| Getting stuff back from an ex
Posted: 7/5/2009 8:53:37 PM | So here's the situation, I could use some non-partial opinions on it.
So when I was dating this girl she asked me to leave one of my shirts at her place so she could sleep with it when I wasn't there. Now that we broke up I asked for it back she claims to have lost it. I then suggested that she buy me a new shirt to replace it and she lost her shit and told me that it wasn't fair to ask that of her.
So am I out of line here, or was my request reasonable? | |
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| Getting stuff back from an ex
Posted: 7/5/2009 8:55:35 PM | let it go already....why is this worth the fight? Buy yourself another shirt. It's splitting hairs already! OYE!
[Edit: It's not as if you've lost your shirt or anything!] | |
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| Getting stuff back from an ex
Posted: 7/5/2009 8:56:25 PM | | It's a friggin' T-shirt...let it go and move on! A t-shirt is $10 - $ 30. Peace is priceless! | |
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| Getting stuff back from an ex
Posted: 7/5/2009 8:59:37 PM | | when you're a student who's strapped for cash a $20 shirt is kind of big deal. Do I buy myself a new shirt so I have enough clothes to get through the week, or do I spend the money on food so I can eat for another couple of days? | |
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| Getting stuff back from an ex
Posted: 7/5/2009 8:59:48 PM | | This better be one fine shirt to be raising such a stink over. Honestly, I get the sense your both out of line. Forget the shirt and move on. | |
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| Getting stuff back from an ex
Posted: 7/5/2009 9:02:55 PM | "Do I buy myself a new shirt so I have enough clothes to get through the week"
you obviously made it through the week without the shirt when you were dating her.
So, this looks just like either you looking for a reason to be in touch with her or to give her a hard time.
Let it go! | |
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| Getting stuff back from an ex
Posted: 7/5/2009 9:05:17 PM | Let me clarify this. You are wasting the time of everyone who reads this over an old shirt? | |
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| Getting stuff back from an ex
Posted: 7/5/2009 9:06:25 PM | | Cost benefit analysis of discussing your shirt vs. watching an episode of robot chicken... decisions decisisons. | |
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| Getting stuff back from an ex
Posted: 7/5/2009 9:09:12 PM | | okay, maybe the not having clothes to get through the week was a bit of an exageration, but the point is I don't have the cash to spare to be buying new clothes, and it was one of my nicer shirts, which I never really wanted her to take. She essentially just made me leave without it one night. | |
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| Getting stuff back from an ex
Posted: 7/5/2009 9:32:37 PM | | First off if you own so little clothes that giving one away keeps you from having enough to make it through the week, you were dumb for giving it to her. Next time just use one of her towels to wipe the sweat from your a$$ that should suffice. | |
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| Getting stuff back from an ex
Posted: 7/5/2009 9:34:41 PM | | That shirt still isn't worth the drama and hassle you'd have to go through to get that shirt. I'd just leave it and move on. | |
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| Getting stuff back from an ex
Posted: 7/5/2009 9:36:31 PM | Listen, go down to Goodwill or whatever you have there and get another shirt. You're having something called 'abandonment frustration'. MAYBE you don't have the money to spend on another shirt. If it wasn't an issue, why did you give it to her? If YOU broke up with HER, thren let her keep the shirt as a token.
Remind yourself of this thread whenever you get it in your head to marry someone. Broken relationships cost EVERYBODY.
You can't buy peace, but you sure traded yours away for the cost of an old shirt. | |
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| Getting stuff back from an ex
Posted: 7/5/2009 9:43:53 PM |
okay, maybe the not having clothes to get through the week was a bit of an exageration, but the point is I don't have the cash to spare to be buying new clothes, and it was one of my nicer shirts, which I never really wanted her to take. She essentially just made me leave without it one night.
I lost like... what? $10,000 and 5 CD's. That's like a down payment on a house and some killer f*cking tunes! Which reminds me... we both lost the house too.
Oh yeah... and she got one of my shirts too. My Napalm Death "Nazi Punks F*ck Off" one. It was one of my favourites, and they just don't sell them anymore. Though I suppose I haven't check on eBay yet, but still. And that was a long sleever too so it cost me like $35 back in 1996. Can you imagine what it would be worth now? Holy shit man!
Methinks it's time to just let go. Trust me. Life gets better. | |
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| Getting stuff back from an ex
Posted: 7/5/2009 9:49:43 PM | Was your shirt autographed my Michael Jackson or John Lennon!!!
Please do not be petty!!!! | |
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| Getting stuff back from an ex
Posted: 7/5/2009 10:00:35 PM | | Is it really that petty to want my shirt or a replacement... let's look at a similar example... say you lent a favorite cd to a friend and they lost it, would it not be fair to ask them to buy you a new copy? Or perhaps you lend someone $20, you expect them to pay you back right? how is my situation any different really: she borrowed my shit, she lost my shit, I want my shit back | |
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| Getting stuff back from an ex
Posted: 7/5/2009 10:07:06 PM |
This is the funniest thing i've read in ages. Thanks for the entertainment OP.
There's more to life than wanting a shirt back. She probably spewed on it anyway. LOL | |
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| Getting stuff back from an ex
Posted: 7/5/2009 10:14:44 PM |
Is it really that petty to want my shirt or a replacement
What it is is a waste of time and energy. You can slice it any way you want to, but it doesn't change the fact that it's not worth the effort your putting in to recouping it. If you want to do some comparisons, take poker. You've got a losing hand. Do you keep bidding hoping that eventually you'll bluff your opponent who's sitting with 4 aces? He's going to just sit there until you throw your entire stack into the pot while you sit there trying to rationalize, "He's just gotta fold eventually. If I keep raising, he must believe me that I can beat him!"
That's how you lose everything. Learn that lesson now while it's only a $20 shirt. | |
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| Getting stuff back from an ex
Posted: 7/5/2009 10:21:42 PM | If you want yr shit....go poop again!!!
I am sorry, but it is very pathetic.....get a life OP....20$ are not worth yr aggravation nor our time here!! | |
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| Getting stuff back from an ex
Posted: 7/5/2009 10:39:07 PM | I'll send you a shirt so you can make it through this dilemma. What size do you wear anyways?
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| Getting stuff back from an ex
Posted: 7/5/2009 10:43:19 PM | | My situation is kind of like that, except my wife left me. She left, and didn't take anything. Left everything. WTF am I going to do with 49 pairs of flip flops? Is it just me, or would most normal women take ALL their stuff, and half of my shit? Crazy. | |
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| Getting stuff back from an ex
Posted: 7/5/2009 10:46:32 PM |
Is it really that petty to want my shirt or a replacement... let's look at a similar example... say you lent a favorite cd to a friend and they lost it, would it not be fair to ask them to buy you a new copy? Or perhaps you lend someone $20, you expect them to pay you back right? how is my situation any different really: she borrowed my shit, she lost my shit, I want my shit back
Ok then look at it this way. That 20$ shirt has been worn by two different people and has been washed how many times reducing it's value to less then 25% of it's original purchase value.
Add to that the thrifty practices of the normal collage student and the types of cheap and destructive detergent they use, that reduces the value of said shirt by yet another 75% .
then add in the general depreciation of cloths that are so quickly out of style, which I'm sure by this point in time that shirt is. we are talking even more depreciation.
Shall we say 15%.
So now lets see what you could be entitled to if for some reason you had any grounds at all for restitution in this matter.
From the first example we get less then 25% of it's original value......... $5.00
Lack of proper laundering, .....................................................- 75% = $1.25
Out of style .............................................................................-15% = $ 1.06
So now ask yourself if all of this time and frustration is really worth $1.06?
By the way her new boyfriend used that same shirt one night after getting body oil all over his $80 shirt. So now that 3 people have worn the shirt what do you think it's really worth? And after he's worn it do you really want it back?
You had better hope she doesn't get all up in arms and try and charge you for storage which also includes laundering fee's along with handling charges. With interest might I add. | |
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| Ok kid...
Posted: 7/5/2009 10:58:43 PM | ....I know at 19 shit like this seems important.
This is as good of time as any to learn two lessons...
1) No, it isn't. No....no....really. It isn't. The ROI on the time, effort and drama involved in getting that shirt back in NOT worth the shirt. You can buy another shirt. Your time can never be retrieved, and your peace of mind is invaluable. If you are confident that all this isn't just some contrived drama on your part to stay plugged into this girl's life (a common teenage behavior...when you are a teen you tend to think drama IS love), just let it go...because her claiming to have lost the shirt certainly is.
2) You never leave ANYTHING that you truly value at the house of a woman you aren't married to. and truth be told...to be fair....that has nothing to do with gender. A person should never leave anything of value at the home of a SO. Why? Because relationships VERY seldom end well, and the kidnapping and destroying of property is frequently an outcome. Not universally...its happened to me about 50% of the time...but it happens.
Count this up to a lesson learned. Just let it go. And if it is her who is creating the bullshit drama (as in you really JUST want your shirt back and she is playing games) it will aggravate her A LOT MORE if you just stop asking about it...and speaking to her.
It will. | |
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| Ok kid...
Posted: 7/5/2009 11:35:55 PM | If this is not some cry for attention I dont know what is.. Your an ass move on  | |
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