| Why are guys afraid to ask you to dance?
Posted: 7/5/2009 10:53:19 AM | | I do not understand why men are afraid to ask you to dance. I am old fashioned at heart I guess and believe in waiting for the man to ask you to dance. I do not consider myself an ugly lady but would like to be asked to dance first by the man. I sometimes will go up to a man and try to strike a conversation as to make him feel more comfortable before I may ask him to dance. I just want to dance, not marry the person! It is just a dance. Dancing is fun, and good exercise. Mut less a good way to get to know someone first before dating. | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask you to dance?
Posted: 7/5/2009 10:56:06 AM | Well if they are like me, they just don't dance. I can handle slow dances only because I don't have to flail about like a landed flounder. I suck at dancing but the worst part is I actually know it  | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask you to dance?
Posted: 7/5/2009 11:03:17 AM | | I agree with the others. Two thumbs up, and two left feet on the ground. It is the same reason most guys won't pick up the guitar and charm the crowd at the campfire all night with sweet music - we can't! | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask you to dance?
Posted: 7/5/2009 11:18:01 AM | | I guess this all depends on what dancing is and where you go. The places I go to dance, all the men know how to dance, and we make an effort to ask every woman to dance. Sometimes women will ask us, and sometimes they hold on to us for more than one dance, but over all we take turns and try to ensure that everyone has a good time and gets to dance as much as possible. So maybe your problem is that you are going to the wrong places. | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask you to dance?
Posted: 7/5/2009 11:18:15 AM | Ohhhhho.........i love to dance,there is no right or wrong way to dance,just let your body go to the beat......... unless of coarse,she needs to teach me the thingamajigar dance,hey thats ok to.
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| Why are guys afraid to ask you to dance?
Posted: 7/5/2009 11:18:31 AM | Three reasons:
#1 - Women who decline usually laugh about it with their girl friends when they say no.
#2 - Dancing is an activity that women do that doesn't necessarily need a man, but it's nice if they have one. In fact, women can be just as happy dancing alone or with another woman, except where touching is concerned.
#3 - Dancing to a man is the equivilent of a mating ritual - we take it far more seriously than women do. We figure if you're dancing with us, you want to mate with us later.
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| Why are guys afraid to ask you to dance?
Posted: 7/5/2009 11:20:56 AM | | Because must of us will look like jerks! But, wait...that's the name of a new dance but really an old dance with a different twist (the jerk)! Hey fellas! It's now OK to converge on the dance floor...it's OK to look like a jerk! | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask you to dance?
Posted: 7/5/2009 11:26:49 AM | I used to ask women to dance all of the time. When I was into country we had a local bar that had line dancing. I'd grab a shot (or 5) , and just get out there and act a fool. Most of the times I'd have ladies offer to show me how. There's something to say about a lady showing a guy how to dance! They were happy to teach me and I had quite a number of dates because of it. There's nothing better to break the ice than to be willing to be taught. Since then, the place had closed down and I have quit drinking. I miss that place...Plenty of lookers! | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask you to dance?
Posted: 7/5/2009 11:30:34 AM |
Why are guys afraid to ask you to dance?
Because they don't like to do it. It's emasculating. Dancing is for girls. Girls dance, men kill things.
They (generally) only dance in order to show you they like you, or to pay you for paying attention to them. They will do it for you, not because they want to (generally), but because they know you want to.
But the older someone gets, the less they want to get you to like them and the more they want you to accept them for their non dancing selves.
Dancing is fun, and good exercise.
So is bear wrestling. Oh wait, that might not be fun by your definition.
Mut less a good way to get to know someone first before dating.
So is meeting for coffee and telling each other why they do or don't enjoying dancing.
Oh wait! So why do guys show up to dancing places? Because that's where all the girls are. They didn't go for the dancing. They went for the eye candy and to catch em when they are too tired or drunk to dance. Basically wait until they "go to ground." | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask you to dance?
Posted: 7/5/2009 11:31:04 AM | why?...
because your a women and dont have to deal with going up to a female, asking her to dance, get a big fat NO, then turn around walk away while she makes fun of you to her friends.
again..your a women, you dont have to deal with it on a regular basis, so its very easy for you to say "why is it so hard?"...
I personally have thick skin, doesnt bother me at all, but to some guys they are sick of beating there heads against a wall.... | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask you to dance?
Posted: 7/5/2009 11:47:47 AM | | I agree with the most, guys dont dance, and women laugh about it with there friends, and then we drink more beer. Anyways, you have to go to spots where guys are dancing. Then you can ask any of them! | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask you to dance?
Posted: 7/5/2009 11:55:26 AM |
Oh wait! So why do guys show up to dancing places? Because that's where all the girls are. They didn't go for the dancing.
This is largely true, but there are some men who like to dance (when they aren't busy killing something, per your post)
It's nice to see a guy with rhythm. 
because your a women and dont have to deal with going up to a female, asking her to dance, get a big fat NO, then turn around walk away while she makes fun of you to her friends.
again..your a women, you dont have to deal with it on a regular basis, so its very easy for you to say "why is it so hard?"...
I like to dance. If I'm not getting asked at the moment, I ask guys to dance. I don't see the NO's as rejection. I see it as " No, I don't want to dance". I ask someone else and we go dance.
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| Why are guys afraid to ask you to dance?
Posted: 7/5/2009 11:57:45 AM | 1. They can't dance
2. Rejection sucks, and don't think the risk is worth the potential for failure.
3. Rejection from rude women not only sucks but is humiliating.
4. They aren't interested in dancing with you ( harsh but possibly true) | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask you to dance?
Posted: 7/5/2009 12:01:00 PM | | They are afraid you will not like the way they dance and for most guys it is a pride thing. Guys like to think they can do it all and do it right while looking really cool. If a guy does ask you to dance, you should be very honest if you don't want to. | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask you to dance?
Posted: 7/5/2009 12:13:03 PM | OP, you're old fashioned... maybe the guys are new age and like a woman who has the confidence to approach them.
I can do a "junior high special" (slow dance in a circle), but that's about it.
I'm terrible at it and don't enjoy it. It's something I would only do with someone I was very comfortable around.. and no one could see... and I was drunk.
Dancing is fun, and good exercise
So is f*cking. | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask you to dance?
Posted: 7/5/2009 12:22:41 PM |
I don't see the NO's as rejection. I see it as " No, I don't want to dance". I ask someone else and we go dance.
ug...your an attractive female, of course you just go ask someone else. Im sure you will get a yes. It doesnt work that way for guys.
again...your a female, you have no idea what its like to go up to any female and just talk to her..women will never understand it...sorry...
I am not looking for pity, I have thick skin, doesnt bother me to have a no thrown in my face..I could care less...but to some other guy who gets three or 4 no's in a row, I can see why he would be so timid to ask another girl to dance... | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask you to dance?
Posted: 7/5/2009 12:23:52 PM | Mot straight guys aren't into dancing. It's not fear. I won't go dance with a woman if she asks me (unless it's a slow song).
It's nice to see a guy with rhythm.
My rhythm is excellent. I just use it to play guitar instead of dancing. | |
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