| What did I do wrong?
Posted: 7/6/2009 9:10:49 AM | I started talking to this girl off of myspace. Let's call her Stacy. I'm 23. She's 18. I didn't expect much out of it. I was surprised she gave me her number. She wanted me to text a lot. I had problems with my phone, and she thought I was playing games. But soon enough we were talking on the phone and texting a lot.
I felt like I could relate to what Stacy was saying. A few things were off though. Like she said she was unemployed, and never wanted to talk about why she was jobless? Out of the blue she told me she had a bank account. I don't see why that mattered. On her myspace her status were talking about how she never met a guy before that made her feel special like this. Then she started putting on her page she was bisexual, and wanted to hangout with a bad boy.
But on the phone she was different. We agreed to meet a few days ago. I was on my way to meet her at the mall. Out of instinct something to me to text her. So I did, and she tells me she's on got terrible cramps. I asked her did she want anything from CVS? She told me not to worry about it. I asked am I still coming? She told me, "idk.. home." I said what does that mean, you want me to come over? Then she told me I don't wanna do nothing.
I was pissed off, because she couldn't have said this in the morning before I left. We texted for 2 hours straight later that day. We agreed to go out 4th of July for dinner. But Saturday and she never called. No text. No nothing. I sent her a msg on myspace. Nothing disrespectful. Just saying what's up with the no contact, because normally we talk everyday, and I told her I don't know what's on your mind if you don't tell me?
I'm wondering what did I do wrong? | |
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| What did I do wrong?
Posted: 7/6/2009 9:19:03 AM | Most 18 year old girls change their minds about what they want to do like every half hour, so I don't think it's you - I think she's living in the moment, which is pretty much what girls that age do.
Sounds like she's up for what you suggest earlier on, and then changes her mind before the time comes. When I was 18 I wasn't much for making plans more than an hour ahead, so perhaps it's just the age. | |
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| What did I do wrong?
Posted: 7/6/2009 9:22:50 AM | | I dont think you did anything wrong, some people just like the chat or the thrill of the chase. Perhaps they have unerlying issues or memories from the past that they dont want to meet up. Perhaps she just got cold feet or got scared. At the end off the day all you can do is put it down to experience and think on it as she was not the girl for you, don't dwell on it and move on and try to find someone who is more suited to you. At the end of the day unless she gives you an explanation as to why she changed her mind, which is unlikely now then you will never know the reason why. If i was you i would not blame yourself in any shape or form, stop wondering about the if's, but's or why's and just put it down to experience think positively that there is someone else out there who deserves you. | |
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| What did I do wrong?
Posted: 7/6/2009 10:20:34 AM | | She sounds as if she's intrested......but perhaps this her first time in this situation and it can be scary , new and different . Mabey she just a little shy and will slowly come out her shell and go for the meeting. | |
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| What did I do wrong?
Posted: 7/6/2009 10:34:08 AM |
I'm wondering what did I do wrong?
Quite honestly, you're playing with a child. You're 23 and she's a teenager.
Teenagers are what they are - TEENAGERS.
Aim higher. | |
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| What did I do wrong?
Posted: 7/6/2009 12:43:46 PM | The thing you did wrong was to keep persuing a person that was giving you the run around. You being persistant and getting pissed, is only gonna chase her, or any woman away for that matter. If she gives you some limp excuse like cramps, which is possible but not probable, you dont ask her if she needs anything from cvs, you tell her you hope she feels better, and go about your day.
If she dosnt answer your texts, you dont send her some remark of myspace, you stop with all contact, and if she wants to contact you she will.
Quit playing the game, in laymens terms. | |
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| What did I do wrong?
Posted: 7/6/2009 2:59:33 PM | | She's a teenager! Offer to take her shopping and buy her stuff if you really want her. That's about all she's interested in at that age. Stuff! | |
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| What did I do wrong?
Posted: 7/6/2009 3:50:17 PM | I'm with Steel on this one.
The thing you did wrong was not paying attention to the signs. There is no reason I can see for you to invest any time nor energy on this person, in ANY sense. Inet, text or voice.
Leave her alone and see what she does and move on to someone new. | |
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