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Posted: 7/4/2009 11:37:35 AM | Hi,
I am hoping that someone can give me some help or insight.
Let me start by saying this is not a pitty thread.
I was with my ex for 15 years we have 3 kids and i now find out after she left me a year ago she was messing around for the last 5 years we were together with a married man and now she is going to have his baby. She wants us to be best friends and hang out all the time or when we get a chance to. I do not want to but i also want to keep the peace so i can get to see my kids. I am trying to move on but i am finding very hard cuz when a girl finds out that i have 3 kids and they are my world they seem to back off.
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Posted: 7/5/2009 2:13:37 PM | I don't think 'most' women would back off just because you have children..
The 'ex' being your bestest bud? .. no .. no no no ..
"Most" of us prefer the ex be just that - an Ex. Yes it's important to be on friendly terms - for your children. But no .. no need to be hanging out.
If I were you I would tell my EX that it is great that you can be on good terms, let her know that you appreciate that .. and also tell her you don't want to hang out with her. period. Be firm .. be nice.
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Posted: 7/5/2009 4:56:39 PM | ^^^^^Icky Icky.. and now I feel like I need another shower. We don't talk like this on the east coast. :P
Now to the OP.... I would remain civil with your ex for the sake of your children but that is where it would end. The kids just need to see you getting along, and it might send another mixed message if you are NOT together but always hanging out.
You need to move on with your life, and let her do the same.
And most women will accept a man with children if they care enough about the man. :) | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 1:33:18 PM | | If you hang out with the ex as friends then it'll show your children that there are no boundries in a relationship. You best bet is to just keep it civil. When she asks you to hang out make sure the kids are around and just hang out with them. Make them the reason you came around. If she asks you to go out somewhere just make up an excuse, she'll eventually stop asking. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2009 12:07:09 PM | plus-s4me - let Me put it This way - for You!
This is a LOCAL forum, while we Usually welcome people from other places to post here - it is Against Site Rules. So is Flaming, BAshing, Baiting and/or making Offensive comments.
If you have Nothing constructive to say about the Topic - please note - commenting about the poster vs the topic is Also against site rules =
If you are not going to be civil (as another poster already 'suggested') - I will report you to site admin/moderators. It's up to you if you want your posting privileges removed or left as is. * Note - IF you are reported and your posting privileges are revoked - that means for All forums, not 'just' PEI.
Thank you and have a nice day.
OT - OP: Don't hang out with your ex. Not only is she your EX - she is Not a friend. Friends don't lie and treat each other the way this woman has treated you. It's not your fault .. however; from here on it is your 'responsibility' to do right by yourself And your children.
All the best to you.
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Posted: 10/30/2009 3:04:01 PM | darlene: what was so "wrong" with the post above you???
I really didnt understand your comment to the previous poster. I reread it over and over, and it seems almost what you said!
OP: Women wont run if you have 2 kids and staying friendly is necessary as everyone here has said. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2009 3:58:07 PM | Hey simplelife!!!  .. thought you should know that "darlene" was referring to another poster who was Incredibly nasty, rude and just plain old gross! Despite several attempts from a few of us - he continued posting really nasty stuff in a Few threads .. so .. I reported him and "they" removed him, his posts, his profile and he is banned for life
Just thought you oughta know .. it's really too bad that the moderators didnt put a note in place of those removed posts .. like "Post removed due to _____" .. when they just delete posts (like in this case) it can cause confusion and even get people p'd off at each other ..  .. sigh .. friggin internet! 
OT - Be "on good terms" with the mother of your children ... I think that is best for Everyone - esp the children (who should be first priority) .. BUT - I do not recommend being "buddies" / Best friends with the EX. nope .. nope .. I don't think that's a good idea ..
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Posted: 10/30/2009 4:33:41 PM | lol yes for sure, i was going crazy reading and reading it over and over lol. ok well thats good to know, yes they should put post removed in its spot.
thanks for the update on that.
thought i was going nuts, was thinking im missing something here. | |
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