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Posted: 7/6/2009 4:45:28 AM | | ive been dating this guy for about 3 months he seems hes real into me while im with him but disance when im not around doesnt really call me like he use to and im the one that would text him write him emails but now it got to the point over the 4th of july weekend he comes on to pof and i texted him asking how his 4th of july weekend went and he replies and said good how was your weekend (" where you naughty")? i became the booty call girl . wtf | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 5:00:45 AM | | Yep..If you gave up the goods, then he mostlikely is moving on. Limit the frequency of your texts and email and see what happens. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 5:17:12 AM | I'm sorry you are in this situation. I can't speak for all guys, but only for myself. If I am really into a woman, I make it a point to let her know. Not in words, but in actions. I am going to call her, write her or whatever it takes to let her know she is on my mind. I don't mean smother her with calls, but depending on the depth of the relationship, no less then a call everyday. I might also send her a simple email that might be romantic or otherwise let her know I am into her.
It sounds like to me, this guy has lost some interest in you. Just not as into you as you are into him. So he is backing off. I don't know you or this guy and just what depth you both have talked about concerning commitment. Your profile says you are looking for long term. Is he? Have you discussed this with him?
It seems to me, that if you have been dating this guy for three months, the both of you might have even talked about your presents on this dating site. If I were dating a woman for three months, I'd pretty much know where we stand with one another and would have by now discussed a commitment to each other. We would have tlaked about either closing our POF accounts or hiding them from searches as well as stating clearly that you are not looking since you have found someone. Has this ever been discussed?
It's possible that you are smothering him because you want a long term committed relationship and he doesn't. Or you call, email, text annd call him to much. If there is anything to this relationship, you need to stop the routine of to many contacts via all the methods you said you use.
My mother once said to me, "If you want someone bad enough, you need to run from them until you catch them." This was back in high school after my girlfriend broke up with me. Long story short, it worked! It's possible you are just to easy for him and he has put you into just a booty call thing. Don't let him! Confront him and tell him what you are feeling. Make him come clean with his feelings about what you are to each other.
If you alreqady feel you are ju8st a booty call for him, tell him to never call you again and move on to someone that wants what you want.
I wish you the best. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 5:27:17 AM | Can you write in a coherent complete sentence and check spelling too? Are you asking us if you are the booty call girl??
I think yes, you are. Shouldn't give up the pu$$y until you are sure he's into you and DATING you. Sounds like he's banging you and looking for greener pastures elsewhere when you aren't in the room.
How soon did you sleep with him? I'm guessing date 2 or week 2. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 8:33:16 AM |
i became the booty call girl . wtf
Yep, sounds like it to me....
If a guy wants you for your personality... he will be in contact with you as much as he can be...
If he only wants you for sex, he will be in contact only when he's horny... He'll just keep you hanging on though as a 'spare' for dry moments between other women... Chances are he's got another woman or women and you're just part of the booty harem... | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 8:36:07 AM | +1 on the booty call girl determination/if he was into you, he'd be trying to contact you often.
Sorry, guys aren't that complicated. If we're into you, we'll try to contact you. If we aren't, we won't. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 8:40:41 AM | If a man has nothing new and exciting to say he won't call. That doesn't mean he's not into you. Men and women see communications differently. Women seem to want the phone calls just to talk and re-affirm the connection. What is talked about isn't really important. Men make contact when they have something to say and don't see the sense in talking just for the sake of talking.
Of course this is a generalization and the roles can be reversed on an individual level.
The "were you naughty" is an invitation to talk - there'd be a point to the communication. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 8:51:52 AM | gentlemanNJIM4ONE
you sound like a real genuine man thanks for all the insite ..and for the one that aksed if i called him all the time? I would only call befor our date to confirm our date for that next night i would only talk to him every other weekend when we would go out.
thanks guys for all your advice. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 9:56:34 AM |
i became the booty call girl
So what exactly is The Problem? We need more booty call girls.
When the supply increases, the demand will go down, and women will be finally happy at last.  | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 10:24:46 AM | I guess I see this two different ways.
The first is simple if a guy is into you then he makes contact.. His statement on this text could have meant anything from Did you party over the 4th to did you dance naked on a table., We don't know him so therefore we can't give a really good insightful opinion here.
My dad has sent me text like this meaning nothing more than did I shoot water balloons at my nephew...
Now how often are you texting him, some people don't have to talk daily to know that each are interested. Life is to busy for that.
Let's be totally honest in the beginning of every relationship the emails, phone calls, texts fly back and forth. When a relationship gets comfortable you don't need all that contact since you both should be secure in the knowledge of how each other feels.
Where did you become the Booty Call girl here I am lost. No one can put you in that position except YOU>.. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 10:26:28 AM | Oh noes, you laid the golden pvssy at his feet and he didn't treat your golden pvssy as the end all, be all of golden pvssy! He actually doesn't think the world of your golden pvssy and thinks you probably share it with the rest of the world like you did with him.
OH NOES! | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 1:32:57 PM |
why is it the more overweight they are the more that they think easy sex is gonna land them a fine man
It's often because of rejection earlier on in life, as a result they found that easy sex made them popular... having sex then becomes like a drug because they feel good about themselves because they have an illusion of being desirable...
before long you become nothing more than high mileage booty calls
Then they start eating to get over the rejection for too many partners... vicious circle...
And they will still deny it to the bitter end.... it will always be someone else's fault... | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 1:47:29 PM | | It must be me, am I the only guy who wont do booty calls, or just jump in bed with just any women? where have all the nice girls gone? | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 2:10:33 PM | manforrent - I don't think attacking the OP is helping anything. She asked a simple question, not for your opinion on bigger women. But thanks for showing us your inner ugliness!
OP, it doesn't sound as though there was much communication involved during those 3 months, if you only spoke to him to confirm the dates and not so much any other time (unless you were in his company). That should have been a clue about being a FWB. If the guy is truly interested in you - as a person and not just for sex, they will try to establish regular contact, especially by the end of the first month. I'm sorry you had to go through this, but even sorrier for the personal attacks that were not warranted.
Best of luck!
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Posted: 7/6/2009 4:31:08 PM |
I think some of you women use sex as a tool and a weapon unfortunatly it doesn't work and before long you become nothing more than high mileage booty calls, course you have nothing to worry about, no matter how fat or disgusting you become there is always some looser guy wanting to play hide the salami with you.
And when we hold said golden pvssy back and wait for substance, and the guy loses interest, ya'all say we didn't give it up fast enough, and we put to much stock in our golden pvssy
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Posted: 7/6/2009 5:06:32 PM | I'm not trying to insult you here, but...
You're not utilizing even rudimentary grammar stills, so I don't know what you're trying to say or ask. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 5:16:29 PM | Other than your atrocious typing, the question is when did you have sex with him?
My guess also is second or third date.
You don't respect yourself and don't be surprised to become a booty call.
I apologise for the tone .. but next time keep the pants on until you see whether the guy is a dog or not. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 5:48:19 PM | If you took the time to compose a decent readable statement then I would give you my input but I'm not going to even try to figure out want you question is.
This isn't texting and your not looking to intelligent! | |
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