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Posted: 7/5/2009 9:23:54 AM | I'm just trying to be honest in my profile and I know what I want. Apparently it's too much cause women are viewing it and I'm not getting any responses. Why is it that when a man is straight forward then he is automatically labeled as a jerk? Maybe internet dating isn't for me.
I would just appreciate any advice you all can give me about my profile.
Thanks
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Posted: 7/5/2009 10:32:48 AM | Well, I'm not a woman, so who knows how valuable my opinion is here, but from my perspective, you have about 30 lines of text in your profile, and pretty much all of them are about looking good. So, you come across as vain and self-centered, and that you only care about appearances.
I don't mean that to be harsh, but if you look at it from that perspective, it's not hard to see why you're not getting responses. You go on to say "she will be treated like a princess," but the fact of the matter is, most women don't want to be treated like a princess. They want to be treated like a partner, and the way your profile is currently written, it doesn't sound like you have a whole lot of interest in the woman herself, other than how good she looks together with you at the center of attention.
So, my suggestion would be to spend some time talking about what you would like in a potential partner, ASIDE from her appearance. What kind of personality do you like in a woman? What kinds of things would you like to do together?
Also, you're very concerned with looking good, but you don't care about all of the typos and grammatical mistakes, which again reinforces the perception that looks are more important to you than substance. The typos and spelling mistakes tell people that you aren't intelligent and don't care enough about your profile to want to come across as at least reasonably intelligent.
Anyway, I apologize if that came across as harsh, but I hope you can see it's intended to be constructive!
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Posted: 7/5/2009 12:43:58 PM | I agree with everything stated by Stjaba. Plus you smoke which is a real killer.
You have almost nothing in the interest field.
You seem to be asking for a playboy playmate but you are not in shape (extra pounds) and just average looking.
Why is it that you put most of your profile in the 1st date section? That makes you look less than bright.
I do not mean to be brutal but I think both your profile and your attitude need adjustment.
I may be totally wrong, I have been in the past.
All the best
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Posted: 7/5/2009 1:59:22 PM | Well, so far, you have gotten advice from two dudes, and now a gay woman  But, hey, we do know the ladies...
I would advise you to lighten up the criteria a little bit and tone down the must-haves. The profile comes off a little bit hostile.
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Posted: 7/5/2009 2:54:31 PM | Ok, at the risk of sounding redundant, here goes.
Sounds like your just looking for an "armcharm" and don't really care what she's about as long as she makes "YOU" look better. Comes off as superficial and shallow.
You also sound chauvanistic and controlling. Gotta let 'em have the remote once in awhile. Well, good luck. Peace
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Posted: 7/5/2009 3:08:12 PM | 1) You've only been here for 4 days, so chill and be patient. It'll take a while before you catch a fish here, just like fishing in real life.
2) You gotta contact women first, not the other way around. Average women here get any where btn 20-40 messages a day, they don't need to contact you to get a date. FYI, the replying rate on this site is about 5-10%.
3) I would get better head shot of yourself. Women want to see your face.
4) Change your body type from a few extra pound to average. You are far from over weight.
5) Shorten and move the text from first date to about me. Things you write under first date should be things you would do on the first date, not what you expect your partner to be.
6) Fix the things people mentioned above. I agree with them 100%. | |
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