| Would you ever consider?
Posted: 7/4/2009 8:48:11 AM | Here's a genuine question would you ever consider dating
some-one in a wheelchair? please honest answers it's just i would
love feedback and just curious to see how many people would
and how many people wouldn't.....please be honest you will certainly
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| Would you ever consider?
Posted: 7/4/2009 8:51:12 AM | | I would not consider dating that is already wheelchair bound. Too many limits on things we could do together. I would not dump a long term relationship if they became disabled(sorry if that term is offensive). | |
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| Would you ever consider?
Posted: 7/4/2009 8:54:45 AM | dont be silly no need to apologise like
i said i wanted honest answers thankyou sweet
i expect a few comments like that   | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 8:55:34 AM | I probably wouldn't only cause I doubt if I could tend to his every need.
One lady is on leave for months cause her husband took a turn for the worse. She has a really tough time caring for him(he's a big guy, too)
Thankfully for her, she can retire if she has to. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 8:55:41 AM | | It would depend on how self-sufficient they are. If they were basically independent and quite comfortable in their own skin about their situation .. then possibly. However if their disability entailed me having to look after them as in a care-giver scenario, then no, I don't think I could. If I already loved them and they were previously in my life prior to being wheelchair bound, then I certainly wouldn't stop loving them because of it. | |
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| Would you ever consider?
Posted: 7/4/2009 8:59:50 AM | yup .. I would .. the chair wouldn't be a concern for me at all ..
Would you consider dating a woman who trods barefoot on crushed gravel?? .. 
Seriously - I don't care about the chair - it is Who is in it that I'm either into .. or not ..
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| Would you ever consider?
Posted: 7/4/2009 9:03:11 AM | | it's certainly not a deal-breaker but i am wary of men who can escape quickly. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 9:07:01 AM | I did consider that in my paid site days..I was supposed to meet up with a nice guy I was chatting with who was in a wheelchair. Set a date he told me would email me back with a place...then he backed off ..so I decided to ask another friend to go with me to a festival in a nearby city.
We went and guess who was there? He was there at the festival at a station tent - (an information/pamphet give way tent)behind the table ..I was working my way to the table when I saw him chatting with another gal and he invited her to the back of the table to sit with him..
He did not see me coming..so I just passed the tent and understood that he invited more than one gal to meet him that day.
I never heard back from him ..so it must have went well..good luck to him . | |
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| Would you ever consider?
Posted: 7/4/2009 9:13:15 AM | | I had a friend in Oklahoma who was confined to a wheel chair, his dating life seemed to be just fine. As a matter of fact, for whatever reason, his wheel chair actually attracted quite a few ladies. Apparently he even had quite a good sex life, even though I don't know how that works. | |
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| Would you ever consider?
Posted: 7/4/2009 9:15:29 AM |
Apparently he even had quite a good sex life, even though I don't know how that works.
not an admission you should be making on a dating website... | |
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| Would you ever consider?
Posted: 7/4/2009 9:20:43 AM | | Yes, I would date someone in a wheelchair. Like another poster stated, as long as I didn't have to take on the role of caretaker, as long as the man was able to be independent and do things independently, than yes, I would date someone and not consider the wheelchair an obstacle. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 9:27:27 AM | | Please, take that snide little comment and put it back in your pocket. He was paralyzed from the waist down. I would assume that would also effect his gentiles. I never asked him about more details of his own sex life because I felt it was quite personal. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 11:27:22 AM | I have...
That I met here at POF..
about three years or so ago..
A very GOOD and sexy woman..
I could not and would not allow
myself to be used as she was allowing
her "family" to use/abuse her..
Can't argue with/about family..
It ended..
But we all have our "limitations"..
some are quite obvious"..
and others hide their's quite well..
---SoldierByte--- | |
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| Would you ever consider?
Posted: 7/4/2009 11:29:16 AM | I have dated a guy in a wheelchair.
Other than making sure the places we wanted to go where wheelchair accessible, I don't recall there being anything that made dating him different than any other guy
He played on a basketball team and even did the Boston Marathon a couple of times. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 11:42:38 AM | Nope...there are enough challenges with getting a relationship started without adding the challenges of someone being disabled and all of the associated baggage that their family and friends bring with them.
Of course, I'm a few decades older than OPie, so I wonder how that changes the scope of the responses.
I have a niece who married a guy she used to know in HS who had since then been in an accident and was a full para and a partial quad. The marriage lasted about 4 years...basically she couldn't take his constant bemoaning the state of his life...his opting to stay high all the time including failing at a job as a draftsman he got trained into after the accident. She found out later why she quit seeing him in HS...he was a loser then, and being disabled but still alive hadn't changed him.
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Posted: 7/4/2009 11:54:20 AM | | I have a handicap brother wheelchair bound and it takes round the clock nurses to care for him. Would I date one? NO. I could never meet his needs. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 11:54:25 AM | | I wish more women would accept a man in a wheelchair. It would make my life much easier. The ones who won't because they don't want to be a caretaker really upset me. They need to put themselves in the position of someone in a 'chair and ask themselves if they needed would they want someone to be there. Love is unconditional. That means being a caretaker for someone that needs it. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 11:57:34 AM | | I would do more than consider it....I would actually date a man in a wheelchair.... | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 12:01:59 PM | | I don't think I could start a relationship with someone in a wheelchair. In all honesty I think there would be too many limitations. Now, if I was with someone and something happened to put them in a wheelchair, I don't think I would have the heart to leave them. But it would be really difficult. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 12:06:02 PM | | Yes I would if he and I were on the same level in terms of values, beliefs, and life goals. If our interests were the same or similiar. If he possessed the qualities I seek in a man (loyalty, good communication skills, and positive personality to name a few). A man in a chair is the same as a man who isn't. We are all human and deserve to love and be loved. :) | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 12:09:39 PM | Honey? I fell head over heels in love with a man this year and I'm used to the very best of everything. I traveled to Europe every year and stayed in the best hotels.. Rome, Spain, Greece...and many other countries as well as wine tastings in Washington, DC on a weekly basis. I was used to the best.
The man I'm in love with doesn't have the best of everything. He lives in an RV park and has nothing....but if he was in a wheelchair and lived under a bridge I swear to
God I wouldn't love him any less and I would take care of him like a mother lioness takes care of her cubs..have you ever seen a mother lion take care of their own when threatened? It isn't pretty, hon. They will face anything in order to take care if their cubs or S/O whether they're in a wheelchair or not.
Sans | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 12:12:09 PM | | Why not if the person and yourself are compatible then yes. If that person cant accept the fact your in a chair then they are not the person for you. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 12:14:52 PM | | someone's got awfully thin skin. i know as little about your friend's genitals as you do. | |
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