| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/6/2009 12:46:05 AM | Continuing on from the sex toy thread.
Ladies do you think that porn has a lot to blame for what men assume we enjoy in the sex department?
Gentleman do you realise that even though they are not very good actors that that is still exactly what they are, acting out a part and not exactly enjoying having 2 dildo's rammed up any of their available orifices. Do men take too much from porn and assume that that is exactly what we want? | |
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/6/2009 12:58:26 AM |
Gentleman do you realise that even though they are not very good actors that that is still exactly what they are, acting out a part and not exactly enjoying having 2 dildo's rammed up any of their available orifices. Do men take too much from porn and assume that that is exactly what we want?
Speak for yourself, not all women!!!
I do know what you're saying, but going to an ex's flat one day I found her on the bed in pretty much exactly the position you describe above, and it wasn't at MY request.
Good girl! | |
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/6/2009 1:21:19 AM |
Do men take too much from porn and assume that that is exactly what we want?
I dunno what sort of relationships you've been involved in but I reckon that in any relationship worth having, both partners should be clued up about what the other wants and not make any assumptions based on entertainment adult or otherwise, if you havent spoken about your sexual preferences or fantasies then you really arent "into" each other enough to be invading orificies with foreign objects. | |
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/6/2009 1:26:06 AM | Women are game for as much 'unusual' fun as any man, in my experience at least. Sex should be about experimentation and pushing boundaries and porn does sometimes help people in this respect. As a (preferably and when I am in a relationship) twice a day man, I would find anything less than this tedious and boring after a while. Women also have as many, if not more, fantasies than us guys if you scrape below the surface.
Having said that, I do get very nervous about the way women are portrayed in porn, but then I get very nervous about how women are portrayed in society in general. Lads magazines particularly seem to push the notion that every post pubescent women is gagging to try lesbian sex and gang bangs at every opportunity. That's a dangerous notion for young men to be fed.
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/6/2009 1:28:58 AM | | You could turn this on it's head, plenty of women think they need to behave like they're on camera because they think that's what men want, personally i don't want to be shoving things where the sun does'nt shine while she screams the house down and scares the dog, all i want is 15 minutes of mish and for her to shut the fcuk up and go straight to sleep afterwards....on the wet patch. | |
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OKRob
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Joined: 6/4/2009
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/6/2009 1:35:07 AM | | Some women are moe adventerous than others just like some men are more adventerous than others. Different people like different things. I don't think porn has anything to do with it. I haven't watch porn for litterally as long as I can remember but I still know what I find to be a turn on and I would think that most people male or female like an exciting time. | |
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sjxx
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Joined: 4/9/2009
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/6/2009 1:41:57 AM | ooh tm i have obviously never watched any porn so i have never seen such goings on  but it sounds a little uncomfortable. Of course i may be willing to try if i could also do him the same way. Equal rights and all that  | |
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/6/2009 2:07:51 AM | I would like to think that men are able to divorce fantasy from real-life ... but regrettably feel I may need to concede that this might not be the case
Many women on sites such as this claim to receive unbelievably crude messages and nude pictures from men introducing themselves... these man hoping for the two to meet with the sole intention of having a sh*g.
I've also dated a number of women who testified to having received such messages and I have actually read these messages myself whilst with them.
So, maybe these men live in a fantasy dream-world where all women are 'up-for-it' and are mere sexual objects put on earth for their gratification (whether or not this is a case of their watching too much porn, how would we know?)...
And I suppose that this is the main problem with pornography (women here solely for male gratification)... it's not so much a case of the sexual acts taking place, but rather the power struggle and dominance of man over woman.
From my own perspective I'd like to say that within the context of a relationship (and when and where appropriate) lewd messages and nude pictures might be a natural and fun part of a relationship. Also, as a single male, I enjoy watching some pornography.
I have however never, nor would I ever, message a woman inappropriately and I daresay the majority of men wouldn't either. The minority (?) unfortunately makes it bad for us all.
Do you remember a few years ago the uproar involving Coronation Street's Diedrie Barlow (free her from prison campaign)?... some people actually believed that these characters were real.
It is therefore likely that there will be people who consider everything they see in pornography to be equally real. | |
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/6/2009 2:20:23 AM | I was just about to say that shabba in my last relationship i was pressured by my ex to perform like a porn star lol my fault i know but never again.
SJ my ex husband wanted to try botty sex i said him first if he likes it we can give it a go, well lets just say he never tried that avenue again lol | |
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*kath*
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Joined: 9/30/2008
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/6/2009 2:33:03 AM | I would only do what I felt comfortable with,no amount of porn watching will change that as I know my own mind.
Being pressurised into performing anything that makes you feel uneasy kind of defeats the object in the first place. | |
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/6/2009 3:13:09 AM | Now i get it
so women dont actually like to f++k donkey's, dogs, Camel's
or am i just watching the wrong porn again? | |
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/6/2009 3:24:22 AM | I had a very short career in the porn industry , and found that even though it is "acting" you cant act your way through a nine incher been rammed up your backgate with next doors labrador sniffing your jack and danny.
Porn watching should be an enjoyable experience either alone *cough* ok we all have needs or as a couple adding a little visual stimulation to their sex lives. On the whole I don't really think the male of our species expect us all to do an oscar winning porn star performance and I am sure that they would feel slightly presured themselves to fulfill the role of male porn star. | |
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/6/2009 3:48:08 AM | | Well I have mixed thoughts about this. Some men are definitely addicted to porn and I see that as a psychological problem which I am not going into as that could take a long time. I am also sick and tired of everything in society becoming perfectly acceptable as whilst we continue to say it's ok for women to be portrayed as sex slaves, etc, you are also giving the green light for every other kind of act which from which you can derive sexual satisfaction as being acceptable too. We all have needs and being able to communicate those is vital in a relationship but being able to tolerate those needs, especially if they put their needs before yours is another thing. BTW, I might be wrong but I don't believe many men really want to act out their hard core fantasies with their partners, especially those that are married with children. Men don't necessarily read porn because of the lack of sex in their relationship either. I turned a blind eye to my ex's obsession with it but wish I hadn't as it led him on to other things which I could definitely not tolerate. | |
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Joe1uk
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Joined: 6/10/2009
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/6/2009 3:58:52 AM |
SJ my ex husband wanted to try botty sex i said him first if he likes it we can give it a go, well lets just say he never tried that avenue again lol
So you judged it not to be your thing but you hadn't even tried it. Try it , you may just enjoy it.
I had a very short career in the porn industry did we perform together? I can't remember you and I'm sure I would.
Lots of girls today want to act like porn stars, shagging around, casual sex, pick a stranger up on the street take him back, do a bit of bare back anal. on to the next the next night. Not even know his name. I think you underestimate their liking for casual sex, fetishes and extreme sex. Lots of girls want and do have three somes nowadays. Just ask in such a way that you think its okay for a girl to have shagged half the town and she'll soon open up and brag she's done a three some with two guys she met in a club. Its okay though , she knows them, she said said hello over three consecutive weeks as she was passing to go to the toilets.
Apart from anal, threesomes - One girl from a local garden centre was openly admitting on a bus once that she likes two in one, casual stranger sex, there's lesbian sex,quite a few like that, dressing up, water sports, role play, bondage, tie & tease.
Just because you don't like them, or some of them, or a phobia of them, girls seem to have a phobia of anal after experiences with guy who doesn't know what he's doing, doesn't mean others don't like them, although they may say to you they don't. I for example don't like doing any of the above, sex is dirty and should only be done in monogamous wedlock but you should hear the noises coming from next door.
Remember no matter what you do both should be consenting, no means no unless your in to rough stuff & bondage where a code words used then the code words mean no.
^^^ but its often not even the guy who suggests doing it, the girls do, they see it and want to please their men, they see it as acceptable because all their mates do it. | |
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/6/2009 4:14:01 AM | Hmmm..porn. It can be a bit of a taboo subject but when I was in a long relationship with my ex I didn't really find a problem with sometimes him watching it..(or us watching it together)as long as it didnt contain scenes such as beastism or strange and huge inanimate objects being used!
Sometimes when you are with someone for a while it can add a bit of spice and as long as he wasn't spending hours on end watching it rather than spending time with me then it was fine.
As for guys that dribble and spend all day over the contents of heavier /way out porn?Pervs! But better than going out and acting this out on some poor unsuspecting woman! | |
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/6/2009 4:19:26 AM | | i blame alot on porn..its not nice when you pull your kecks down and the women starts laughing at your fishing tackle just cos you aint hung like johnny wadd or king dong..there is nothing wrong with having a 4 inch wanger you know..its just normal..all this porn carry on should be banned..its disgusting and not natural... | |
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/6/2009 5:44:00 AM | | I blame porn for making girls think my monster tackle is normal. I prefer it when they kneel down in front of me and worship it, something the size of which they have never seen before. | |
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HenXX
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Joined: 6/16/2009
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/6/2009 5:54:03 AM | Male model.........Aha!...I know who you really are now!!!.....see you on Friday
I think if us women acted out the porn,half would run a mile. | |
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Pud78
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Joined: 4/23/2009
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/6/2009 6:04:06 AM | When I was 13 and started to notice girls it was natural to try and wanted to see any porn and nudity possible but it was very limited and you were lucky to catch a nipple on tv and had to make do with Littlewoods catalogues with lingerie and page 3. This gave a soft introduction to women and was quite sensual and erotic rather than unrealistic and thrashing around hardcore pornography that is so readily available today. Those first 7 years from puberty to man hood of discovering women and what I and they liked was progressive and found out by trial and error and trying about what we heard or seen in a soft core film or on tv. This helped teach me what sex is really like and what it should be like and not some false reality hardcore porn film.
What worries me is that youngsters, male and female, today have access to hardcore pornography from an early age and that is what they are learning about sex and how to treat a women and that is scary as lots wont be able to distinguish the difference between fantasy and reality.
What you see does have an effect and as on a previous thread pointed out to me at least was what we find attractive can often be based on the media and what we are told is attractive and I have found my tastes change and is that down to growing up or because I am easily influenced by what I see and told by the media? | |
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/6/2009 7:10:50 AM | Some women/men do enjoy very varied sex lives, porn is just a way of pushing the boundaries but most of it must appeal or it wouldn't be watched.
I think porn just opens up views and opinions, helps men/women gain a wider knowledge of sex.
Noone should make a partner do something that they aren't comfortable with though.
I saw my first porn film a few months ago and it's made me realise one thing.......i want a full size one next! ( i didn't realise that they came so big!)  | |
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/6/2009 7:49:59 AM | cannot blame it in my eyes as now it just totally bores me, only have it on my phone so i can send it to people in the pub, especially my gay mate as he has a fit for some reason when watching a girl getting gang banged  | |
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Pud78
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Joined: 4/23/2009
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/6/2009 10:02:05 AM | Aella..
.i want a full size one next! ( i didn't realise that they came so big!)
If men can be believed I can only suggest, by going by what they put in their posts, malemodel and not chopper. Chopper does have the advantage that it is in the right place and not attached to his forehead! | |
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/6/2009 10:41:42 AM | From the OP, it seems that its assumed only men watch porn and are influenced by it.
What about women who think men want women to behave like that?
Maybe its time men and women started communicating a bit. | |
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