| WHAT KIND OF MEN DO WOMEN REALLY WANT
Posted: 7/4/2009 5:52:47 PM | | WELL FROM WHAT IVE ALWAYS HEARD WOMEN WANT A GOOD GUY RIGHT? NOT FROM EXPERIENCE. ALL THE GOOD GIRLS THAT ARE FAITHFULL AND HONEST AND SWEET SEEM TO BE WITH GUYS THAT ARE ABUSIVE OR CHEATERS AND THEY DONT LEAVE THOSE GUYS. AND THE GIRLS WHO DO LEAVE GUYS THAT SUCK ARE SCARED TO DATE ANY OTHER GUYS BECAUSE ALL THE MEN IN THERE PAST HAS TREATED THEM LIKE CRAP.SO WHAT DO YOU DO TO SHOW A GIRL YOUR DIFFERENT (IF YOU REALLY ARE DIFFERENT) BECAUSE ALL I HEAR IS YOUR TO GOOD TO BE TRUE OR HOW MANY GIRLS HAVE YOU TOLD THAT TO OR YOUR JUST PUTTING ON A SHOW TO GET IN MY PANTS. I MEAN WHAT GIVES IM A GREAT GUY BUT ALL THE CRAPPY GUYS RUIN IT FOR THE GOOD GUYS. | |
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| WHAT KIND OF MEN DO WOMEN REALLY WANT
Posted: 7/4/2009 5:58:05 PM | "Nice guys finish last. Women only like jerks/bad boys/abusive losers.
"Jerks/bad boys/abusive losers have ruined it for all the nice guys, because women have been burned by them and won't give the nice guys a chance.
How can I show girls I am a nice guy?"
If only I had a dollar for every time a thread like this is posted.
OP. Women don't want "nice guys." They actually don't want jerks, either. You perceive them as preferring jerks to you, because those guys are confident enough to approach women and talk to them. They are fun and outgoing and not at all whiny or self-pitying. So those are the guys who end up getting dates. They may turn out to be jerks afterwards, or they may not. When people break up, they tend to portray the other person as a jerk, so it's hard to tell.
Don't be whiny. Don't be a doormat. Don't spend so much time wringing your hands and trying to be a "nice guy." Work on being a better person, instead. A better man.
Oh, and lay off the caps lock key, too. | |
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| WHAT KIND OF MEN DO WOMEN REALLY WANT
Posted: 7/4/2009 6:02:11 PM | Ok ...
A couple of tips....
1. When you type in all upper case this means you are yelling.
2. This is a nice guy thread and will most likely be deleted if the Moderator is not too busy.
3. Get a Profile Review two forums up.
4. Rants are boring... unless they are funny.
5. Ladies do not always go for men that treat them poorly.
6. You are not a nice/good guy....
7. Thread Search is your friend this is redundant.
~Charmed~
Edit: See this is how redundant this topic is... ZM and I wrote basically the same thing.... ~C~ | |
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| WHAT KIND OF MEN DO WOMEN REALLY WANT
Posted: 7/4/2009 6:04:56 PM | | ya, i know what you mean, was out the other night at a birthday party, lots of beautiful girls, but they were with real a**holes, and even the single girls didn't want to talk to me because i was nice, Girls always say they want a nice guy, but always go for the "bad boys ", i know im not the best looking guy you could get but i have more to offer than most of these guys, Im nice, romantic, passionate, loyal, trustworthy, why is that so unappealing to women? | |
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| WHAT KIND OF MEN DO WOMEN REALLY WANT
Posted: 7/4/2009 6:07:20 PM | ^^^Guitar8609, please read messages 2 & 3. I mean, REALLY read them.
Then, if you feel like repeating anything you just said, take a rubber-ended ballpeen hammer and smack yourself with it, anywhere you think it would do the most good.
We've got to stop perpetuating the myth that the reason guys don't "get" women is because women love a-holes. What a load of shyt. That is NOT why you guys can't meet women. | |
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| WHAT KIND OF MEN DO WOMEN REALLY WANT
Posted: 7/4/2009 6:08:39 PM |
OP. Women don't want "nice guys." They actually don't want jerks, either. You perceive them as preferring jerks to you, because those guys are confident enough to approach women and talk to them. They are fun and outgoing and not at all whiny or self-pitying. So those are the guys who end up getting dates. They may turn out to be jerks afterwards, or they may not. When people break up, they tend to portray the other person as a jerk, so it's hard to tell.
And there ^^^ you have it OP, in that neat lil highlighted section ^^^up there.
OP there's a difference between having confidence and and one with arrogance.
Whiney is not something that's attractive.
Probably the reason you feel those men get as you say all the good or nice girls
is that you let those guys shove you to the back of the room and then sit there and
whine about it. Be proactive. | |
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| WHAT KIND OF MEN DO WOMEN REALLY WANT
Posted: 7/4/2009 6:11:25 PM | I so whole hardedly agree!
I saw that reply and wanted to poke my eyes out...
Maybe you were just not appealing to those ladies? Why would ladies that were with boy friends through them selves at you? It is not for you to judge a relationship.
Stop whining and Man up! Sheesh....
~Charmed~ | |
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| WHAT KIND OF MEN DO WOMEN REALLY WANT
Posted: 7/4/2009 6:24:59 PM | How hard dating must be when "all" the women have "xyz" problem because of their past relationships.
Good luck. You'll continue to find "all" the good women unavailable to you. | |
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| WHAT KIND OF MEN DO WOMEN REALLY WANT
Posted: 7/4/2009 6:32:13 PM | It happens rarely, but I actually side with the women in this case. Women do not want asses/jerks. The fact that the traits those guys possess that women DO want happen to go hand in hand with their personality is a misfortune.
I find women typically want nice guys who know how to be a man. Because typical nice guys do not possess the attractive and critically important traits women also desire.
Fortunately, it is far easier for a nice guy to learn how to add the bad boy elements than it is for a jerk to mellow down.
For the record. I am a nice guy learning how to appropriately be bad and women respond a lot more to my favor than previously.
If you're serious about your post, research David D Angelo. The info he teaches is intact. It's no quick fix though, I had not noticed results for several months before things picked up for me. | |
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| WHAT KIND OF MEN DO WOMEN REALLY WANT
Posted: 7/4/2009 6:42:13 PM | For the record. I am a nice guy learning how to appropriately be bad and women respond a lot more to my favor than previously.
^^^
How do you be "appropriately" bad? (without being a big phony with some bogus strategy to score women?)
I happen to be a nice guy with an edge. My edge is that I am a serial killer. I started with the killing when I realized how popular Ted Bundy was and also guys like Richard Ramirez.
I figured, "why not? Anything to get laid." | |
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| WHAT KIND OF MEN DO WOMEN REALLY WANT
Posted: 7/4/2009 6:42:42 PM | How absolutely ridicules...
Bad Boy ... I am so sick of this...
I personally dislike "Bad Boys" but like men with confidence. I know if you treat me badly I am leaving end of story... ignore me, don't call when you say you will, play silly games like not calling for 3 days.
Many so called nice guys just sit back and let life happen and don't participate. But whine when the girls don't choose you.
Make yourself interesting get a hobby, take some courses, get some counseling and find out why you don't have any confidence...
Sheesh....
~Charmed~ | |
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| WHAT KIND OF MEN DO WOMEN REALLY WANT
Posted: 7/4/2009 6:44:52 PM | So, the innocent women are the one's who are addicted to jerks? Is Rihanna innocent? What about Tina Turner? Pamela Anderson even? All three women were physically abused.
I wouldn't want to follow in their footsteps anyhow. What woman would?
Yes, OP. I would love a "nice" guy. One who is actually nice, and not trying to use the term as a cop out.
Did I forget to mention that he has to have balls, and can't be a doormat? Yeah.
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| WHAT KIND OF MEN DO WOMEN REALLY WANT
Posted: 7/4/2009 6:54:57 PM | My ideal guy is someone who I can be sensual with one minute and silly the next! He's the type of guy who will want me to become familiar with his interests, even if they are new to me (such as a sport, type of book, cuisine, or type of music, etc.). He will also be interested in getting familiar with my favorite things too. To me, it's all about caring/being attracted to someone so much that you want to see the world through their eyes...
He's the guy who believes it's great to give each other space too...while I would definitely enjoy spending time with the "ideal him", it's also great to have some space too...I truly believe absence makes the heart grow fonder!
He wouldn't find it strange/difficult to be each other's cheerleader concerning positive endeavor's...but he also wouldn't be afraid to speak up/put me in my place if I was being difficult (which is rare, but hey, we're human, right)!?!
He's the guy who would find my inner and outer beauty attractive when I'm dressed up in a little black dress going to dinner...jeans/t-shirt/baseball cap at a sporting event...or one of his button-down shirts with my hair in a bun while we're having a lazy day lounging around watching TV and ordering takeout.
He wouldn't find it strange/silly if he later found a short poem or love note that I left tucked under his pillow after spending the night at his place...or if I bought HIM a rose, just because...or if I bought a bottle his signature cologne for me to have, just so I could smell it and maybe even wear it to remind me of his essence... | |
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| WHAT KIND OF MEN DO WOMEN REALLY WANT
Posted: 7/4/2009 6:58:38 PM |
For the record. I am a nice guy learning how to appropriately be bad and women respond a lot more to my favor than previously.
You're kidding, right? Do tellllll......... | |
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| WHAT KIND OF MEN DO WOMEN REALLY WANT
Posted: 7/4/2009 7:01:05 PM | I just told you how to appropriately be bad. Research the info from those who went before us and figured it all out.
As far as being something I am not, everyone is exactly this any time they apply themselves to learn any new thing. You do it until it becomes second nature, thus who you are at that time. Until then, sure it could be considered phony.
I never was an advocate of be yourself, that only works when you have what you want. I believe in being your BEST self. That takes awareness, knowledge and application. | |
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| WHAT KIND OF MEN DO WOMEN REALLY WANT
Posted: 7/4/2009 7:04:15 PM | OP,
The women who really want what they say they want, will gravitate towards such a man. People don't do things they don't like to do. If you don't like working in an office, you're not going to spend the money to go to a school to learn such skills. Women are no different when it comes to what they want in men.
Just because some girl says she wants a great guy, doesn't mean she really wants one. A lot of them don't understand the difference between the bad boy who is a "boy" that is bad and a "man" who can be just as exciting, edgy, fun and without all the hurtful attitudes, over-the-top ego stroking and player-type intentions.
Any time a woman (or man) is hurt by someone they trusted, their immediate reaction when seeking someone new is to proclaim their need for a "real, caring, loving, non-abusive" person "this time".
That does not mean she's about to check herself on how she attracts such men - so she can avoid them again. And it also doesn't mean she'll recognize a good man when she sees one. She's just hell-bent on not getting hurt, but still attracted to all those "things" that lights her fire.
Problem is, most people who say they are tired of getting burned, think all they have to do is move away from the stove to be safe. And what they end up doing is hanging out near the door of the same kitchen they got burned in, instead of just getting the hell away from the entire building that the stove resides in.
One thing is for certain: If you're nowhere within reach of the fire, you can't be burned by it.
Most times I find that the girls who keep getting the same kinds of jerks they want to avoid, are not doing anything different to attract the right guy.
I know this is puzzling to try and understand. But honestly, it's no different than when "intelligent" people watch a Jerry Springer episode and ask "how can these fools on stage really think they are smart and normal citizens?"
Good women will jump all over a great guy (well, at least take it slow). But the bad girl that is always ****in about the bad-boys that hurt her, will most likely keep going back to the same.
In a world full of people wanting what they can't have, too many are reaching for the bad, hoping it will come with all the greatness they desire, too.
Just know, any good woman worth your time, will see all the good in you, if you have it to give. Any woman who can't see that is just blowing smoke when she says she wants a good man.
Of course, before the lynching begins from some women just waiting to jump on such a thread, I am talking about those qualities people look for after the initial attraction works for them, which has to be there for everyone. | |
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| WHAT KIND OF MEN DO WOMEN REALLY WANT
Posted: 7/4/2009 7:31:09 PM | Women want men who are social, exciting and fun.
Not all social, exciting and fun guys are jerks, but it seems that many are.
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| WHAT KIND OF MEN DO WOMEN REALLY WANT
Posted: 7/4/2009 7:38:58 PM | | I think these so called nice guys are confused, with the term nice guys, and wussie's women do want nice guy's but no women wants a wussie, all these nice guy posters should learn the difference. grow a set boys and stop your whinning. stop acting like little high school girls. | |
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| WHAT KIND OF MEN DO WOMEN REALLY WANT
Posted: 7/4/2009 7:54:47 PM | Do you really want a woman that is attracted to azzhats???
I'm sorry, but I like women with a good sense of judgment and character.
BTW, I'm playing the violin for ya.
And women seriously dislike whiny men! | |
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