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Posted: 7/4/2009 6:18:47 PM | Does an intelligent woman intimidate you? I'm older, I don't hide the fact that I have a modicum of intelligence, but I find most men seem to pass me by. I'm tired of "hey baby, wanna hang out sometime??"
Really...I'd like to hear from you men out there! :) | |
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| A question for you serious-minded men...
Posted: 7/4/2009 6:25:32 PM | | I think its fair to say that men are intimidated by smart women because they arent that smart themselves, and need to feel dominant. So they gravitate towards the ditsy material girls who are simple yet demanding. Its a trade off. In the right enviroment smart women are sexy and very desireable to some. | |
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| A question for you serious-minded men...
Posted: 7/4/2009 6:26:44 PM | Thanks, Mac. Seems to slightly contradict your response to my other post about "men assuming all women are like their exes", though! lol | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 6:29:37 PM | | Intelligence is an attractive trait not a factor of intimidation as far as I am concerned. Truth be told, I don’t care how physically attractive a woman may be; if she can’t participate in an intelligent conversation with me – I’m out. | |
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| A question for you serious-minded men...
Posted: 7/4/2009 6:31:36 PM |
Does an intelligent woman intimidate you?
Only when it means I am going to have to prove my intelligence and therefore work that much harder in order to sleep with her or use her. And more than likely she's going to be able to use that intelligence to see through the crap I am flinging her way.
Or if she prizes her intelligence highly to the detriment of any other personality trait. Therefore has to prove exactly how much more intelligent she is than I am (or anyone else) because she has to have a scale to work from where she gets to always "win," and validate her self image.
Otherwise no, it's not intimidating. | |
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| A question for you serious-minded men...
Posted: 7/4/2009 6:32:06 PM | The day I can found a strong, yet sensible, intelligent yet who knows how to be crazy, Feminine without be a Barbie princess, confident without been arrogant, who can be independent and a teamplayer at the same time, one that is educated yet can put her nose down and enjoy simple things, who take care of herself without high maintenance or obsession s, who know what and when (and the list goes on..balanced in a word):
Ill cross the world if I have to, marry her on the spot and keep her at my side until the end of time. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 6:32:26 PM | | Doesn't help you at all but yes I dig intelligent women. I'd rather date a Rosie O'Donnell than a super-hot airhead (not that super-hot airheads are knocking down my door), | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 6:39:00 PM | | A woman with intelligence does not intimidate me. A person who uses their intelligence to look down upon those who they seem to think is intellectually inferior is a major turn off. | |
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| A question for you serious-minded men...
Posted: 7/4/2009 6:41:55 PM |
Intelligence is an attractive trait not a factor of intimidation as far as I am concerned. Truth be told, I don’t care how physically attractive a woman may be; if she can’t participate in an intelligent conversation with me – I’m out.
Never! It turns me On! I love My Women that are Educated Opinionated and Character! And especially when they can stand on their own Two feet and need No man to fend for them
The day I can found a strong, yet sensible, intelligent yet who knows how to be crazy, Feminine without be a Barbie princess, confident without been arrogant, who can be independent and a teamplayer at the same time, one that is educated yet can put her nose down and enjoy simple things, who take care of herself without high maintenance or obsession s, who know what and when (and the list goes on..balanced in a word)
Tell me again why men like you three live so faraway? | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 6:43:24 PM |
Does an intelligent woman intimidate you?
Not in the least in fact I require it. Of course I have experienced an odd happening every now and then I do seem to locate a woman that does seem to have that effect on me even while others do not.
I am still not sure what the cause of that is because by far I am not intimidated very easy.
but I find most men seem to pass me by.
Are you putting yourself as being sociable?
I would not call it intimidating but I have ran into women that just do not give off that vibe that they would hold any interest to me. either they look away from me when I make eye contact or they just have an air about them that says "I don't need you to talk to me"
I am one that would much rather spend my time talking to someone that seems like they would want me to talk to them than to try to talk to someone that could not be bothered listening to me.
I'm tired of "hey baby, wanna hang out sometime??"
Well what would you suggest then? To me it sounds like an acceptable conversation starter.
In fact I have even used a statement almost identical. Truth is that it works and is a good choice for getting to know someone that is not at a point that they know who you are or you them.
There is often a fine line women of this world seem to accept as first contact statements and well seems foolish to not use statements that have been known to work.
I can not even tell you how many times I have used the statement of hey do you want to hang out sometime and usually during that time of hanging out is when I discover more information about her to decide if there is further need to pursue.
Hanging out is a relaxed loose getting together for the purpose of discovering if they would be someone that you can carry on a conversation with. Many times I have discovered that I can not really talk to them since we just did not seem to have a dialog ability between us and then other times I discover that connection that just flows well together thus resulting in a good friendship or more.
So again I ask... What are you looking for as far as conversation starters go then if that line will not work for you?
Help us guys out. Us guys are pretty simple in the fact that we will continue to do things that just work on many.
just my opinions | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 6:47:45 PM | I expect a woman to submit intellectually, emotionally, and physically.
It still boggles my mind how the dumbest women attract the most accomplished/intelligent men. Well, actually I know why, and I'm certain some brainy women have an idea, but alas the ego-pride factor tends to muck up any potential they might have.
JMHO of course.
btw, the only thing that makes a woman intimidating is walking around with a huge Rottweiler.
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Posted: 7/4/2009 6:49:33 PM |
Tell me again why men like you three live so faraway?
because God, goddess, universe or whatever you call it has a sense of humor and loves to put what we want in life just out of our reach so that we have to expend some energy to get it.
My opinion at least | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 6:50:14 PM | Dreams...
Thanks for the response. But when I asked a guy what he meant by "hang out", this is what he said...and I quote...
"coming over and pleasing you like no man have ever done for you for hours just spoil you tell you have had your fill"
He clearly didn't read one word of my profile. I responded kindly, but made it clear (as did my profile) that I was not interested.
I am very friendly, always smiling, appreciate men for who they are...I was just wondering if I intimidate them somehow. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 6:50:16 PM | | No offense meant (honestly), but either the question is rhetorical or that 'modicum' is overstated.....I'm assuming it was rhetorical :) If men are 'passing you over' (I'm uncertain if this is in person or on-line, the reason is not about intelligence. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 6:50:37 PM | | In a word, bfegypt. Otherwise... It's about as rare as a fart in a woman's restroom out here. I've given up on finding intellient life in Logan County. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 6:55:34 PM | | Who wouldn't appreciate the opportunity to date someone who can elevate you intellectually? As long as the person is not looking to talk about computer engineering related topics day and night and can enjoy talking about different subjects then it is all good. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 7:01:23 PM | | There are different responses to women based on their apparent intelligence. There are many men that have a desire to protect and those women that appear to be less intelligent have a greater need of protection. This can be a real attraction to men, on the other hand many of the more Alpha males find the intelligent woman to be of greater value because Alpha's want partners that are their equals. So in answer to your question, men that are sure of themselves want intelligent women, and those that feel a need to prove themselves are intimidated by an intelligent woman. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 7:02:26 PM |
Dreams...
Thanks for the response. But when I asked a guy what he meant by "hang out", this is what he said...and I quote...
"coming over and pleasing you like no man have ever done for you for hours just spoil you tell you have had your fill"
He clearly didn't read one word of my profile. I responded kindly, but made it clear (as did my profile) that I was not interested.
I am very friendly, always smiling, appreciate men for who they are...I was just wondering if I intimidate them somehow.
HUMMM well maybe his idea of pleasing you was to talk to you for hours...LMAO 
I know I know that is likely not what he was refering to. Sounds to me like he has just read too many trashy romance novels which in those that is usually what the women want to hear.
I myself prefer the let me pick your mind way. I dig in and see how the neural pathways are wired, the rate at which they make their firings, and what is on the surface of her memory stores to get an idea about how she will react to things said, done, and experianced. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 7:02:35 PM | I'm not a man, but would like to contribute to this conversation. In my search for a partner, I have several requirements that I specifically look for. A list if you please, that describes what qualities are important to me. There are of course certain looks and styles that I prefer in a man, but the one thing that has always been at the top of my list is finding an intelligent equal. My IQ is above average but not genius level. Which means I am not a brainiac, nor am I an idiot. I just know I would be more comfortable with someone in the same general level. No, I am not intimidated by smarter men, but I do feel I'd be better able to relate to someone in my same category. If a man is intimidated by my intelligence, then he most likely would not be someone I'd be interested in dating. When I receive an email from a man that says "hi how r u? i think u r hot!" I very politely say Thank you but No thank you and move on.
If you think you are intimidating men with your intelligence, then just be patient and wait until someone smarter comes along. | |
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| A question for you serious-minded men...
Posted: 7/4/2009 7:06:35 PM |
coming over and pleasing you like no man have ever done for you for hours just spoil you tell you have had your fill
That came because you are female and pretty, intelligence has no bearing on it whatsoever. And no, your profile would not have been read. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 7:06:48 PM | Tropical...thanks! Great explanation. Sheds some light.
Scheher...thanks, too, for your take on the subject. Sounds like we have some things in common. Perhaps it would be wise for me to remember where I am (POF) and have fewer expectations. :) | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 7:10:53 PM | Intelligent women do not intimidate me, but many intelligent people turn me off.
There is nothing more repulsive than "the really beautiful girl who knows it." For me it is the same with intelligence. If you're really smart that is awesome however if you can't bring yourself back down to reality and everything must always be a measurement of who's grey matter is bigger than I don't want anything to do with you.
I love intelligent conversation, I love debating issues that important to both me and whoever I'm socializing with, but I also like to be a fool. I have been told by all of my friends and most people that have taken the chance to get to know me that I am very intelligent. However you would have no idea unless you took the time to get to know me. That is an intelligent design of my own personality. I don't want to intimidate people and I want people to be able to relate to me no matter how intelligent they are. So i'm not going to beat someone over the head with my big brain and I will often purposefully come across a little dumb on purpose. It's earned me the loving description of "Smartest retard I know" from my friends.
With a lot of intelligence often comes a lot of judgement, and while these people may think they're intelligent because some test told them they were, to me a measure of intelligence includes a large dose of humility and the ability to refrain from making stead fast conclusions to quickly and never about something as dynamic as a human being.
After all, I do believe the best answer to any questions anyone can pose is one that can be changed easily. Most intelligent people don't leave room to manuever after they've formed an opinion as they are sooo sure they're 100% right because after all, they're always right, right?
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Posted: 7/4/2009 7:12:52 PM | Intelligence is vastly sexy. It takes a sound, respectful character to appreciate the sincerity of a well-rounded intellect. It also is warming to appreciate said intellect with a welcoming smile.
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Posted: 7/4/2009 7:16:40 PM | Your not going to find it, you want a friend not a relatinship for starters (so your on the wrong site).
You also have God in your life, and you should know of all people there are only 2 commandments you are following, "love fellow man as yourself" and "love god with your whole heart" which it seems you are, and as you are you are looking for a friend (wrong site again).
Incase you want to mention the 10 commandments you should also know they where abolished with Jesus comming, that was the whole point about it....
I would stop looking for something you actually know your never find
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Posted: 7/4/2009 7:17:50 PM |
I have been told by all of my friends and most people that have taken the chance to get to know me that I am very intelligent.
No offense, but you need the input of others on which to base your intelligence?
Most intelligent people don't leave room to manuever after they've formed an opinion as they are sooo sure they're 100% bright because after all, they're always right, right?
Wrong.
You generalize smart people--a smart person who is secure in his/her intelligence is the first to admit that he/she is wrong. I have met many stupid people who can't admit that they are wrong!
But then, I am intelligent and always right.
Snort.
So i'm not going to beat someone over the head with my big brain and I will often purposefully come across a little dumb on purpose.
I simple cannot fathom why anyone would pretend to be dumb. | |
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