| Is a younger age daunting?
Posted: 7/4/2009 4:37:13 AM | I'm 19 and was just wondering if you, as men, would skip over my profile after reading how young I am.
Do most of the women on here seem immature? The people that contact me seem very surprised at my level of intelligence and maturity.
Going in another direction, do you instantly think ''one night stand'' or ''hook up'' when you see my age, or ''a relationship''? | |
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| Is a younger age daunting?
Posted: 7/4/2009 4:41:48 AM | | Personally, I do tend to read younger profiles and think "relationship" but my recent relationships have been with younger girls. I don't think it's an issue as long as you're happy. | |
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| Is a younger age daunting?
Posted: 7/4/2009 4:49:15 AM | Holy cats, a woman here who doesn't go "ewwww, why are all these old guys emailing me?"
And an attractive one at that. Do some of the women here seem superficial, insecure, immature, unrealistic, overcompensating, or otherwise expecting too much to find too much from their partner? Yes.
When I see a woman of any age I want to get to know, all I think is, "I wonder what she's like?" I suspect perhaps someone of a mindset of an easy hookup, shall find what they seek.
Do one of those classic profile pictures where you hang the camera over you so we can all see your cleavage. Apparently they work well here :) lol | |
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| Is a younger age daunting?
Posted: 7/4/2009 4:53:57 AM | At 19 yes I would skip over your profile. From about 18-22 most people finish maturing and change a lot over those years.
If you are looking for someone older you may have to be the one to make initial contact. There are some folks that finish maturing younger and are ready for a LTR at 19.
Going in another direction, do you instantly think ''one night stand'' or ''hook up'' when you see my age, or ''a relationship''?
Age plays no role in this question. Its how you present yourself in all contacts for how you are going to be viewed. | |
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| Is a younger age daunting?
Posted: 7/4/2009 5:51:57 AM |
I'm 19 and was just wondering if you, as men, would skip over my profile after reading how young I am.
No, I would probably read it, but that would be about it.
Do most of the women on here seem immature?
Not particularly.
The people that contact me seem very surprised at my level of intelligence and maturity.
Many will tell you that to flatter you in hopes of getting somewhere. However, I say similar things about my own daughter and she's not even 6 yet. Sometimes children surprise us only because we're still thinking of them in terms of needing our guidance in most areas of life. When you're 30, you'll look back at 19 and think, "Wow! I didn't know shit!" Anybody who tells you any differently hasn't grown or matured.
Going in another direction, do you instantly think ''one night stand'' or ''hook up'' when you see my age, or ''a relationship''?
I don't think any of those, I just hope you can figure out the difference between who you want and what you want. Once you figure that out, you won't have to ask these questions. | |
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| Is a younger age daunting?
Posted: 7/4/2009 6:45:04 AM | Well I am 40, so a woman being 19, while maybe attractive and sexually appealing, would most likely be annoying as all hell if we tried anything other than a hookup. Nothing personal, just different places in life. Plus when I see couples out dating with that big of a age gap I think "Creepy old guy."
When I see married couples with a huge age different like that, I think "creepy old guy who married young, naive woman in hopes to tie her down."
Now if you were 30 and dating someone who was 50, no biggie. By that time you will have had some life experiences, learned a lot about yourself, etc., etc. At 19-20, you are still very young and very naive about ALOT of things. Older men should realize that and in almost every case I have seen of a very young woman/creepy old coot, the guy is a controlling dirtbag. | |
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| Is a younger age daunting?
Posted: 7/4/2009 6:51:41 AM | Woman at any age are usually more mature than their counter parts....but its been my experience that younger woman dont know how to treat a man intimately as an older woman does....not sure if its the generation or what but they know very little about touching,long kisses and such.... | |
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| Is a younger age daunting?
Posted: 7/4/2009 6:54:35 AM | I think it really depends. When I started seeing my last long time girlfriend, she was 19 and I was 30. While of course she was younger and less versed in long-term relationships, she had a lot of personality traits that I found were more mature than a lot of girls my age. We ended up dating for 3 years.
I don't think it was a mistake. But, having done that, I would now say it was not the best idea for somebody of my age to date somebody under the age of 20. I would probably date somebody who was that much younger than me again (if she were 23 now) but that's because I now realize how much a person does change in that space of time between their teens and their early twenties.
All-in-all, don't get too hung up over whether older men will or will not find dating somebody your age "daunting". Truth is, it is probably in your best interest at your particular age not to date somebody too much older than you as they will have a totally different outlook on what works in a relationship than you would. That difference might make it hard for a relationship to grow equally for both of you. | |
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| Is a younger age daunting?
Posted: 7/4/2009 7:52:49 AM | | I would probably pass by anyone under about 27-28 but that's just based on personal experience. I might give it a go if they had something exceptional in their profile. | |
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| Is a younger age daunting?
Posted: 7/4/2009 8:00:07 AM | | Well to answer honestly, i would not skip over it, but it might not go past a look. I am only 21, but I have lived on my own since 14, so I have grown up a lot. You see at 19 mosy people,( men and women) dont have a clue about what they need and what they want, and are still learning how to take care of themselves without anybody there to do it for them. And to answer your question about a lot of women on here being immature, I would have to say YES! Women don't understand that if they roll there eyes or think they are better, i'll give them a nice compliment and then tell them that even though they may be good looking, they dont look give enough to have that bad of an attitude. I know im a jerk, but I will hold a conversation with any decent person. | |
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| Is a younger age daunting?
Posted: 7/4/2009 8:01:45 AM | | I would pass, but I'm 45. You're a bit young for me. However, younger women have never daunted me. When I was 33, I lived with a woman who was 19. If a 19 yo wanted to have sex with me, about the only thing I'd do differently is check her I.D. I can't see that I'd have enough in common with a 19 yo for more than that though. | |
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| Is a younger age daunting?
Posted: 7/4/2009 8:31:37 AM | Many people think maturity is a function of time. It is not.
I've met 35 year olds, or even 60 year olds, who had the maturity of a 12 year old but figured they were special and wise because they had been around for a long time.
If I were dating you, my question wouldn't be about the now, it would be about the future. What are you doing with your life? What are your plans, your dreams, your ambitions? It's true that a lot of 19 year olds just want to visit the bar and do that as long as they can, but a lot have more going on in their heads than that, and it's those people -- regardless of age -- that I'm interested in more than a couple dates with. | |
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| Is a younger age daunting?
Posted: 7/4/2009 8:40:20 AM | | Your message restrictions specify must be younger than 26, so i assume this question is aimed at guys under that age. I just about fit into that restriction and wouldnt be put off by your age. | |
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| Is a younger age daunting?
Posted: 7/4/2009 9:15:56 AM | | Personally, I would look over your profile, because of the ewewwwww factor, and dont want to be labeled, or thought of as a stalker. But the fact of the matter is I have been messaged by, and have had a few very nice encounters with young ladies who have messaged me. I've actually gone out with a few, and had a really good time. Once you get past the fact that as a couple, you look like a father going out with his daughter to the general public, it turns out ok. In my case, I'm only as old as I feel, and in the young lady's, it seems that she is looking for maturity in a man, that she can't find in a boy her age. It works great for both parties, if approached responsibly. | |
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| Is a younger age daunting?
Posted: 7/4/2009 9:36:46 AM | I wouldn't skip over your profile, if you lived closer to me, but why would you even ask because you have to be 26 or younger to contact you?
Also, I like women who are younger than me, but when I see a 19 year old, I assume that she probably isn't looking for a real relationship, but maybe more of a "high-school" type relationship. But it doesn't stop me from trying.
If I'm attracted to a woman, I'm always thinking relationship, no matter how young. | |
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| Is a younger age daunting?
Posted: 7/4/2009 9:48:10 AM | | I don't skip over anybody's profile based on age, but that's also because I'm looking to date right now and am not really looking for a serious relationship. My thing is, if you can't come out places with me because you aren't 21 then it's not worth it. All of the bars and little spots I go to are all 21+ I think it's that way with a lot of other people. Trying to date anybody under 21 is almost useless | |
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| Is a younger age daunting?
Posted: 7/4/2009 9:48:16 AM | its all about what a person is looking for. I don't date less than 22 and I date up to 32 ,Im 25
Im just more mature , have had my own business since the age of 21 and really done with all the games.
I wanna be in a long term relationship and i wana eventually get married and have kids. within a certain time fram. you are 19 though . you still got a whole life of experiences and things to discover I can't ask you to abandon all that and date some one who has seen it all like me.
in a nut shell yes i would skip your profile,,,, i wont even bother reading it | |
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| Is a younger age daunting?
Posted: 7/4/2009 9:51:18 AM | I would skip over the profile. I have seen a trend in women over 30 that are still "searching" for some experience or the "right" person. While I think this is their choice, that does not mean that I want to be involved in the fallout. I would question the motives in such a range of age. The odds are against the relationship. What would you have in common? Old College memories? | |
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| Is a younger age daunting?
Posted: 7/4/2009 10:43:25 AM | I'm 36 years old, OP. You're 19. What does this mean? Here are the thoughts that would occur to me.
1) When you were born (1991?), I was in my senior year of high school, in the full throes of teenage boy hormone craziness. My 20 year high school reunion will be your 20th birthday.
2) You don't know what you want, and any attempt to engage you in a romantic relationship would lead me into more pain than I think I should have to endure. You're still 2 years off from entering the "I'm out clubbing every night I can get away with it" phase, your attention is a lot more likely to be attracted by pretty boys with shiny cars or bulging muscles, and your social relationships resemble an episode of "The Hills", although this may not be your actual intention. I don't know if this is what you're actually like, but the statistics are in my favor for girls your age being like that. You asked us what we'd think.
3) You're hot and desirable. It's legal for me to think so in every conceivable state in the United States, but it doesn't keep me from thinking that something's a little off about me for thinking that about a girl who is, literally, young enough to be my daughter if I had been a very, very active and very, very naughty boy in high school.
Those are what I'd think. If someone your age wrote me out of the blue on this site, I'd of course take into consideration what was written in the e-mail, and what she'd written in her profile. But if I was just browsing around and came across a 19 year-old's profile, it wouldn't go much farther than thinking "Wow, she's cute" and "Nope. She's 19." | |
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| Is a younger age daunting?
Posted: 7/4/2009 10:43:25 AM | I always read read profiles but I wouldn't date a 19 year old girl. Its not just that the age difference is twice your age its also because you've got lots of personality changes to go through in the next 20 years.
So I wouldn't say a younger girl is daunting. To be daunted you have to want to try in the first place. | |
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