| The parting shot
Posted: 7/5/2009 9:15:16 PM | You are in a relationship, either on line (which is not real) or a RL relationship which ends, but it is acrimonious. You know it's over, she knows it's over, but there is one last email from her.
Do you open it and read it? Because you are curious. And you do and it is so full of invective that the "page" is almost all asterisks. Maybe you want to reply. Apologize. Or do some dumping of you own, but you can't because YOU'RE BLOCKED.
So I'm frustrated and they got that parting shot in. Clues that it it is a kiss off email are "Goodbye" on the subject line. There is an absence of the user name next to your email correspondence. They remove you from their favourites. Delete all your emails, etc.
I don't open them anymore. Nope! Don't wanna know. Don't ask don't tell.
Or , I don't know! Maybe this never happens to anybody else. Comments. | |
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| The parting shot
Posted: 7/5/2009 9:21:01 PM | Not exactly sure what this was, but "parting shot"?
Dumped is dumped. Have a beer, chuckle about it and let it ride.
Say to yourself, "BFD".  | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 9:30:01 PM | Sounds like they just cut the line and what nothing to do with this person anymore. To some people think it's cold/cruel, to others it's to protect themselves and the only way they know how to successfully move on, simply making it seem non existent anymore. Usually in this case the person who cuts off the line ends up being hurt the most and this is why they do it...or simply they are being just hard, stubborn, a major pain in the neck..that's mind games; Attention seekers.
If I was in this situation and have been cut for whatever sensible reason, I would cut back. Wash your hands off it.
But yeah that's my thought about this situation... | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 9:45:24 PM | Not exactly sure what this was, but "parting shot"?
Dumped is dumped. Have a beer, chuckle about it and let it ride.
Say to yourself, "BFD"
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I did the dumping in this case, hot shot. I don't drink, thanks. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 9:54:43 PM | Well I guess if I was the one that did the dumping, and the HE of the equasion wrote me a last scathing email, I would read it, yeah curiousity and the cat syndrome. Wonder about the last blast of the now ex, and ultimately decide it was a wise thing to do the dumping, and move on. I can never not read an email.
If this was a recent thing Bodypro, sorry for your demise. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 10:05:48 PM | If this was a recent thing Bodypro, sorry for your demise.
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Don,t be sorry. Rejoice , because I am. I don't even feel guilty, which makes me wonder...what kind of monstrosity am I, anyway? But she'll live. I didn't have my heart in it. I tried. I really did. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 10:37:09 PM | Ooh, no. I'm with you. Delete without reading, and hope s/he can see that's exactly what you did.
There's not going to be anything you want to read in there, and you already know you can't respond back. Bite the bullet and delete. You don't need whatever crap s/he wanted to say to lodge in your brain. Nuh-uh. No how. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 10:37:24 PM | I dont think people understand what you mean by the question or what to comment about but i do! It seems after a break up you get that damn email or text message that is always so f'd up and you sit and laugh about it for hours only because you coudn't get the last line in, BECAUSE YOU GOT BLOCKED! I have got that one a lot, and end up every time cracking up oer it! Its like they can't say it to your face. lmao. Well man, cheers to the lost last line | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 11:16:26 PM | | The fact that you didn't have your heart in it, Bud, pretty much says it all. I was recently dating someone and my heart wasn't completely in it either. When that ended, I tried keeping it as serene as possible. But, rejection is still rejection, and most people just don't take it well. The fact that she just had to get in that last word kinda says something about her. I wouldn't think of yourself as a monstrosity due to the lack of guilt. You're over it, she wasn't. Such is life. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 11:29:50 PM | If it's that radioactive, time to dust off your concealed weapons permit and watch your back for a few weeks. There is no substitute for safety.
Have a profile ready to give to police in case your car/home/pet is harmed in any way.
Don't respond to any emails from this person. EVER. It will only spur them on to continue the attacks.
Go idea to find a few different places to frequent for meals for about six months. Have you tried Brazilian?
Also a good time to take a 7-day Caribbean Cruise. Some string bikinis and a beach massage can make your cares fade. If she is planning an attack, at least get a good week in before the war begins. | |
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| The parting shot
Posted: 7/6/2009 1:33:22 AM | | What does your heart tell you to do? | |
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| The parting shot
Posted: 7/6/2009 2:39:22 AM | You know that in an acrimonious parting that the email is going to be nasty.. people love to get the last word, but in all honesty what does it serve?
I received some nasty sms's and emails from my ex and deleted most of them after reading them.. later I just didn't read them and deleted ..I didn't respond, which would have angered him more. I wasn't going to enter into his nasty little game. I chose to ignore the battle, as it's just not worth the agro.
It's what they want anyway.. for you to read, respond, showing them how it affected you. They get pleasure in feeling they've got one on you.
Best not to bite. Rise above it.. you feel much better in the long run as opposed to the short amount of pleasure you'd receive if you did a 'take that!!' approach and responded. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 3:58:42 AM | i would try my very best to delete without reading.. although being a nosey git i quite prob would not succeed.. as much as i would try my real hardest,i would have to read it...
i wouldnt know whether they had blocked me or not as i woudnt enter into a t1t-for-tat slanging match, i would prob just leave it and let it go...... | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 4:51:18 AM | I try not to take parting shots BP. Serves no purpose.
Now, that being said, if I thought I was receiving one, I'd probably read it and be happy that the relationship was done. It would only serve to highlight how on the mark I was in leaving this person alone. Does that make sense?
I'm sorry--dumper or dumpee--it's still not a good place to be in. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 5:17:26 AM | | I'm sorry things did not work out. Personally, I have been both "dumper" and "dumpee" in different situations, it mostly sucks. When I've been on the "dumpee" end of it, I don't leave "parting shots", I exit like a lady! Hey, I got my self respect. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 5:39:28 AM | Well, see.... you have to date in order to have a break-up and be either the giver or receiver of a parting shot.
I can't get a date so this leaves me out of this one.
*cries* | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 7:41:34 AM | I would absolutely read it...and be royally ticked off that I couldn't respond. God knows that getting the last word in is so important.
Get you jet fixed hon, and we'll paint the town red - we can block each other in the morning. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 7:49:17 AM | I'm sorry if this is just an ''unreal'' internet relationship....well who cares??? People take these things way too seriously. You never met the person, you don't know if half of what they have told you is true. Or how they really are in person. That doesn't constitute a relationship really. I do have online ''friends'' and one I feel very close to and care about. But online friends come and go so fast that honestly anything they say or do, you have to just let it go.
If you know the email will upset you, hit delete. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 7:59:42 AM | Your mistake was reading a message that said ``Goodbye'' in the subject line. Don't do that. The obvious corollary to that is never send a message that foreshadows bad news in the subject header.
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