| How many times is to many to contact a women
Posted: 7/4/2009 3:33:35 PM | I often heard that you women like to be chased?
If I were to write to a woman and ask if she would like to talk?
How many times is to many times to reach out to her?
Is it wrong to follow up on my inquirer to talk or should I let it be after one try?
Do I sometimes get lost in the amount of responses a woman gets in a weekly basis? | |
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| How many times is to many to contact a women
Posted: 7/4/2009 3:39:24 PM | Being 'chased' on the inernet can easily become freaky and weird.
If you send a woman a message and she doesn't reply, leave it be. Move on.
If you send a woman a message, she gives you a positive reply, you send her back a message and then she doesn't respond, it might be worth sending the follow up. (if your second message was read)
It's happened to me where I've been busy and forgotten to reply to a guy I honestly meant to reply to. (Or I'll think I replied but it turns out I didn't)
But don't reach out to her more than once before she gives you a positive reply, and even then keep it to 1 message of reminder.
Happy fishing! :D | |
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| How many times is to many to contact a women
Posted: 7/4/2009 3:46:04 PM | | Depends on the woman. In my case, once is enough - if I am not interested, repeated attempts will only piss me off. In fact, I'd rather just approach the men I like in the first place, that way no one gets confused. | |
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| How many times is to many to contact a women
Posted: 7/4/2009 3:48:21 PM | If you take my particular case, the first time is already one too many that I attempt to reach women, if you ask them.
Best to lie in the bush and run over to them and offer free tire-rotation every three thousand miles when you hear their cars not starting.
I dunno. Spelling wise... I would say twenty-seven spelling errors and an atrocious grammar will get you out any door.
Let's see. There is a fine line between "the chase", "the stalking" and "the restraining order." This sort of thing can't be picked up in an academic setting like this one.
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" In fact, I'd rather just approach the men I like in the first place, that way no one gets confused."
Well, if you approached ME, I'd get so confused that I would probably call you princess, revert to my first language, and forget the entire multiplication table.
Just sayin'.
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To the below woman:VVVVVV
Has it happened, ever, that you let them know you liked them and they got sorta... confused? I mean intellectually, just a little bit... like needing a two-month sanatorium stay, not that the entire cosmic universal order of things would change overnight. | |
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| How many times is to many to contact a women
Posted: 7/4/2009 3:51:04 PM | | I don't need to be chased. If I like you, you'll know, If I don't then I'll tell you that as well. And expect you to go away. If you don't...then yeah that's going to be a bit weird. | |
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| How many times is to many to contact a women
Posted: 7/4/2009 3:51:53 PM | Women only like to be chased if they put forth the vibes that they want a particular person to play the game. A random stranger chasing, not so much.
Email once. If you get no response then email someone else. No response = no interest. Follow ups tend to just be annoying.
No, you don't get lost in the shuffle of messages a woman gets. She will respond if she is interested regardless of how many messages she gets on a weekly basis. | |
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| How many times is to many to contact a women
Posted: 7/4/2009 3:53:07 PM |
There is a fine line between "the chase", "the stalking" and "the restraining order.
Fine line?? I hope you're joking!
One time is enough for me, too. Any more than that, he may think persistent, I think annoying...haha. I don't like being chased or chasing as I'm not in 8th grade any more. You pull my hair I will knee you in the groin, though.  | |
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| How many times is to many to contact a women
Posted: 7/4/2009 4:04:26 PM | Up to you OP, if they don't read your first message and haven't looked at your profile, message them till they tell you to
a) Piss off
b) Take them on a date
If they either read and/or look at your profile and you dont get a response move on. Otherwise it can't really be called suspect behavior if they don't respond in some form haha. | |
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| How many times is to many to contact a women
Posted: 7/4/2009 6:47:47 PM | Has it happened, ever, that you let them know you liked them and they got sorta... confused? I mean intellectually, just a little bit... like needing a two-month sanatorium stay, not that the entire cosmic universal order of things would change overnight.
I had no idea dating could cause tuburculosis. Maybe we should all be confined to a mountain retreat and forced to read Thomas Mann for even thinking about it.
By the way, does anyone remember what they called TB in the olden days? It wasn't dropsy, melacholia or the grip. What was it?
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Oh and to answer your question, I would leave it at two tries and less she is something special. Then give it three tries no more. Let's call them at bats. I know you guys find it easier to relate to a good sports metaphor. So three at bats until you are out.
Although personally I would only go for one at bat. | |
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| How many times is to many to contact a women
Posted: 7/4/2009 7:52:28 PM | | I read lots of profiles, and do not send emails out women check profiles just as often as men. why chase at all, women get tons of emails why stand in line? if they like what they see they can say hi also. so therefore for me once is enough or too much | |
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| How many times is to many to contact a women
Posted: 7/4/2009 9:56:50 PM | | 90% of the guys I contact do not reply back to me. The few that contact me first, always get a reply, but not always my instant interest.And once in a while one from a long time ago will try again. Maybe that is what is needed, for the merry go round to go around a couple times? Like one already said, no more than three tries sounds reasonable. And then maybe wait a few months and try agai, if you're interested. | |
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| How many times is to many to contact a women
Posted: 7/4/2009 10:31:13 PM | If she doesn't respond after a first message... once was too many times to contact her!
We only wanna pretend to be chased... and let ourselves be caught by the RIGHT guy. Its called being coy. Coy is not the same thing as being COLD. | |
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| How many times is to many to contact a women
Posted: 7/4/2009 11:00:16 PM | | For once I agree with ^^^^^. A coy woman will give the right guy many chances to get it right and take the bait. Unfortunately, many women don't understand "coy" just as many men don't understand "manners". | |
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| How many times is to many to contact a women
Posted: 7/5/2009 5:43:46 AM |
One attempt is enough. Anything more than that is harrassment.
Brunette B has put this about as succinctly as possible in English. Perhaps now OP and others can memorize it. | |
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| How many times is to many to contact a women
Posted: 7/5/2009 5:47:44 AM |
By the way, does anyone remember what they called TB in the olden days? It wasn't dropsy, melacholia or the grip. What was it?
Consumption. And then in the late '50s, TB also meant "too big" or "two bellies." | |
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| How many times is too many to contact a women
Posted: 7/18/2009 6:57:32 AM | Let's see....
If you write me and I say thanks but no thanks, I would hope you don't write again. I JUST blocked a guy for that. If I take the time to respond--one of those things men always accuse women of NOT doing btw--then take the time to realize that I'm not interested in you...and move on.
Mr. Got Blocked got blocked cause he actually said, after I said no thanks, "why are you on here thin (his misspelled word)? Ummm....I don't owe him an answer for anything. There's no need to engage someone you're not interested in right?
So...if a lady says thanks for writing but I'm not interested, do NOT write again unless it's to say good luck.
No, I don't like to be cyber stalked--chased--pursued--whatever. Not even in real life. If I'm interested, you'll know it.
Don't believe the "women get HUNDREDS of emails everyday" BS you read. Most of us don't. We get mail but it's soooooooooo not like that. If you're interested, write. If you see a read/deleted, don't write again. If you see read...and nothing, wait a few days and say something. Make sure it's not something stupid like hey nice ass or hi there. This isn't instant messaging and there's nothing more annoying than a supposed grown man sending you a kid's message. | |
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