| im not sure whats going on but somthing is up?
Posted: 7/3/2009 11:21:58 PM | okay well i meet this guy from pof he seem really nice and he ask me out.
he keep undressing with his eyes and his verry efection it.
eny ways he rings and texts ,then next week after i stayed at his place he seems to talk about his ex alot as past tense and he sais he hates and he should never been with her and regrets leaving his other ex for her.
he tells me he loves me and all that then but its been a month now he dosent seem to ring me eny more its if i had ring him so i ring him and he sais he call me back but never does .
this week when oer his place he did what he wanted and went on computer i sugguest a moive he said yeah in a thew mintues nevr watched a movie toagther.
its always what he wants to do it should be equal and even online he sais hes not for long and has to go .
onhis other stauts it his single on plenty fish and on face book cause me go on alot on there he said hewontputrealtionshiop with my name cause of his one his ex will say shit .
then later on i ask again then he said wen i move in with him he,ll itchange itthen his week he was talking on mate friend saying he might moving back in with his parnets and nevr told me i had plan to move in so i thought it was a bit werid and seems to stay contact with his exs, tho i did go on cruse and met a couple he know s,
and dosent get up in the moring and seems more mody now i had chat to him a while he said every thing is fine his just busy but when im there dosent he just seems bit on the net alot and with car things. it seems as if theres a distance then now. | |
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| im not sure whats going on but somthing is up?
Posted: 7/3/2009 11:34:08 PM | he hasnt the balls to fess up whats really going on in his head, especially if hes planning on moving in with the parents just to avoid moving in with you or telling you he doesn't want to anymore.
and cuz he wants the Va J J.
You are being used.
He doesn't care about you enough anymore (if at all) if he's using you in this way for his own selfish wants and not taking into consideration what you need/want.
Realize this and move on. First sign shoulda been when he won't put you on his facebook as his gf. Even if his ex would be bothered by it, who is more important? If it's not you, get out.
So basically, leave him. | |
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| im not sure whats going on but somthing is up?
Posted: 7/3/2009 11:43:53 PM | I too found it a bit difficult to decipher...but what I get is that all this is happening within a month of meeting?
OP, you are expecting too much and moving too quickly. After a mere month you should not be thinking about moving in with him and expecting declarations of commitment, in private or in public (like on his facebook page).
I don't know what's going on in his head, but I suspect that he's enjoying you, getting what he can get, and has no plans to take it to the next level. In short, "he's just not that into you," but that should be OK, since he sounds like kind of a jerk. I mean, who spends all their time on a computer when they have a guest in their home? It's just bad behavior. | |
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| im not sure whats going on but somthing is up?
Posted: 7/3/2009 11:46:08 PM | than why would you respond with that?
anyway....you need to dump his sorry a$$...sounds like a major loser...who wants his cake and eat it to.
you are worth so much more than that.
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| im not sure whats going on but somthing is up?
Posted: 7/3/2009 11:46:19 PM | | He seems still attached emotionally to his ex. You are just a person to pass time and now that you have stayed overnight---he already got what he wanted. Do not give him any more of yourself. We all screw up, so be easy on yourself. Take care of yourself and do good things for yourself, but don't give him another inch. Just tell him that you are taking care of yourself, so you cannot spend anymore time with him. | |
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| im not sure whats going on but somthing is up?
Posted: 7/3/2009 11:58:21 PM |
umm he was the one who wanted me to move in and all.
Nooooo, he's the one who SAID he wanted you to move in....possibly as a means of manipulating you? Who knows, maybe he's just a flighty guy who wants one thing today, and another tomorrow. I know it's hard to accept, but SAYING you want something with someone you barely know is NOT the same thing as really loving them and knowing that you want to BE with them. And I think you are feeling pretty clearly that he's pretty....indifferent now?
You have agency. YOU should be able to think for yourself..."hmmm, I barely know this guy...why would I move in?" And...why WOULD you move in with him? It's clear you don't know him at all...even enough to suss out how you should interpret the fact that he spends time on his computer rather than with you when you are there. Think about it. Does it make ANY sense that you know this man so little and yet want to LIVE with him?
Oh...and ignore the guy above who made the Moslem comment. He's a troll. | |
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| im not sure whats going on but somthing is up?
Posted: 7/3/2009 11:59:17 PM | buddy
quit pushing your religion on people
women aren't THINGS you discipline okay..we aren't dogs
HUN,,,dont listen to him
what you need is to get rid of that sack of lying SH*T and focus on you. | |
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| im not sure whats going on but somthing is up?
Posted: 7/4/2009 12:20:09 AM | the reson for moving was cause i still liv at home at monet and wanted to move out and he wanted somone to move in with him to help pay the rent thats why .
yeah he is still says he loves me now and again thow he has had some issues latey with work and hes been stressing out.
cause i just had another of living here .
but i guess the signs are there again i dont it seems to happen to me alot but differnt sittuations.
he was just diffent to other i guys i uaslly fall for but he did stay im here to stay and he wasnt going enywhere.
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| im not sure whats going on but somthing is up?
Posted: 7/4/2009 1:55:16 AM | He seems very unhealthy, not at all trustworthy, and just a downer as human beings go...
Especially in talking about exes, and how he should not have left one for the other, blah, blah...
You seem fairly inexperienced and innocent, or you would have seen this and ran away from the insincere crazy man long before you posted this here.
the reson for moving was cause i still liv at home at monet and wanted to move out and he wanted somone to move in with him to help pay the rent thats why .
yeah he is still says he loves me now and again thow he has had some issues latey with work and hes been stressing out. If you need someone to rescue you, you'd better look in the mirror. Stay with your parents, work, save, get your own place when you have a few month's rent saved. Do not continue to date men who use and dispose of you, because they find you're easy to lie to, and take advantage of.
Good luck.
I'd better go read other responses, and see if things have changed, and any of this is relevant... M | |
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| im not sure whats going on but somthing is up? Discipline can also be self imposed.
Posted: 7/4/2009 3:34:36 AM | Huggerz11
1) I don't think Kid A...Amnesiac is pushing his religion, if you check his profile he says he's a baptist.
2) I don't think you can discipline THINGS, seeing as things are inanimate (Spelled Correctly?), also, people can be disciplined without equating them to/with dogs. Parents, Emploeyers, Police, and Spouses do it all the time.
Discipline can also be self imposed.
3) I think your taking the word discipline out of context. Like most words in the english language it has more than one possible meaning depending on it's context and application. I doubt it was being used in the context of a man chastising, punishing, or training her. Rather I think the word discipline was being used in the context of self-control, stabilty, strucure, cultivation, development, self-government etc etc.
I think sometimes some women can take the whole " I am woman, hear me roar " thing a wee bit over board and apply it in places where its not really applicable. That's such a pet peeve to me, and it really grates my nerves. I hope I'm not being offensive. My appologies if I'm ranting, have gone to far off the main subject, or have misunderstood the context of your post/statement. | |
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| im not sure whats going on but somthing is up? Discipline can also be self imposed.
Posted: 7/4/2009 4:07:20 AM | I disagree but also agree with Jlurch.
First, the disagreement: JL, in this case, you are the one who has taken the word discipline out of context. KA Amnesia put it together with some notion of a relationship with a man who is Muslim. There is a clear implication there that Op should involve herself in a romantic relationship with a disciplinarian and also the stereotype that a man who is Muslim will be authoritarian and dominant in a relationship.
But in fact I agree with JL's point to the OP: you really do seem to need to learn some self discipline. You are too trusting of what this man says to you (i.e., that he loves you) and not paying enough attention to his actions and how he behaves toward you and with you.
Talk is cheap! Pay attention to what he does and base your decisions on his behavior.
Some discipline in your use of the English language would be a good idea too. Maybe it is not your first language. Maybe you were never taught properly. So take advantage of your youth and take some classes in grammar and spelling. You will never regret spending time learning to communicate well. But, I suspect you will regret time spent with this man you've been seeing. | |
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| im not sure whats going on but somthing is up? Discipline can also be self imposed.
Posted: 7/4/2009 4:36:51 AM | 1 .Well im not going for a muslim and never will dont agree to that but i get the point on what you saying .
2. Thanks for the avdice from eveyone who wrote commet well the good ones
3 If they had a edit put where you can edit i would i was in a rush and never been that good at spelling and grammer okay.
4 I speak english verry well thank you.
5 Not many peolpe have said i love you to me.
6 I never regret enything ill always learn somthing from it.
5 Well i think i know whats happend i think he excpet to much and has fellings for exs wich he hasnt gotten over yet cause i think ive seen this action before with a differnt guy i was with along ago but dint realise it. ill watch the actions a closey .
He is open a bit also i forgot to put he also has ADHD that doesnt make a differnce does it? | |
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| im not sure whats going on but somthing is up?
Posted: 7/4/2009 6:48:33 AM | When you have people of this calibre getting together, Hillbillies for short, there will always be troubles that can never be permanently solved. They cant think strait for any length of time, and a problem solved one day is back on the table the next. There is a highly successful TV show that is dedicated to Hillbillies like these called the Jerry Springer Show.
How can anybody that has no skills or education be expected to deserve anybody else that isnt equally impaired? Officials call them the population of functional illiterates. They created all these problems for themselves by screwing off in school and not learning how to think and do for themselves.
How can I advise you to dump this jerk and find a better quality guy, when I know a better quality guy isnt going to be interested in Hillbillies? If you have an awesome body, then you can temporarily catch a great guys attention. But the Hillbilly in you will soon turn these guys off and you will be dumped in any manner of ways.
Unless you can make serious changes in your life to upgrade yourself considerably, you are pretty much stuck with what you get and you will always have problems being as happy as you want to be. I wish I could say something more positive here, but its your reality and non of Jerry Springers sound advice has done anything to fix the problems of the Hillbilly world in the 15 years it has been aired. But it certainly is fun to watch.  | |
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| im not sure whats going on but somthing is up?
Posted: 7/4/2009 7:43:34 AM | OKAY IM NOT A ****ING HILLBILLEY
Im just a down to earth person and laid back a friendly nice person.
Yes i did finshed school went up to year 12 and graduted thank you verry much.
I cant help the cirstances im in at the monet. long story .
You don't even know me.
It's been a while since i used writing stuff and yesi do have skills,just not in this area.
I've only put this up once .
ive been noticeing some stuff latey i wasnt sure about. | |
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| im not sure whats going on but somthing is up?
Posted: 7/4/2009 8:08:31 AM | OP ... you are the person putting all the effort into this relationship. It sounds as if at one time he was into you, but something is different now and he's just not that into you. I know, the phrase is getting real old, real fast, but it's the truth. It happens. I would stop putting so much effort into this man and move on. There are others out there that will see the good in you and appreciate you for what you have to offer, give them the chance to get to know you and appreciate you. This guy seems a bit pre-occupied right now. Maybe he will come around, maybe not, but don't put your life on hold waiting for him, move forward and let things fall will there will. Maybe you two will build something together, maybe you'll build something with someone else, but no use waiting for him if he isn't ready right now. Live your life, have fun, do things that make you happy. Good luck to you.  | |
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| im not sure whats going on but somthing is up?
Posted: 7/4/2009 8:24:51 AM | Ok so you really can do better then him
He is doing stuff that you arent aware of and planning things but not sharing them with you. You dont decide together what you will spend time doing its all about him.
thats not love thats just having a girlfreind so his buddies dont think hes gay. ( really hes a jerk and you dont need that in your life!)
and you should have a look at your profile yourself. You know that bit about loyalty? something says to me this guy doesnt believe he needs to be loyal and you are acting a bit like a puppy where he is concerned ... big pat on the head and she will be satisfied ... you arnt his puppy!
what you do need is a spell checker and to slow down
but if you are still going to keep up your profile here is the spell checked version of it:
Well I live about an hour and a half from Bendigo
I am about to start a course in information technology which will be two days per week.
I'm not sure want I want to do yet but I definitely want a job using computers or to run my own business.
I love music, I'm into rock, metal.
I’m a shy and quiet one, I listen more. It takes me a while to warm up to someone and I talk on msn more.
I am a quiet sort of person who is sometimes very moody. I tend to be very perfectionist which will cause me to always get things done right but will also stress me out. I sometimes have a hard time getting to know or getting along with people but am very faithful, sweet, and kind once others get to know me.
I wear black and I die my hair.
I’m on my learners hopefully by this year I have my Ps
I have obsessions with skulls and vampires fairies all mystical things
I have an open mind about the paranormal
I also love home and away I grew up watching it.
And generally loud people don’t like me
Most people call me Goth.
Also I’m an amateur computer nerd.
I also want get a tattoo and piercing but my family would go off their head so I have wait until I move out.
My best quality is Loyalty...
Loyalty: It may take some time for me to befriend with someone, but that doesn't mean that I am less approachable, just that I handpick friends who I believe have the qualities and values that I share. Once we are friends I would do all I can to help them out if they ever need it. Because of my loyalty and generosity I tend to develop lasting and quality friendships.
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