| Is he into me?
Posted: 7/4/2009 10:43:44 PM | Okay, I started work at a new company and became friends with many of the men there. I have been working there for over 6 months now. One of the friends had moved in with me there is nothing there and I do not want to date him. But his friend is another story. I met him at my work as well. We became friends too but not as close as he is with my roommate We shall call the roommate, roommate and the friend of the roommate friend to avoid confusion. Recently, there has been an incline in the friendship between me and the friend.
I was with the roommate for the day, on a day trip. The roommate had gone home and the friend had called me to ask for my email address stating that he had something he wanted to send to me and the roommate. My thought was why didn't you call your friend and have it sent to him, but whatever. We talked for a few moments and then parted.
The next day at about 12:30am he calls me. He is drunk of course and I cant understand him and my phone cuts out. He then sends me a text message that says I love you man, and proceeds to call me back asking for me to come over. He states that he wanted to tell me that he got a certain rare brand of alcohol and wanted to tell me and the roommate about it, knowing or at least I think, knowing the roommate was not around. He made one sexual comment and talked for a few and I went back to bed.
This friend also has a girlfriend of a few years... but he's cheated on her and she has done the same to him. She also lives 3 hours away from him and I think that has a toll on their relationship.
I am supposed to go out with him and the roommate tomorrow. I dont know what to do because I really like him but I am thinking that I may be in the friend zone... Any advice on where I stand with him? Anything in here sound like I may have a chance here? I am just plain confused and would like a male to just give me the cold hard facts.... even if it's he just called you because he was drunk and bored... if that's what it is I need to hear it.
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| Is he into me?
Posted: 7/4/2009 10:47:06 PM | He has a girlfriend. You become an instant whore if you do anything with him.
Nothing beyond that really needs discussed. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 10:51:37 PM | | not friend zone exactly......................more like future fwb, or fb. Gawd why would you be interested in a guy that has a g/f at all. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 10:54:59 PM | | Bad situation. I recommend you stay away. He has a gf, and it sounds like he just wants a fwb on the side. Also, your roommate may get jealous. Just because you aren't interested in him doesn't mean he doesn't have feelings for you. So, if you start screwing his friend, your home-life could become awkward. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 11:04:27 PM |
He is drunk of course and I cant understand him
Oh yea.... sounds like good boyfriend potential to me, lol
has a girlfriend of a few years... but he's cheated on her
sounds like even more good top notch boyfriend potential to me, lol
also lives 3 hours away from him and I think that has a toll on their relationship.
How nice of you to make excuses for his cheating behavior...
I dont know what to do because I really like him
Because of the exceptional qualities mentioned above ?
Do you as a person have any self esteem issues ?
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Posted: 7/4/2009 11:47:54 PM | he called to tell u "he had a certain rare brand of alocohol" hahahahahhaha
wtf?
re-read what u posted.
u already know whats up
hes just not that into | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 11:56:29 PM | Gawd why would you be interested in a guy that has a g/f at all.
Maybe for the same reason that A LOT of women find married men attractive?
They want what they can't have | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 11:57:49 PM | | This is why I love forums! Ok if he's cheated on her, then your next on the list. Sorry hun but bf material to woman these days cracks me up! To make it simple guys that do that want one thing, and they may be getting that froma whole bunch of people. I won't date a woman who is or has been slutty, no STDS for me. lmao | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 12:44:14 AM | | Run for your life! Friend zone has completely disappeared after the drunk phone call with sexual comments. Put yourself in her shoes.In this situation I think when roomate is around friend can be around. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 12:52:36 AM |
This is why I love forums! Ok if he's cheated on her, then your next on the list. Sorry hun but bf material to woman these days cracks me up! To make it simple guys that do that want one thing, and they may be getting that froma whole bunch of people. I won't date a woman who is or has been slutty, no STDS for me. lmao
Amen to that! | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 12:52:39 AM | Wow.....sounds like a real winner this "friend"....NOT. Hmmm..lets see. Has a Girlfriend, but calls you when drunk and makes a sexual comment.
I would say that he is definately one to put on the "do not date" list....but hey, you know already know all of this about him, and still like him. So I say go for it, you sound like you were made for each other.....nothing like a man looking to cheat on his G/F. What a catch! | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 5:31:12 AM | My oh my what a jigsaw puzzle.
but he's cheated on her and she has done the same to him. .....How do you know all of this? IF the friend told you then translated he is saying.....I have cheated on my g/f before and she knows it's all cool cause she took me back, and besides she cheated on me.....likely story! Ask the g/f.
For heavens sake the guy is in a long term relationship and has been for years.....long enough to put up with the long distance issue.....why 'all of a sudden' would it begin to cast doubts?
It's quite clear to me that this friend see's you as his next sexual victim. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 5:44:07 AM | | Living with a guy your work with and contemplating sleeping/relationship/whatever with his buddy...whom you also work with.....yikes...i can just hear the gossip at the water cooler now in what sounds like a male dominated workplace. Not sure acting on this would be in your best interest. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 6:06:29 AM | Goodness lady, have you no dignity?
He's not into you yet but I'm sure with a little nip of rare alcohol, he will try to be into you.
Once a cheater..ALWAYS a cheater!
Stay away from that one for sure! | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 10:27:35 AM |
Second you work with these guys so doing anything sexual with people from work isn't a good idea.
I never understand the UK, WHY NOT??? you didnt sell your soul to the company, your a FREE PERSON.... jezzz | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 10:50:57 AM | OP do you have any morals or character? so you lie and say you never was into him when obviously from the start you were.
Then he is a cheater; has a history of it; has a girlfriend; and you want to cheat with him? how magical.
You should try to date him; you both deserve eachother. Class and character are what you do when no one is looking. My family taught me not to cheat and to walk with class. Think about it. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 11:49:57 AM |
Any advice on where I stand with him?
As an object to use to fulfill what he wants, when he wants it, when his girlfriend doesn't fulfill it? As a potential extension of him in other words?
Anything in here sound like I may have a chance here?
A chance at what?
To be used for a little bit? Yes.
For the guy to (at some point if you continue to want him) transfer all feelings of his girlfriend to you and then break up with her to be with you, then go back to his girlfriend when you don't fulfill everything he wants to the degree he wants, or find someone else altogether and maintain a couple more relationships? Yes.
For an adult, meaningful, long term, non Jerry Springer, responsible relationship? Not really. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 12:16:03 PM |
I never understand the UK, WHY NOT??? you didnt sell your soul to the company, your a FREE PERSON.... jezzz
It has nothing to do with the UK. You don't hook up with people from work because it's weird and awkward after the break up.
And before you ask, "what if..." If you're working together and around each other constantly, you will break up. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 12:33:29 PM | Well, if your goal is to have a FWB relationship with an alcoholic, you're set. Just go out and get a bottle of Jack Daniels, sprinkle some behind your ears, and go to town. It's your life.
However, if you are looking for a LTR, Prince Charming here isn't going to cut it. Though I'm suspicious of the girlfriend 3 hours away, I've known a few people who have been in long-distance relationships (she went off to college, etc.) so you never know. However, I'm leaning toward the belief if Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny, and this girlfriend were in a rag race, I don't think that there would be a clear-cut winner ... | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 1:18:54 PM | | Do you really want to be known as a relationship wrecker?...And I would say that he's not interested. If this guy and your roommate are good friends, and the roomate is hitting on you, then the friend probably knows he's interested in you. Guys dont go after the women that their friends are interested in....well, unless youre an a-hole, in which case you dont deserve friends anyway. | |
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