| Males, can I get a profile review?
Posted: 7/3/2009 10:17:27 PM | I updated pics last week of what I presently look like.
I did delete some of the commentary and added a more playful flair about things that I like and dislike. Does this push some guys away?
I am open to all races but was not sure how to insert it in there without making people think that I would not date my own race.
I did mention about how my children are not part of my dating life to try and assure a man that I am not trying ot make him into my chidlren's father and to relax and focus on me.
I reworded some words and phrases. I want to appear fun and flirty, not skany and open to anything.
I did NOT include any smileys or any cliches. | |
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| Males, can I get a profile review?
Posted: 7/3/2009 10:23:23 PM | Do's and Do nots. Delete the do not's. I've read everywhere on this site that you keep everything positive. Nothing negative. If people are still racist, they WILL NOT contact you and we don't need that type of person.
good luck fishin' | |
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| Males, can I get a profile review?
Posted: 7/3/2009 10:27:55 PM | | Ahhhhh, did not think about that. So delete the whole 'do not' section? I would thinka guy would like a heads up as to what a woman does not like. | |
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| Males, can I get a profile review?
Posted: 7/3/2009 10:59:53 PM | | Ya know, I'm not sure about dumping the turn-offs list in this case. You might sort it for stuff that's true deal breakers, but IN THIS CASE I think a little prescreen isn't a bad thing. Other than that, I think it's good, easy to read, and evocative profile. I honestly can say I'd have some idea what I'd be getting into. | |
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| Males, can I get a profile review?
Posted: 7/3/2009 11:45:31 PM | | well you spell things plain as day. it can go either way. i say your page looks fine and it's good that you have updated pics. i just met a girl yesterday who doesn't quite look like what i thought she did. anywhoo, whether you keep the negatives on or off i don't think it's going to make 2 much of a difference either way but some guys might feel the need 2 push your buttons or mess with you. good luck, i hope it works out whicheva way u go. | |
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| Males, can I get a profile review?
Posted: 7/4/2009 12:52:30 AM | I wouldn't necessarily say get rid of the Turn Off list either, but I noticed in comparison to the Turn On list, the Turn Ons were briefly worded and short and to the point. The Turn Offs were listed with "explanations and/or details" - for clarification, I'm sure, but if there's a way to make the Turn Offs as easy of a quick read as the Turn Ons I think that might help.
Visually, it looks like here's my short list of Turn Ons and HERE'S MY DETAILED LIST OF WHAT REALLY TURNS ME OFF. lol
See what I mean? :)
Hope that helps,
Mark
BTW, I recently made changes to my profile that were suggested to me and welcome any constructive feedback if you have a min to check mine out. THANKS! | |
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| Males, can I get a profile review?
Posted: 7/4/2009 4:52:13 AM | In the interest section if you list an interest followed by a comma, it becomes highlighted and is then searchable.
I like the turn ons. As to the turn offs, you might just say “there are also some turn offs but we can discuss those as we get to know each other”
I don’t think you need to address race at all. The racists among us are not going to contact someone outside their own race and the rest of us really don’t care. I never even thought of that when I did my profile.
Ron | |
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| Males, can I get a profile review?
Posted: 7/4/2009 5:29:48 AM | I quite like the "turn off's" section as it can be a great screening tool.
I would suggest that maybe mentioning that you have mixed race children and your views on that, maybe include a picture of you with them as this will a) indicate that you have a children and b) that they are mixed race. If anyone has a problem with that then they wont look any further and skips a slightly delicate sentence which is difficult to phrase. Remember, a picture tells a thousand words.
I recommend that you write a little more about yourself, i.e. your interests and hobbies etc as these will compliment nicely your likes and dislikes section which I think is a good thing. Hope this helps! | |
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| Males, can I get a profile review?
Posted: 7/4/2009 5:42:47 AM | you are right on the money.you dont need to take anything off.we are all adults here
so that being said you should feel free to say what you want and dont want.Not everything is going to beperfect but at least your on the same page.Good luck. | |
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| Males, can I get a profile review?
Posted: 7/4/2009 7:13:16 AM | I know this was brought up in a previous post but do put commas between the interest. That puts them up as searchable. Just another way for someone to trip across your profile.
Redpolenta | |
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| Males, can I get a profile review?
Posted: 7/4/2009 7:20:28 AM | OK, here is my problem about the children. I am very hesitant to put the pictures because I really do not want them to be a factor. I think as long as I divulge that I have children, it is good and if they want specifics, then when comfortable, I will answer. I am not hiding them as much as screening the guy. A guy before started off immediately about the age and sex of my children and wanted details about their relationship and such. I beat feet out of there as he really wanted to know little about me at that point. I think the man should focus on me and if we continue to see each other, then my children will be introduced. That might sound lame but I have watched the news and seen to often about the mother's boyfriend hurting her child.
I was going to put more down about interests but I was afraid my profile would be too long. I will add maybe a sentence or two.
Thanks all for the suggestions. Please re-review. | |
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| Males, can I get a profile review?
Posted: 7/4/2009 9:46:19 PM | Here's my review for you darlin (just kiddin on the darlin thing)
I think it is important to list racism as a "deal breaker". You do repeat yourself a few times on the subject, but that may not be a bad thing.
Regarding the kids and parenting responsibilities. Since you are new to POF I can only assume you are referring to people you have already met that make you feel that way. You left out the age group of your children. I think that's important to know. If you have 4 kids, ages 4 to 10, I would have to accept that you had little time for anything else if I were to date you. I'd put it out there.
I also wasn't sure if you were saying you don't like people opening doors for you (which is what you said) or did you meant you do?
That's all I got. Good luck and cyaO the pond. | |
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| Males, can I get a profile review?
Posted: 7/4/2009 10:28:37 PM | | I meant that I DO like it, though women are independent, we still like the chivalrous acts. I guess I need to reword that. I am a comma, parentheses, and quotation mark bandit I tell you! | |
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| Males, can I get a profile review?
Posted: 7/4/2009 11:02:31 PM | About the race thing.
I would simply put "race is not an issue when choosing a mate because people are more than skin deep"
Something along those lines that says that u really dont care about race, as though you were blind to it. | |
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