest. The usual HELLO or HOW ARE YOU wont hold her! Its nice and jujst average but wont last 2-4 emails small talk | |
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| First contact?
Posted: 7/3/2009 12:20:40 PM | | There are some women that use the favorites list as a wink feature, so it cant hurt to try with them first. As far as the ones who just viewed you, thats entirely different. They may have decided that you werent any good for them, or clicked on you by accident, or whatever else. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 1:09:16 PM | 
Sorry but I am still laughing at the fact that men on here determine if they like a person, a living breathing human being that is beyond the computer, by looking at thier profile.
*crosses fingers and hope men evolve* | |
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| First contact?
Posted: 7/3/2009 1:20:02 PM |
My question is should I make first contact so is that to forward? I ask because the dating roles have been switched, girls want to independent now days, and want the control.
But??? LOL The ones that wanted to contact you themselves would have right? And if you write them I got a newsflash for ya.. (wink) they are still in control my man. LOL
Please do not start contacting all the women that viewed ya. They may of viewed ya for a half second and screamed and hit the page back button as fast as possible.
If they were really interested they would of wrote you.
By all means write anyone that adds you to their favorites! Thats often a way to send you a "wink" and let you know they are interested.
MOST women still expect the man to pursue. Many are now unafraid to contact you if they want to which is nice.
But the bottom line is just look at profiles and contact who you want to. Do NOT expect replies. Especially just because they viewed your profile. Are you interested in every women you view? Works the same way for them...
Good Luck
Cowboy | |
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| First contact?
Posted: 7/5/2009 11:56:37 AM | *Cowboy* is spot on. Again. He offers good advice.
From knowing myself, other women and reading many, many posts the vast majority of women will NOT make the first move, so by all means send an email to anyone that interests you, but please try not to get discouraged if you do not get many responses. That is just what happens here. Doesn't make it right, but it is what it is. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 12:09:34 PM | If your interested go for it :) | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 12:20:34 PM | | Hmmmmm.......well, isn't this why you are here? Of course, if you find someone who interests you {regardless of their making first contact or not} go for it. An opportunity missed, is an opportunity lost. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 12:27:21 PM | I always assume if a man has viewed my profile and not emailed me then he must not be interested. I might look at his profile as well to see what I'm attracting, research never hurt, but I don't normally make contact myself, especially not in that case.
Definitely wouldn't think it was too forward. I like men with confidence, as I think a lot of women do, and a man who is too shy to be the first one to drop a line wouldn't suit me in the long run anyway. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2009 12:02:56 AM | When have dating roles been switched? Did I miss something?
OP, maybe that's why you're having trouble. You think you're the girl in the relationship. Dating is a numbers game. Email every girl you find attractive, think you could get along with/tolerate/whatever. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2009 2:06:08 AM | Anjelic I know you say don't copy and paste and I used to agree with that 100%
But after being here for the last few weeks, I have grown tired of writing creative responses referring directly to the post only to have them ignored.
Now I cut and paste a nice generic message, respond to ten times as many women in the same time, and am having far more responses. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2009 5:48:13 PM | ''An opportunity missed, is an opportunity lost''
Never a truer word said  | |
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Posted: 7/17/2009 7:02:10 PM | I say check with your parents first ask if its ok, and also your local minister, if they both say its ok then its ok  | |
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Posted: 7/17/2009 7:35:59 PM | I think that it would be a good idea to say hi to the ones that added you as their favorite. I dunno about the ones that viewed your profile though. Personally, I think that if a person viewed my profile and didn't say hi, it means that there was something about my profile that they found repulsive. Saying hi to them would be a wasted effort.
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| First contact?
Posted: 7/17/2009 8:55:24 PM | Roles are switched? I did not get that memo. I think only ones to get that memo are the cougars. That's about the only ones that contact me first. All my other contacts I had to initiate.
It would be pretty sweet if bunch of cool girls were sending me messages out of the blue. (wait 1 did today so I shouldnt say that) | |
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| First contact?
Posted: 7/17/2009 9:08:35 PM | | if you think the girl/profile is nice,why don't u drop a line? | |
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Posted: 7/17/2009 10:42:11 PM | If they faved you, you thank them, fave them back and invite them to talk if they are so inclined.
That's how ALL my connections happen. Whether they go anywhere or not. It works for me. Might not work for you. Or the people to the left and right of you.
This way I don't have to think up stupid things we have in common, like for instance " I notice that you like to drink Champagne and shoot rats at the dump. Me too! That's what I'm into!" | |
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Posted: 7/18/2009 7:23:41 AM | | do what you want who cares if they contact you or not if you contact 10 and 1 gets back to you hey its like a sales job. some buy some don't. no big deal we don't always get what we want but no harm in trying | |
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