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Posted: 7/4/2009 8:50:46 AM | | HI my name is Dwight and I have a Question. I met this girl on Plenty of fish and she seemed like a really nice and ginuine person but as I got to know her, I found out she does a ton of different drugs, she doesn't have a car, no goals, no morals and me being an african american male who is trying to go places and finish college I'm stuck. Should I try to fix her ways or Go about my business and let her live her life the way she's already living it????? | |
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| I need Help Ladies
Posted: 7/4/2009 8:57:17 AM | | In my opinion, you should move on, she's not the right person for you. | |
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| I need Help Ladies
Posted: 7/4/2009 9:00:25 AM | Okay...
1. What does your being an African American have to do with anything in this scenario?
2. You didn't adopt her. It's not your job to fix her.
3. You aren't "letting her" live her life - she's living what she wants to live. Now it's your decision whether or not you want to ride that train.
TDA | |
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| I need Help Ladies
Posted: 7/4/2009 9:02:18 AM | | weather your african, white, spanish, is not an issue, run forest run, you cant fix her, she has to fix her, now get back to class ! | |
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| I need Help Ladies
Posted: 7/4/2009 9:10:23 AM | | Thanks all, I appreciate the info and advice. I just feel bad for people that look like they could do so much more but hey I have to do me cause if I let her bring me down I'm not better right. again Thank you guys. | |
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| I need Help Ladies
Posted: 7/4/2009 10:14:19 AM |
I met this girl She isn't a relative, a friend, or a lover. Only she can change her ways when she wants to. Stay away from her, no one needs to get involved with someone like that. You can get arrested for being with someone that has drugs on them, the rest of your life ruined because you want to be a hero. Don't think you want to go there. | |
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| I need Help Ladies
Posted: 7/4/2009 10:16:15 AM | OP - you can't "fix" someone like you can a flat tire or a broken screen door. She has to change her ways on her own.
You are correct; she will "bring you down" to her level if you stay with her.
There are plenty of drug free fish in the sea. | |
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| I need Help Ladies
Posted: 7/4/2009 10:16:39 AM | | What she does isn't your responsibility. So, why would you try to "fix" any of her issues? If her situation bothers you that bad, my advice would be to move on. | |
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| I need Help Ladies
Posted: 7/4/2009 10:21:15 AM | Read the profile MandaKay..He has answered his own question and wasting everyones time.
It must be super glue, the profile is pretty clear . | |
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| I need Help Ladies
Posted: 7/4/2009 10:25:44 AM | | You're very young, so let me give you a piece of advice. There's no need to preface anything you have to say with you being 'AfricanAmerican'. Keep doing what you're doing, going to college and making a good future for yourself. You will meet someone who is on a similar journey. Find someone who will enhance to your life and vice versa, not someone who will drag you down or someone you have to fix. She's made her choices. Make wise choices for yourself. | |
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| I need Help Ladies
Posted: 7/4/2009 11:25:00 AM | It's very nice of you to care, but you can't change her.
Only she can.
Finish collage, have fun, and move on to someone more compatible with your goals.
best of luck! | |
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| I need Help Ladies
Posted: 7/4/2009 5:11:29 PM | Just out of sheer curiosity, how would you go about helping her? You listed a whole laundry list of things that she suppposedly needs, where would you start? Are you gonna buy her a car? I would think not. Are you gonna drag her to a drug rehab? I would think not. Are you gonna take her to church to help her learn some morals? Maybe, but not likely.
Even if you could do all of that, would you really do it? The honest answer would be no. | |
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| I need Help Ladies
Posted: 7/4/2009 11:30:28 PM | ditch her.
You don't wanna do the same thing many women are foolishly notorious for doing and thats dating a loser, thinking she can change him. I know theres not a whole lot in the dating pool for us guys, but you could find someone better than that! | |
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| I need Help Ladies
Posted: 7/4/2009 11:34:42 PM | | Looks like you got your question answered by now, but I throw my vote in with, "you can't help her." Sadly, she must decide to change, you can't make her want to. | |
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| I need Help Ladies
Posted: 7/4/2009 11:59:41 PM | | lmao: " a really nice and genuine person....with no morals"??? is this really a question right now? ditch her. its not ur fight. | |
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| I need Help Ladies
Posted: 7/5/2009 11:50:15 AM | | Dwight, you say she's nice and genuine when she's irresponsible, lazy, and a druggie. Nothing nice and genuine about that. It's not your responsbility to fix her, that's her problem. If she wanted to lead a positive life and go places she would. I'd move on and find someone who is truthfully geunine and nice. | |
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