| How important is money?
Posted: 7/4/2009 10:59:46 PM | | Ok guys and girls, How important are financial matters to you. If this guy/girl that you are going out with and things are clicking really good, you definitely see a future there except maybe they've gone through a very rough time financially. Would this bother you? What would be your response to that? | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/4/2009 11:21:19 PM | Well I'm financially in the toilet, so yeah, he's going to have to be a good money maker. I've never had anyone pay my way in life so that would be cool, I could be one of these gold diggers that whiners are always crying about!  WooHoo! | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/4/2009 11:25:35 PM | | I wouldn't care if a woman lived in a van down by the river. Money does not buy happiness. Sure, money makes life a lot more easier. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/4/2009 11:31:36 PM | it really depends on the person. Ideally, I'm looking for someone that's financially secure in that they can take care of themselves and have enough to pay their share of whatever we're doing together. Since I don't have a preference for expensive outings, low priced is fine.
So, if this guy is going through a financial crisis and I know that he's normally doing fine, and I know that he is the type of person that will pull out of it again, then I can deal with it. If it's someone that seems to always live from one paycheck to another, then we probably wouldn't go very far.
So, it really depends on the personality of the guy. People that know how to make money will always pull themselves out of the situation. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/4/2009 11:32:12 PM | We must have a job to survive hunger and a roof over our head, transportation ,etc.. therefore money is important, if the guy I am dating can not afford his children support and his morgage/utility bills ,I am out of his life as fast as I can. Supporting myself is enough responsibilty and a headache, why would I involve myself into some one 's with financial problem just to have sex?
I don't believe that a guy and a girl are clicking really good with out money to support their life.... | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/4/2009 11:36:13 PM | Ok here comes the cold hearted Byotch. If I pay my bills(with or without assistance from the government), I EXPECT him to pay his own. Or at least prioritize. I don't want a dope that pays his cable bill before paying his electric(how is your cable going to work w/out power?) or figuring ways to cut his spending(Ground beef vs. prime rib, cheap paid for beater vs. Mercedes lease). If I have to make changes to make my dollar stretch further, he can too. If he admits he can't do something(fancy dinner date) fine, but be happy w/ a reasonable alternative(picnic in the park w/ PB&J sammiches). I also don't wanna hear about his financial woes ALL the time. Yes, money is tight, but My God! there is more to life. Is that shallow? Yep. Is it realistic? You bet your bippy!
If a guy can be broke but realistic and positive about his options, I can go w/ the flow. If he wants a sugar momma? I am gone w/ the wind. Yes, Scarlett taught me well. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/4/2009 11:42:46 PM | Im looking for a loving relationship. It has nothing to do with hers or my money. If she completely agrees with that, then we start off on the right track. If she doesn't, then I move on. Too many people are in temporary relationships that come to an end when the money runs out. I want to avoid that whole bad trip. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/4/2009 11:54:09 PM | | I never had a lot of money & having lots of money doesn't bother me at all. I'd rathere date someone who's completely broke or even in debt instead of being with someone who's shallow | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/5/2009 12:12:36 AM | Money is very important, a bad credit score is a major turn off. If one person has a bad credit score and marries that person then it will affects their credit score.On the other hand, there are guys out there who do not even know what their credit score is or they do not own a credit card. How do you build a credit history? Another turn off is when mommy nad daddy foots the bill for them and they are 40 years old. Then they do not understand why I do not have certain things or why I am so frugal with my money.
I dated men who do not knows the value of a dollar. They have no budget and they have no priorties. One guy who wanted to marry me thought it was horrible that the price of 3 months of birthcontrol pill packs were around $250.00 , however, he could spend $100.00 dollars a week on lottery tickets! I thought this guy was so immature!
Yes, money matters in a relationship.One of the reasons why so many realationships did not work out for me was because I tend to be frugal with my money . | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/5/2009 12:58:11 AM | This for me goes both ways
1. ive dated guys that have money and they seem to be very**** and think they can run all over you and that they can replace you very fast because they have money.
2 i have also dated a guy that didnt have a pot to piss in and i supported him for a year and a half and i was madly in love with the looser and i dont know why.
3. you have to think when you marry someone there credit is YOUR credit and if they have really bad credit and yours is very good you pretty much are screw'd . | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/5/2009 12:58:12 AM | | Independance and self reliance is extremely important. You don't want someone who has no idea about what money means and keeps sucking everyone dry. No one wants someone who can't even look after themselves! | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 1:19:40 AM |
3. you have to think when you marry someone there credit is YOUR credit and if they have really bad credit and yours is very good you pretty much are screw'd
Ah yes another finacial industry slave well on the way. Here is a thought why not just spend what you have available to spend? Buy now pay latter, paying more for the same items because you could not afford it, and making sure your number matters because SURPRIZE!!!! the people that want you in debt pay for those commercials because if you are not in debt then they have nothing to report and therefore nothing to CHARGE companies for.
You are 20 so you are the target market they are activly pursuing. STOP now.
Someone could pay their bills ontime and spend only cash and even then only what they can afford and unless they take loans out or sign up AND USE credit cards they can have a crappy credit score.
How important is money to me?
I would think how someone spends what they have is MORE important than how they spend what they do not have.
Stay away from credit... by Gold. You credit balance is a number that 15 men decide on what it is. No women, just men. (meaning the valuation of debts)
Most people are not even aware of that info.
This war the US is in is all about your credit scores that everyone is so worried about.
I opt out of that system. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/5/2009 2:02:34 AM | >Ah yes another finacial industry slave well on the way. Here is a thought why not just >spend what you have available to spend? Buy now pay latter, paying more for the >same items because you could not afford it, and making sure your number matters >because SURPRIZE!!!! the people that want you in debt pay for those commercials >because if you are not in debt then they have nothing to report and therefore nothing >to CHARGE companies for.
However, using credit responsibly allows you to be able to buy a newer car, a home, cover emergency expenses. The problem is that many misuse credit and then run into the trap of needing credit on a daily basis because they are short on cash due to paying back the moeny they already borrowed. Credit rating does count! Having money doesn't make you happy. However, not having enough to pay your bills, buy food , keep the car going, etc. is bound to make you unhappy and add significant stress to your life. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/5/2009 2:19:52 AM | I think that a similar attitude to money is far more important than actual means. Fiscally responsible types should be with other fiscally responsible types. A careful/frugal person must be with another careful/frugal person. People who earn a lot and spend a lot and don't think twice about it are a fair match too, as are those who are experienced in juggling debt. You can't match someone who is relaxed about debts with someone who hates to be in debt, or a saver with a spender -- it's a recipe for misery.
It's not how much money you have: it's how you think about money, what it means to you and the role it plays in your life that needs to match up. If someone went through a rough time financially, that means nothing -- what does have meaning is why they went through that rough time, what they learned and what their attitude is now. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 2:27:36 AM | Quite profound. It's so lovely to hear such profound thoughts.
You present some serious issues. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 4:03:48 AM | Unfortunately money is like oxygen, we need it to live.
I cant see myself with someone who is not financially stable ( stable doesn't mean in perfect financial situation, but that most likely can handle some ups and downs w/o major downfalls).
I am blessed with a stable financial situation, so I expect same or at least work enough to cover his expenses.
I am low maintenance person, but I refuse to pay someone's way as a routine.
I also would appreciate very much that the person has a healthy financial behavior. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/5/2009 4:44:28 AM | | A woman who wants to know about my finances is not dating material and goes in the reject bin. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/5/2009 5:08:41 AM | When you’re dating… financial matters are none of the other person’s business. If you are considering entering into a LTR on the other hand, then it does play an important part in compatibility.
I’m 40 years old, the last thing I need is to start dating someone that is still living paycheque to paycheque where missing one would put them behind on every bill. Far too much stress in that situation…
Going through a rough time is also very subjective… for some this would mean that their financial buffer of six months has dropped to four and they want to build this up again before thinking of any large purchases and for others it means eviction notices and repossessions. I could deal with the first easily; the second is a red flag.
I don’t think anyone wants to start a relationship supporting the other person… that reeks of buying. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/5/2009 5:16:29 AM | | Money problems are the #1 cause of divorce. If someone has been irresponsible, is heavily in debt and has a poor credit score, they shouldn't get married and bring someone else into their mess. They should clean up their act first. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/5/2009 5:48:16 AM | How important is money?
I posted this as a stand-alone thread, and it was deleted within 3 minutes. Might as well sneak it in here!
I ran a little experiment with my profile. First week, proper profile, the kind any average Joe would make when joining the site. Income listed as "rather not say." I sent out 100 messages to 100 women, 12 replied, 5 stuck around for a bit of conversation before disappearing. Only a few profile views.
Next week, I changed my profile and filled it with more negative comments. Tried to sound like an egotistical jackass. Stated that I wouldn't date blondes. Changed income to "$50,001-75,000". Sent no messages, but was contacted by 3 women. 20+ profile views, added as favourite by one.
Week after that, I changed my profile to what it is now. The only key factor is that I listed my income as "$150,000+" - result: 40+ views, 7 messages, and anyone I contact seems to respond rather promptly, rather than the usual read/deleted.
So yeah, I'd say money is more important than anything else on a guy's profile :p | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/5/2009 5:51:49 AM | EvilLolli
That's not cold-hearted. That's common sense. I wish more people would use it. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/5/2009 5:58:42 AM | Money isn't the end all be all, but a certain amount of attention to this matter shows responsibility and accountability. I've had money and and not had money and have learned it isn't really about the money but what the money does for you.
We buy homes etc... not for just reasons of acquisition but because what they mean to us. Security, stability, a means to an end of some sort... So it isn't the money that is important but the attitude and reason that drives a person to earn.
Everyone will at some point struggle with money it's only natural, so two people together need to be on some what the same page. The combination of working hard and smart will yield long term results that will lead to what it is most people need financially. The accumulation of wealth (freedom of the need to earn) for most is a long term endeavor and life style is an important contributing factor for self sufficiency. So again people need to be evenly yoked in this regard.
But to answer the main question more needs to be known about the issues of what brought on the financial problems. The issue of no money is the symptom not the cause but some times we need to place ourselves in their shoes to truly understand that the same could happen to us. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/5/2009 6:08:49 AM | I have worked hard for the things I own.
I am financially independent and willing to share the fruits of that labour with anyone that "floats my boat". However, I am savy enough to know how hard it was to get here, and how easy it is to loose the lot. Been there done that.
Bottom line: Happy to share.
I'm no one's sugar mama, and I already have children that take a great deal of "upkeep". Position as "partner" still open. | |
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