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Posted: 7/5/2009 11:02:54 AM | | I have messaged loads of girls on here but only a few have wrote back, the ones who have they have got my hopes up talking to me on here then just not replying to my e-mails after we chat for a bit. I'm a nice guy and always fall into their trap, but how would they like it if I did the same to them? It means girls don't want nice guys just guys who treat them like dirt! | |
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| Is this site just a pointless one?
Posted: 7/5/2009 11:08:12 AM | Your thread is most likely going to be deleted as redundant or "troll post-attention seeking" by those who like to wield the mighty axe of forum power by clicking on "delete thread", however perhaps you'll see this post of mine before it's gone.
Expect low response rates. Women outnumber men exponentially on this board and if you're only messaging very attractive women it's no surprise that you get few messages returned, they're just too busy and you're in competition with lots of guys.
As far as those who email you then just stop? Again, happens all the time, although I can only guess why..they're not serious, they found someone else while they were messaging you, a bit of space debris crashed through their roof and disabled them or their internet connection, or something else that I have not stated here. You'll never know for sure, all you can do is be patient, be consistent, accept rejection, and start messaging women that are "lower on the scale".
If you message someone without a pic I can almost guarantee you'll get a response.
Of course, there's a very good reason for that. | |
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| Is this site just a pointless one?
Posted: 7/5/2009 11:17:45 AM | It's called Fishing. Sometimes you get a hit on your line, sometimes they slip the hook.
All I can say is, read a woman's profile. I mean REALLY read it. And if it seems that there are common interests there, send a message. And when you do, have something to say. Ask about her interests and try to engage her in conversation to see if those interests really mesh with yours. Don't blanket e-mail because people can sense those. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 11:21:43 AM | | I always put hi you ok, what your up too. So as you said I should try expanding it. I've been brought up to respect women and be friendly with everyone, so i do get a little annoyed when some people ignore me and can't be polite. | |
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| Is this site just a pointless one?
Posted: 7/5/2009 11:30:13 AM | | Next time you write a message, stop and evaluate it before pressing the send button. Think to yourself "would this message be remotely interesting to the average woman?" If not, then you shouldn't be surprised if they don't respond. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 11:33:54 AM |
I always put hi you ok, what your up too
That's very original. I'm surprised you don't have an overflowing inbox. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 12:00:25 PM | if you send an e-mail to a girl stating, "Hi, you are ok - what are you up to?"
at LEAST it would be more gramatically correct ...
you would STILL be indicating to her that you're not really interested in her enuf to READ her profile or COMMENT on what she SAYS in her profile ... you've probably just made a comment based on her photo alone ... AND it will also STILL say that you're not going to make an effort to say something a little more profound ...
but, it WOULD BE gramatically correct ... and spelled correctly ...
I realize a lot of people are "into" texting ... and you're approaching her from a "texting" point of view ...
but think about this ... you're "selling" yourself ... you're trying to communicate with someone in the hopes of MEETING her ...
so ... put a little effort into it ... READ her profile ... in your first contact, REFERENCE her profile ...
"Hi, you are really ..." (interesting, busy, whatever) "I do that, too! I also like to ..." (whatever ... wear jeans ... skateboard ... dance ... whatever she SAID that you're really interested in)
"You live near my place. I'm planning to go ..." (somewhere ...) "I'd like to meet you there some time! We could ... " (skate ... dance ... whatever!)
really trying to help you here ... even tho I'm REALLY older ... sometimes old fashioned manners work better ... or maybe not ... you could try it!
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Posted: 7/5/2009 12:20:45 PM |
That's very original. I'm surprised you don't have an overflowing inbox.
Idoc Steve...Bwahaha!
OP, you say you fall into these women's "traps." You're the one that wrote to THEM and some of them responded back - only to eventually lose interest. How is that a "trap?" | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 12:27:24 PM | You will have better luck going up to strangers and introducing yourself than meeting someone here. It's all about the picture. If they aren't attracted 99 percent of the time you will get no response.
I will have to test out that emailing people with no picture theory. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 12:52:40 PM |
I'm a nice guy and always fall into their trap, but how would they like it if I did the same to them?
You should. It really doesn't matter if they like it. If you aren't interested in someone, why continue chatting?
It means girls don't want nice guys just guys who treat them like dirt!
No, it means you're just unhappy about being interested in someone who isn't interested in you. You aren't the nice guy you think you are. If you were, you would realize a woman isn't obligated to be interested in you just because you want her to be. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 12:56:28 PM |
No, it means you're just unhappy about being interested in someone who isn't interested in you. You aren't the nice guy you think you are. If you were, you would realize a woman isn't obligated to be interested in you just because you want her to be.
How dare you take away a nice guy's sense of entitlement in this cruel and unfair world!  That was awesome!! | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 3:10:15 PM | | Seeing as I'm hurting from this I don't need smartypants people coming on here, saying you aint a nice guy or they lost interest, because that's bulls*it because loads of people on here have had the same thing happening to them, but where are your comments to them? Don't give you the freedom to knock me for my feelings getting torn about, have some bloody compassion!! | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 3:59:03 PM | Try being a giant, giant jackass. It's working surprisingly well for me. Women will just email you to express anger about some annoying post you made, next thing you know you've got a conversation going.
Last one blocked me, but she was probably fat, so who cares. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 4:11:33 PM | mostwanted - This isn't the pity party forum.
If "your feelings are being torn about" because nobody is responding to your emails on an Internet forum, you're a little too delicate to be playing this game. Seriously - do yourself and everyone else a favor, and pack it in. Everyone has to deal with most of their emails being "rejected", except possibly some of the best looking women wearing skimpy outfits, and they're all complaining that all they get are crude messages asking for sex.
If you can't sack up, deal with it, and move on... spare yourself any further hurt. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 4:12:20 PM |
Try being a giant, giant jackass. It's working surprisingly well for me. Women will just email you to express anger about some annoying post you made, next thing you know you've got a conversation going.
Last one blocked me, but she was probably fat, so who cares.
I am intrigued by your philosophy, and would like to subscribe to your newsletter! | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 4:26:53 PM | | Everyone always says just be yourself... but it seems you have to work on self improvements to make a better you and then get back out there and try again. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 5:02:37 PM | "I have messaged loads of girls on here but only a few have wrote back, the ones who have they have got my hopes up talking to me on here then just not replying to my e-mails after we chat for a bit. I'm a nice guy and always fall into their trap, but how would they like it if I did the same to them? It means girls don't want nice guys just guys who treat them like dirt!"
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Your case is hardly unique - yes, it's happened to all of us. Why? Who knows. You could sit around speculating why forever. Many factors come into play here - what you write, how to keep someone interested, etc. Way too many guys look for the most good-looking ones and desperately try to get through - few do. The competition is just about as hopeless for the women as for the guys. If you get 20-50 mails a day and each and every one of them sound like the one before; how can that be interesting?
The "hottest" women probably don't date more than 1/5 of what average-looking women do for obvious reasons. If you have too many to choose from you get picky, so much in fact, that at the end of the day no one interests you. Maybe you give someone a chance and then all of the sudden, he's boring and you move on. That's how it works. Too much attention is definitely not good if you're seriously trying to find someone to be with.
The best thing to do is to forget about it and find someone else who has more to offer than just good looks. That's just shallow. | |
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| Is this site just a pointless one?
Posted: 7/5/2009 5:27:29 PM |
I've read a few posts from Women on this site who write that they don't get as much response/interest from guys in real life as they do from this site....that ought to tell you something about the choosy mentality you are going to have to learn to deal with if you continue here. My 2 cents is to spend more time in real life putting out feelers/attending parties/asking around etc. E mailing women on this site is generally going to be a less productive use of your time, its a cheap and easy way to keep a 'line in the water' but don't ever rely on a site like this to really meet someone. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 5:27:34 PM | It's something most if not all of us males have (or once had) to go through.
To be blunt.. your profile just seems.. really bland in general. It's too short and you only list two interests. Surely you have more interests other than football and TV? 
There's nothing surprising about sending 30 messages to 30 different people, but only receiving 5 (or less) in return, especially if you're not putting a strong effort into the messages sent. (e.g., especially if you're copying and pasting each message.)
Try to be entertaining! Ask them about their interests, what you find unique about them judging from their profile, and if you can.. try to be witty! Wits can go a long way if you utilize them in the proper fashion. 
But whatever you do, by all means, DON'T hit on them.
Some direct tips:
- Upload more pictures
- Expand your profile (list more interests, describe yourself and what kind of person you're looking for.. but don't be too specific!)
- Try to type more than just 1 or 2 sentences when messaging someone. Make your message stand out!
- Don't let it get you down when a woman doesn't reply. Just keep "fishing".
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Posted: 7/5/2009 6:02:53 PM | OP, post #22 is sensible advice. You're very young, and to partake in internet dating, you really will need to harden your heart a little bit otherwise you are going to get eaten up really quickly! Please try to develop a thicker skin.
It also helps once you send a message to delete it from your outbasket, that way you won't be tempted to look back on it and continually second-guess why the woman didn't respond, why she didn't delete the email etc.
G'Luck......... | |
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