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Posted: 7/5/2009 4:43:18 PM | alrite i started seeing this guy a while ago which is obviously over now but just trying to figure out what was going threw his head.
ok we dated for like a month and personally im a very calm level head girl. him on the other hand not so much. when i was with his ex gf's sister was msgin me tellin me that he was hanging out with her and telling her that he loved her. which he swore up and down that was a lie becuz they where seperated for a year. I just made it clear to him i dont wanna hear about it anymore from her or her sister so i made it clear to her and her sister. after a while he was trying to buy my affection, just kinda always trying to pay for everything and stuff. about 3 weeks after the ex gf thing he was acting shady around me im not a jelous girl but he was always msgin someone secretively and saying he'll be some where and makin me wait around for like 4 hours sometimes. so i asked to see his phone once and low and behold all his inbox msg where deleted but he forgot about his sent msgs. i looked at them and he was msging his ex saying perverted things like *dont wear any panties so i can play with you*
so i broke up with him rite then and there but he wont lv well enough alone he swears he didnt do anything with her and it was a joke he sent her. and apparently he wants to be friends.. what is it he is trying to do ? | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 4:48:23 PM | He's scoring with the ex-gf while having you on the side.
Joking with his ex-gf .... wow, that's not even original ... | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 4:53:52 PM | | Sound like he is playing you. I think you did the right thing. Just find you someone else. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 4:57:48 PM | Start msging his current Gf with much the same...see how he dances around that one!
Naw...that'd be just lowering yourself to his level. Live above that and tell him to bugger off. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 4:58:18 PM | Oh geez.... the guy is a douche bag and is totally not over his ex..... don`t even think of going back with him. He simply is not worth it and you deserve much, much better.
Peace
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Posted: 7/5/2009 5:00:17 PM | Sheeeeeeeesh talk about teen drama. And what, you are only 20? Kick that turd to the curb. Since he was 'double dipping' I would check yourself for any STD's.
If he continues to harass you, get a restraining order. Or do they have such things in Canada? | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 5:01:10 PM | 'doesn't pass the sniff test.
Don't know these people, but I'll BET you got that msg b/c the ex and the sister know he's trying to get his cake and eat it too, and want to cut him down from that by cutting you out of the picture.
What's going thru his head? He got exposed once, talked you out of believing it--in fact, you declared you didn't want to hear anything else, truth or otherwise. So he thinks you want a low maintainance situation, and if you don't hear stuff, then that counts as low maintainance.
So, he has nothing absolutely to lose by keeping you as a friend. If you do, time may heal wounds and you fall back into his arms again. If you refuse to get played, then so what, it was worth a try, right?
Again, I don't know this guy...but that's what I'm smellin' here. If he wanted a friend, he wouldn't lose one by texting sex to someone else. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 7:02:05 PM | | You know what the score is. Dump him, and you don't need this guy for a friend either. He'll just use you. Good luck | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 7:30:38 PM | | Drop back and punt. kick him to the curb. delete his phone number and don't return his text or messages. Run don't walk away from this dude. Don't look back or you will turn into a pillar of salt. Find someone else. No matter what he says don't believe him. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 8:39:15 PM | You had criminal evidence in your hands ... a full list of messages he sent to his EX when he said he wasn't talking to her. Case closed. Doesn't matter WHAT he said or if he touched her. He LIED to you again and again and again and again and even lied about his messages after a lame attempt to cover up.
Do you need to stand in the room while he's screwing her before you accept his betrayal? | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 10:11:16 PM | I'm glad to hear you ended it with this idiot...good for you!
But before you put too much thought or time into why he did it...think about this...no matter his reasons or excuses...the fact of the matter is he was NOT respecting his relationship with you!
A man that has respect for the woman he's with...would not send messages or talk to another woman like that or in any sexual way..ex or not. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 5:15:42 PM |
just trying to figure out what was going threw his head.
I'm curious too - what did his head throw?
what is it he is trying to do ?
Precisely what his ex was warning you about. There's absolutely no way telling an ex, "Don't wear any panties so I can play with you" can be interpreted as a joke. Either let him go, or let him keep spending money on you... whichever you prefer. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 7:05:24 PM | I agree there could be a few things going on here. Either he is over his ex but is just using her for sex and she may or may not know that. Or he is trying to play both of you, however she apparently knows about you and you about her so my guess is option A which would be he is using her for sex while looking for other women. The question becomes does she know hes just using her for sex and doesnt really want to come back to her, or is she ok with them just having sex and just wanted to mess with his new relationship for various reasons. Although there is a small chance hes actually no over her and is confused himself.
Either way hes not being honest, since he was busted hes now using the can we at least be friends to still try to make a connection with you. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 7:17:52 PM | It sounds to me as though he is simply interested in having you as 1 more option to keep his options open.
What you do with that is up to you. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 7:19:09 PM |  He's trying to get into your pants, what else? For him, having 2 girlfriends is fun, and you take a lot of abuse. Waiting 4 HOURS for him! Several times! And you never decked him for this? Unless he's REALLY good in bed and that's all you want from him, dump him. He's a player. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 8:32:17 PM | | He is greedy and a very poor liar. Don't waste your time. Also, kick him in the face a few times for making the rest of us look bad. kthx. | |
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