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Posted: 7/3/2009 10:07:02 PM | | hmmm just wondering here.....i have recently messaged a few of the lovely females on this site....and subsequently got knocked back lol.....which really isnt a problem...im happy to keep looking...but what got me intrigued was the reason......which was the fact that i dont drink lol...just wondering if anyone else has run into any odd rejection reasons??? | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 10:10:06 PM | I don't see an issue with the fact you don't drink ............You can drive 
Seriously as long as you can have a good time who cares ..Cheers. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 10:48:07 PM | Like yourself, I have lost count on how many knock backs I have gotten.
And the reasons I have had, Wow......... Where do I begin.
I have had: You live too far away from me.
It's unatural for a man to have custody of his children.
Too short.
Not enough hair.
You wear glasses.
I don't like the fact you have your children in the photo.
You are a geek.
You sound too good to be true, so you are probably full of it.
You are not my type.
( I never contact anyone that I feel that I would not be compatibe with, like regular drinkers, smokers , anyone that likes using drugs, Too far away or someone that looks like they may have some issues.)
By all means, keep looking you never know. Treat it like playing tasttsloto. Just don't hold your breath. I find most women far too critical and they won't take the time to want to know you, not even as a friend. Don't take it personaly. That's just how they are.A man is usualy more accomodatimg if the woman has children. A woman is not.
( I am only generalising) There is good and bad from both. There is more to us all than just a couple of words and some photos. have fun with the experience. I have come to the conclusion that if the women that I contact don't want to get to know me, then I am better off without them. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 11:44:37 PM | lol your serious? Because drinking and being an a$$ is such a life affirming social ritual. People suck.
Meanwhile, I reject people for contacting with dodgy spelling and half assed attempts at conversation starters. I'm ok with that, I'm not a nice person...
I was told once I was f*cking ugly fat faced wh0re, as kinky as I am, I took that as a rejection. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 1:24:10 AM | | Gee the only reasons I would have, if you did contact me , would be distance I suppose. That and the age gap. Tried the LDR thing..too difficult. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 7:59:00 AM | Your profile states that you Don't drink anymore.....That leads me to ask why?
I once was seeing a guy from this site who hadn't drank for the past 8 years.....Turns out that he couldn't handle his drinking and it wrecked his previous relationship.
Did you have a drinking problem? | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 8:13:35 AM | | no.....i didnt have a drinking issue lol...when i used to drink i was a very happy drunk type of person lol......but the 7 yrs i did in the navy i did a LOT of drinking hehe and am pretty much over it all lol.....plus working in clubs made me see what people look like when they are drunk hehe....and i sorta thought to myself,.......damn do i look like that when i am drunk?? i dont mind the very occasional drink...like one or two for a celebration...but that is it....i dont see the point of going out to get blind drunk anymore.....i dont like the way i felt the next morning hehehehe i have no problem if someone else drinks....including my partner (if i had one) my ex used to go out and have nights out and i had no problem with it at all......i just dont want to do it anymore | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 10:12:32 AM |
lol your serious? Because drinking and being an a$$ is such a life affirming social ritual. People suck.
 It's funny cos it's true.
I pretty much don't drink alcohol either. But I have never made a conscious decision not to... I just never think about it really. I don't mind that slightly pissy feeling it brings but there just always seems to be something else I prefer to drink, tastewise. Local businesses give me bottles of plonk at Christmas, and unless visitors drink it, it just all sits and gathers dust....but to touch my Sprite is to dice with death.
I am not entirely surprised you've had that reaction DJ because 'not drinking' does seem to be something that requires a degree of justification for some reason...no I am not an ex alcoholic, yes I am able to let my hair down without getting sh1tfaced, no I am not a puritan who campaigns against the demon drink, yes I have the obligatory cache of "...I was sooooo drunk" stories to draw from to affirm, erm, whatever it is that that affirms.
But do you find that the more you attempt to explain it, the more some people just sort of look at you like a bug under a microscope?? I've found it's just easier to say you're a 'social drinker' and that way you can slip through security and mix with the normal folk.
And of course once you're out there, there's the necessary camouflage tricks the non-drinker needs in their survival kit. I am sure you are familiar with them...spot the good places to spill/leave the drink someone wouldn't allow you to refuse...softdrink in a wine glass (yep, got a drink, thanks)... a ready story about not drinking because you are still hungover from last night (pats on back for that)... apologetic explanations about "driving" (you have to kind of simultaneously jangle your car keys towards them and scrunch you face with disappointment when you deliver that line...oh the burden of it). But if your camouflage fails, and people notice that you're not drinking at a party, ain't nothing gonna save you from those who are going to now make it their goal in life to fix you.  | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 2:51:36 PM | | Once you've decided to stop drinking and I mean REALLY drinking , it's blissful once you've got yourself off it ! For me it's pretty unappealing , the taste of it , as I never liked it in the first place but used it like a drug to dull pain . So there's no issue for me ... I just smile inwardly and say no thanks or maybe yes if it's a glass of champagne . Many Australians drink too much but I'm not moralising . It was hurting the people I cared about and slowly killing me and I am so glad that I kicked it . Sounds like an AA meeting ? Actually I hated the idea of standing up and defining my complex self as 'I'm an alcoholic ' ... it wasn't for me so I never went to an AA meeting . Works for some but no whipping myself for a 'sinful' habit for me . When you've gotta stop , you've gotta stop . No harm , as Naamah says , in nursing a glass all evening . | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 3:11:03 PM | no, not drinking, whether from past experience, or a cleaned up past, or just because of a personal choice, is not a problem. I drink very, very little - probably could count the number of single alcohol beverages on one hand for the past two years. in those same two years, I have had more fun experiences than I could possibly count.
don't be worried, or nervous about "rejectors"! just keep being straight with people and your turn will come up. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2009 10:11:12 AM | When I go out with a group of friends, I'm one of the few (sometimes the only one) who doesn't drink alcoholic drinks. So the ones who get drunk usually ask me to drive them home. If it's a female friend then there's no problem, but the male friends can find their own ways to get home :)
As long as you're content with not drinking then I don't see a reason for you to change. I won't start drinking just to please a woman - unless she's the last woman left on the planet :) | |
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Posted: 7/8/2009 3:53:07 PM |
Meanwhile, I reject people for contacting with dodgy spelling and half assed attempts at conversation starters. I'm ok with that, I'm not a nice person...
I was told once I was f*cking ugly fat faced wh0re, as kinky as I am, I took that as a rejection.
Rejection is rejection, and the reason is not usually important as it is often the first thing that they can think of that sounds least offensive, such as "you are not my type" which really means I find you very unattractive. One person's trash is another person's treasure, and we only need to find one person who is as into us as we are into them, not impress every person we contact. If they are not interested in you it is no big deal, and the reason they give is even less important, it just means you have to wait a bit longer to find someone who is.
By the way I agree wholeheartedly on the lack of spelling, even more astounding when there is such a thing as spellcheck for those who are having difficulties. I had one message that contained absolutely no punctuation at all, just seemed to be one huge sentence, as well as some really dire spelling, and it was such an effort to decipher that I was just too tired to think up a reply.
For those who will feel the urge to post to say the ability to spell and use punctuation is not important, that is fine, it may not be to you but it is to me. | |
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