| final surprising update on golf girl
Posted: 7/5/2009 11:39:33 AM | well if your a regular on plenty of fish forums you've more than likely heard about the golf girl that i meet at work last year . well today things came to a rather shocking and out of the blue ending , to explain she all of a sudden quit this week . i just found out today and still not even sure why she left all of a sudden . she's found a job at another nearby golf course fromn what i heard and decided to leave this one immediately .
so considering the fact she never bothered to say good bye or even tell me of these plans so i came to the conlcusion today that she must of really hated me of something which is kind of disappointing cause i was trying hard to get along with her and be her friend , mean she was a really cool girl . this i wasn't trying to date her in that sense but did like her , to be honest i'm still sort of in shock that she just up and quit considering the fact she has been working here for almost 3 years now and friends with everyone . i'm not really sure what else to say , it was very surprising to find this out today . | |
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| final surprising update on golf girl
Posted: 7/5/2009 11:43:04 AM | | Sorry to hear it. There may have been some problem with her employer though. People don't usually suddenly quit without some bad feeling somewhere. If there was a dispute, she would have had to leave straight away with no chance to talk to customers. Just a thought. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 11:56:00 AM | not sure why she left exactly , actually did just talk to her on msn , she happened to be online so i asked her what was going on and all .
she basically said her managers treated her badly , but i don't really buy that one . well maybe there was some pressure there but i don't see how it was a reason to just up and quit all of a sudden . then she mentioned she'll be at a another golf course instead and that she'd still be hanging around her friends from work but made no mentions of me or that she wanted anything to do with me .
she also seems rather excited to be leaving our golf course , and made no mention that she was at all upset that we wouldn't be working together anymore .
if nothing else this is the end of the golf girl saga and a chance for me to move on and meet some new girls this summer and not be pre-occupied about this one as she is basically gone from my life as i only really saw her at work . so i'm pretty sure this one is over . | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 12:00:48 PM | Sorry, Ryan, but don't take it personally. Most people tend to say what is on their mind, and it was probably a problem with management like she stated.
I dont have the details about you two, but have you considered just asking her to go
out to a movie or something, or to just grab a coke after work and hang out and talk a bit? | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 12:08:31 PM | not sure but i don't really see the 2 of us hanging out in the immediate future , she said she'd still be hanging out with her friends from work but made no mention that i could come or that she was at all interested in me coming , she hasn't replied back on msn after her intiall few replies , so i ended the conversation by wishing her luck at her new job and that i hoped she had a good summer , mean what else was i to say , this was just all so surprising i was caught a little off guard by todays events .
i don't really think the 2 of us will be spending much if any time together in the near future , i kind if get the feeling she doesn't have much interest in that . i though we were friends but not lovers i realise but still really disappointed she'd do something like this . it just wasn't cool but i'm one to believe things work out in the end and maybe this one will as well . its just going to be a bit painful the next couple of days until my emotions cool down a little . | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 12:10:32 PM | You two never had a relationship, from what I could tell from your posting history. She considered you an acquaintance and co-worker. You would have liked for it to be more. You were concerned that seeing her this summer with a certain male co-worker would be uncomfortable and awkward. Well, guess what... it won't be. Problem solved.
She really has no reason to hate you. I doubt that she even thinks of you much, one way or the other. I'm not saying this to be cruel, just realistic. She may occupy a great deal of your thoughts, but you do not occupy hers. She quit for her own reasons. Sounds like she got a better job. From your previous posts, you two were not close friends, so why would you expect her to tell you of her plans? Or say goodbye, for that matter?
You were NOT a significant part of her life. She changed jobs. I'm sure there are many people at the resort that she didn't tell of her plans. You thinking that she must 'hate' you is ludicrous. You have to care about someone in order to have feelings that strong. Her life did not and does not revolve around you. You are thinking you meant more to her than you did. Why? Unless I missed something, you two never did more than go out to a sports bar for drinks one night. Is that right? You didn't date. You didn't talk on the phone. You didn't even go out as friends. You saw each other at work. You were an acquaintance and co-worker ... period. That's it. Nothing more and nothing less.
Get over it and find a nice young woman with whom to have a REAL relationship. Not one that is only in YOUR head. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 12:59:12 PM | well i agree that we didn't have a real relationship at anypoint during the last 2 years , we were friends though and did see alot of each other and did talk often , mean i didn't talk to her on the phone but did have her on msn , and obvivously most of the time i talked to her at work . this summer we also saw each other at a few bars nights once we hung out about a month ago as a group you'd say , well she was there with a bunch of her girlfriends it was weird we almost danced together that night , she sort of danced around me or some thing , well at clubs thigs get kinda crazy at times so its hard for me to remember exactly what happened that night .
also i'm not even what guy from work she was sort of seeing , she was someone who definity got around , is maybe 3 guys still there i'm pretty sure she was with and 1 i though she might of been more serious with but i'm not even sure what was going on there , my guess is one of her guys things went really bad all of a sudden and thats why she left but she wouldn't tell that to me .
but i do agree i need a real relationship and i need one soon , but it might not happen immedidatelty unfortuently but its summer and there's alot of girls around here so maybe i could meet someone if i get out there and have some luck and talk to the right girl this time .
i also really feel that i need to move on after this long running golf girl experience , its been long and at times maybe prevented me from meeting other girls or pre-occupied my thoughs when i could of been doing other things with me time , now i at least can move on , didn't think it happen so soon but i can if nothing else move on and put this one behind me . i'm disappointed and not happy about it but there is very little i can do now , she made this decison and its too late to reverse it now . | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 5:13:06 PM | Hey Ryan!
YIPPPEEEEEEEE!!!! Golf girl is gone!! 
Now you don't need to ever worry about her again and start focusing on some of those other little ladies that might give you the time of day, unlike golf girl!! | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 5:27:25 PM | Well good for you that she's gone and you can move on.
It sounds like you have it all in perspective.
Perfect time of year to meet someone too.
Go get 'em!  | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 5:33:39 PM | She probably got a significant pay increase to leave her old job.
Plus, sometimes a change in scenery is refreshing.
I guess you better change golf courses too and see if she leaves again! | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 4:40:43 AM | well i'm not exactly as excited as lori is that she left but i do agree now that she's gone from work and essentially out of my life . i can start to focus on some new girls and not have to worry about her . it will sort of be a chance for a bit of a fresh start on the girl front this summer . as i do agree she wasn't exactly giving me the time of day , well i have talked to her this summer , it was so weird the last time i saw her was wednesday night at this bar ,she was there and so was a number of our co-workers , i remember talking to her then and leaving and saying bye to her , that was the last i have seen of her as she wasn't at work this week and on sunday i found out she had quit . it was all very surprising . but i did sense something might be up before i found out she had quit , my instincts picked up on the fact she was acting very distant the last few days at work and she had this odd look on her face , so i sensed she was either upset at me or something up . i was surprised to hear she had quit but know something was up . but its over now and nothing i can do about this .
but i want to say that i'm ready to put this whole golf girl experience behind me and move on and meet someone who genuinely is interested in me not the other guys i work with . i want someone who actually wants to be my girlfriend not someone like her . | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 1:16:49 PM | Dam Ryan, if you could only hear and see how and what your write, through these experienced eyes, you would understand my desire to poke my eye out with a stick.
You will not have much success with women, until you toughen up a bit. All this "she didnt say this", "she didnt say that", and all the other p1ssing and moaning that you have done about this one girl, is only hurting yourself.
I feel bad for you, because you seem genuine. Honestly though, your own innocence is causing you more problems then you know. | |
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