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Posted: 7/3/2009 3:53:20 PM | I am seeing a guy for a month now, nothing serious just dating.Few days ago he asked me something-- he said"what do you want from me.....romance,friendship.....fun?
I said...I like it all"..then I asked him what do you want from me..he said" well I like you and I am happy when Im with you"
then he dropped me home and its been 10 days I havent heard from him.
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Posted: 7/3/2009 3:54:46 PM | | it's pretty simple really. he likes you more than you like him. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 3:58:23 PM | | thanks but why I havent heard from him?I dont want to call him. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 4:00:16 PM | | hmmmm . . . or is it simple? Was he hoping that she would say something else when he asked the question? | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 4:05:26 PM | | He wanted fun and you wanted more. Oil, meet water. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 4:09:58 PM | | The logical thing is to ask him and get the answer straight from the horses mouth, why would you ask a forum to answer for him?...I don't get it....by the time you mull everyone's assumptions and your own, you'll be so messed up ..his answer won't matter....Do yourself the favor hun and GO ASK HIM YOURSELF! | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 4:19:36 PM | spring_babe's advice is good. Ask him.
However be prepared to not get a reply, and you may be left to speculate what the friggin' hell happened. The bewilderment of not knowing can be more painful than the rejection.
Possible explanations:
- his spouse found out and put the hammer down,
- immigration authorities finally caught up to him,
- he got lost in the woods,
- he fled the country with the loot,
- a rich cougar enticed him to her private island where he attends to her every beck and call and desire,
- and last but not least, he found someone more interesting. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 4:23:53 PM |  HELLO WENDY!!!!!!!!....Peter Pan has flown the coop! | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 4:42:29 PM | Spring babe..as what I said..i dont want to call him.
He knows my number and knows where to reached me .Ive already answered what he asked from me.The other poster said:probably he wanted just fun and I want more, probably you are right or make sense but of course, im not asking him to marry me...gee thats a looooooooooonggggg way to go..im still young and I am still enjoying life.
Probably he's one of the modern men who cant say straight that they dont want to enter a relationship just a free bang.
I remember he said:I adore you and I am enjoying kissing you.soooo...
anyways,part of my post is to get knowledge how the modern relationship takes place over relationship more decades ago.
I chose to post here because Ive seen mostly posters here are mature and have more experiences regarding dating and relationship advice.
If he wont call me anymore..thats okey..there's no shortage of men.
I told him straight what I wanted in a relationship...its up to him how he would make it happen.
BE--thanks for those possible explanations but none of those fit for him.
he is single,never been married and will turn 38 pretty soon. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 4:51:40 PM | I would think after 10 days that it would be clear in your mind of what has happen on his end. So my dear pull up your pantyhose and head on down the POF side walk and go shopping for fresh produce! | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 5:23:15 PM | I wonder if he is sitting at home waiting for you to make the next move?
My Ex husband told his first g/f (after our separation) that he had never married, and did not have kids as well... just sayin' | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 5:34:58 PM | OP^^^
BE--thanks for those possible explanations but none of those fit for him.
he is single,never been married and will turn 38 pretty soon.
So he would have you believe.
Accept the fact that many people, both men and women, are very good at deception. It is not uncommon to hear of people with more than one marriage at the same time and neither spouse is none the wiser for years.
My point is you've known the guy for a month. How well do you really know him? Not very well I suspect, based on the fact you started this thread.
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Posted: 7/3/2009 5:45:17 PM | | Its because you are a Chicago Blackhawk fan I think | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 8:44:05 PM | | What's wrong with you calling, you both need to communicate and find out? I could give you many answers, but the main one, is make the effort to call and TALK TO HIM. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 9:16:51 PM | | OP, well, you can look at it as a lesson well learned and remember when you are the OP of this kind of topic, some people could be a lot nicer. You didn't do anything wrong. He did. And you are better without him your life. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 12:23:26 AM | Perhaps, he does not want a relationship after all, with a "girl who likes to travel".
You did have an earlier thread on this subject.
Or, perhaps he is just a Jerk, and you need to "suck it up" and move on.
Or .... quit travelling?
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Posted: 7/4/2009 12:25:03 AM | If your girlfriend doesn't call you within ten days you better call her and ask her what is wrong.
If a guy you are dating doesn't call you within ten days - he doesn't think he is still dating you, he is in jail and doesn't want to tell you about it, or he is a control freak and wants to see how needy you are. If you call him you are either stalking him or asking for abuse.
The OP is perfectly correct. And don't take him back either - not for any reason.
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Posted: 7/4/2009 9:38:24 AM | good morning fellow Vancouverites.
thank you all for your contributions to my post.
post 11--I dont think he is waiting for my call--he used to call me especially when he just started knowing me.Now that we are dating(?) ,I dont think the calls would change and it will start on me.
I do believe he is single Ive been to his place once-- he owns a bachelor fad.(No,I didnt sleep with him if people thought visiting to a man's place would leads to sex).
post 13--lol...funny comment..yes he is a canucks' fan.I like to date a man that we are on different teams.Its more fun--the challenge of watching your team losing from the other team is exciting!
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What im going to ask? where do I stand?For what..for an assurance?He knows that I like him and he knows what I want to happen someday.I am the one who doesnt know what he wants from me.
He should have said the same answer like mine if he wanted to go further in our "friendship stage"Infact..he just said..i like you.what kind of like..he likes me because I am fun to be with and probably just for a bang in the future?.
post 16--ha ha not only that I like to travel I drink a LOT too,wouldnt it be another turn off to a man?Rest assured that I drink responsibly and knows when to stop.
Lastly post17--thanks --I wont call him and NO I wont ask what he feels towards me I want him to tell me what he feels on me .Im not good in guessing and I cant read people's mind.At almost age 38,,he should know how to communicate without doing BS.
I want to know what he wants in a relationship on his OWN terms so that I could do my own assesstments if a man worth to date with or not. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 9:39:58 AM | My knee jerk reaction (it's usually correct)......
Run, run fast and never look back.....
This guy at the very least is inconsiderate , a sign of things to come, no one needs that. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 12:29:14 AM | | @ msg#18 ..... ahhh, so you saw what I saw. I did wonder if it was "just me". | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 2:01:28 AM | | Did you wear flip flops the last time you were together? | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 5:36:34 AM | I see all the Wingnuts have been released for a weekend pass.
soooooooooooo OP..... I personally think that you have waited too long to find out why he hasn't called.
be it unwillingness on your part to make the first move.....to budge... you are standing your ground here... a princple thing. Very noble...but ain't good in a relationship scenario if you expect there to be communication.
this opporuntity has passed.....he too is probably at that point where he no longer wanted to try to communicate.... hard headed type....not wanting to budge... got a sense that there was not going to be much more movement or communication about a possible future relationship.
damn Venus and Mars people.... we are on Earth now... talk to each other!.... pick up the phone and call and say hello before it is too late and you are left to wonder what the hell happened....and then you go to a bunch of strangers on the internet who are single and have no relationship for the answers....................sheeeeeeeeeeeeesh.
ask him...don't ask us!....and btw...I think you are way too late .... what...2 weeks have past?....it's history now. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 8:19:55 AM |
I see all the Wingnuts have been released for a weekend pass
No kidding, lol! ^^^^
I agree, 2 weeks has passed, it is over now. You should have called him after 2 or 3 days and talked to him about this, but it is too late now. Move on | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 9:24:56 AM | WWR..I like your explanations..very well input.Thats all I want to hear
thanks. | |
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