| Need some help with my profile
Posted: 7/3/2009 7:51:22 PM | I get a lot of people looking at my profile, but not that many contacts.
The guys that do contact me tend to be seriously not my type, children looking to be toyboys (not so bad now I realised how to set the age thing), barely literate or just looking to be friends.
The only one who I did rather like sent a few messages saying he wanted to be friends, suddenly announced he was falling for me while I was offline for a couple of days then deleted his profile.
I figure that's not going anywhere ;-)
Any ideas appreciated & be as brutal as you want - it's my first time on a dating site so I've never even tried to write a profile before.
I've had a few messages from people pretty much complaining that my profile is too long so I'd love some help with cropping it.
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| Need some help with my profile
Posted: 7/3/2009 10:14:48 PM | | It's as good as any. It's not polished, but it sounds genuine. Like your photo. Honestly you may want to get another one, but keep this one as well- nothing worse than meeting someone with expectations based on one perfect photo taken at the most flattering angle and having them turn out nothing like you thought, in a bad way. | |
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| Need some help with my profile
Posted: 7/3/2009 11:24:42 PM | Thanks for the feedback guys.
I know I need to take a few more photos so I'll get right on that.
Any other suggestions for polishing up what I've got?
I pretty much just threw words on the page & called it done. | |
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| Need some help with my profile
Posted: 7/3/2009 11:38:11 PM | | your pic is good...especially at 4 in a.m. wit no makeup...very impressive. like homeboy said just need more pics, make sure they're normal pics and not just artsy or model pics...be doing everyday stuff or out wit friends and let someone else take the picture of u. shorten your sentences...i like 2 read but by paragraph 5 i was ready 2 move on. don't go in2 depth in your descriptions...make quick snippets. mention the authors you like, if someone bites then start talkin' with them about how they're all dying off. any1 who reads sci-fi should know at least one of those authors so that's how u can spot the b.s. artist lookin' 4 sex or whateva. i didn't even read through your date section....2 long. make simple, don't over analyze which is what it looks like u do with a lot of stuff. you're obviously intelligent but u might be 2 intelligent but it's good that u c that you're profile is 2 long and are asking for help. | |
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| Need some help with my profile
Posted: 7/4/2009 2:47:01 AM | If it ever stops raining I'll have some new pictures & I've taken on board the too long comments but could anyone suggest what to remove?
Okay, I have to ask this, what does "you might be too intelligent" mean exactly in the context of getting a date/contact via my profile? | |
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| Need some help with my profile
Posted: 7/4/2009 3:18:52 AM | Yup, a couple more pics would really do you justice. You certainly are a beautiful woman, and at the risk of sounding like a pig I have two suggestions. 1) Take a pic with make-up on. Nothing over the top, just you as you might look on a casual date. 2) Get a friend to take a pic of your whole body. Even the best of us draw conclusions based on what a potential candidate chooses to show (or, rather, hide) in his/her pics. We may be gentlemen, but we will still assume the worst. Also, when I see a profile with only one pic, I take a mental note that the profile might be a fake used for spamming.
As far as your profile goes, there's a lot of interesting stuff there. Honestly, I didn't finish it all though. Your paragraph structure makes the whole thing a bit difficult to follow...one sentence per line can get a bit rough after 15 or so lines. Also, the vibe I get when reading it doesn't exactly feel like "confidence." Haha, for God's sake, don't apologize to us for taking the time to read your profile. Any woman with your natural beauty and a fondness for martial arts movies and computer games should have no trouble finding love.
Eh, hope this helps some.
Oh, and I have no clue what he meant by "you might be too intelligent." Personally, I like my women to be smart. =P | |
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| Need some help with my profile
Posted: 7/4/2009 4:03:38 AM | Thank you for the compliment & I don't see how your suggestions could make you sound like a pig - seem like pretty solid advice to me & I appreciate it.
I've been chopping bits out of my profile & trying to tighten it up so hopefully it's easier on the eyes.
I was curious about one of the points you made, which is the confidence comment.
Frankly, I'm not particularly confident about the idea of posting images on site or too much information because I'm used to people online assuming I'm male because of my interests so I'm finding it a bit weird to be exposed as female.
I don't lie, I just use a non gender specific user name & let people think what they will.
I am normally a pretty confident person so I'd like to have that come across in my profile.
Outside IRL, I'm comfortably invisible to hormonal boys now I'm a middle aged woman & men tend to assume I must be with someone so they don't bother me.
The flip side being of course that they don't ask me out which is what landed me here in the first place. | |
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| Need some help with my profile
Posted: 7/4/2009 5:09:10 AM | | I just read your profile and obviously after you had done some "chopping" but it read just fine to me. I like your picture and that you weren't afraid to post one without any makeup. You look attractive without being pretentious. But I do agree with the other guys' comments that you ought to post some more photos. Full body pics give us a better idea of what you like and yeah, one or two with make up would give us a view of the more "glamorous" you. All and all I think its a good profile and would certainly catch my eye if I were in the UK. Hope you find a great guy on here. | |
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| Need some help with my profile
Posted: 7/4/2009 5:20:49 AM | It's a good profile. You're certainly someone with lots of interests and your own life which in my opinion is an attractive quality.
My main feedback though is that you've possible written too much and that I don't get who you are in a nutshell. Maybe keep it a little more jovial too as the tone, coupled with the photo (which I know you are working on) comes off quite serious.
Having said that I would guess that whilst you may receive fewer emails for having a more in depth statement you will hopefully find that you get higher quality messages (weirdo's/sex maniac's aside!) All the best. | |
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| Need some help with my profile
Posted: 7/4/2009 12:32:36 PM | | as far as too intelligent. it's obvious that your intelligent by your many interests, especially reading. at same time your so in depth in everything that you might tend to over-analyze what your inputing. you seem to second-guess a lot of stuff. pay little attention to what i say about your intelligence...it's a good thing, just tone down over analysis of everything. take off anything that makes you look negative...like the last sentence in your interests. you are bagging on your own pic...take that out...sounds like you're fishing for a compliment even though you're trying to sound modest. remove the unique thing about you. it's kind of frivolous and doesn't add anything to your profile. when you get to know someone then go ahead and tell them about your magazine experience. remove last part of date section. your over-analyzing again. | |
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