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Posted: 7/3/2009 9:35:52 PM | I want peoples opinions on there experiences... I know there are a lot of rules in dating and relationships and some acceptions... But do you guys believe if a girl moves for a guy.. starts a new job... and then after a month or so he sends an e-mail talking about going different ways.. (total relationship at 3 months) Do you believe it works out, or is just dragged on for a while?
My belief is once a guy tries to walk, its a matter of time to do it again... kinda like sex.. you do it once... it will happen again.. or once you talk down to someone its easy to find yourself doing it again...
Also I believe if you move this fast in a relationship its screaming out how desperate you are and how unhappy you are... And your living a fake life, just trying to prove a point to others, that you do have happiness, only to find yourself dealing with yourself and your sad emotions down the road... whether it be 3 more months...a year...2 years or even 10. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 10:05:49 PM | this depends on a lot of factors - bit IMO less then a month to move would be WAY to fast for me!
I could see moving if it was not too far - say under a 30 minute drive fairly quickly if there is a good reason, like if the person wanted a job change anyway.
As for the other bit - once one side has "checked out" of the relationship, that's pretty much the beginnig of the end. Things can go on for a short while that way, but it really can't last. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 10:33:49 PM | and then after a month or so he sends an e-mail talking about going different ways.. (total relationship at 3 months) Do you believe it works out, or is just dragged on for a while? He sends an e-mail talking about going different ways and what they don't go different ways and they work it out? You have me confused. Easy to do, but please explain if they broke up, why they really broke up, did they sleep with others and some other details. Yeah, every situation is totally different, different people, different lifestyles, different places they live, etc.
I was married for 18 years, my ex and I had our spats and split up. I don't think moving to a different area would make a bit of difference in the spats. What the spats were about and how or if they were resolved did make a difference. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 1:35:10 AM | If I read your story right, this is an excellent evidence that you should only move for your own reasons, and not for some guy you just met and certainly not if you have to give up your job and friends to do it.
As far as it "working out," once someone says they want to go their separate way, what's there to work out? They want out, the end. Besides, even if they WERE to try after that, there would always be the fear at the back of her mind that he'd take off on her again. So trust is ruined. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2009 5:21:30 PM | they never offically broke up I guess... they had the conversation, but guess it was just him being stressed... they have been living together ever since this has happened, and now they are on about 6 months... I guess he is buying house on his own and they are moving in together, outside of just having room mates.
I am a believer like all of you... I am actually shocked that its going on this long... but guess there are rules and exceptions... I still don't believe in things and situations like this working out... feel like its more or a drawn out process so they don't feel so stupid. That's probably wrong of me to say also... but I just don't understand. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2009 5:43:57 PM | well, apparently everyone is in a hurry to do anything.....just drive around awhile and you'll see tons of people in a hurry to get somewhere.
6 months seems a bit premature but to each their own. | |
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