| no time for a relationship?????? WTF???
Posted: 7/6/2009 1:43:03 PM | ok so yea im just wondering why people put on the profile that they are extremely busy people, with little to no spare time, but they still come on this site? so there is is why do you think Women or Men do this? ive often wondered lol
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| no time for a relationship?????? WTF???
Posted: 7/6/2009 1:47:00 PM | I wouldn't say my profile puts is so extremely, but in my case, its because I work away a lot and I think it's only fair to mention.
Doesn't mean to say I'm not prepared to go to lengths to make time though!
A guy I dated recently didn't get home from work until at least half seven a lot of nights, and spent Friday to Sunday night with his son, and was busy getting ready for work on Sunday nights. I think he might have found more time if he was more interested, but all the same, I think he probably needs to mention his schedule on his profile! | |
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| no time for a relationship?????? WTF???
Posted: 7/6/2009 1:51:29 PM | Wow OP, right in your profile you say you don't like women with no drive. And in this post you say you don't understand people who are too busy for a relationship. I'm confused.
Maybe that girl is just too busy for you?
What makes them "too busy"? Is it that they're only available on the weekends?
A bit more detail in your post would get you a better answer. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 1:56:18 PM | not that any one has told me that, i just seen it on 50% of the profiles on here and was curious is all! but thanks for answering question with questions lol seriously people stop doing this. lol im just interested in opinions mmmm k lol
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| no time for a relationship?????? WTF???
Posted: 7/6/2009 2:05:48 PM |
Who knows? Maybe they have time to boink. Why don't you ask them?
That's pretty much my standard answer. And, yes, I get asked that now and then. It seems to piss some people off that not everyone is looking for a relationship, even if they're honest about it. | |
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| no time for a relationship?????? WTF???
Posted: 7/6/2009 2:07:55 PM | | there aint nothing wrong with that but maybe , those types should try another section of POF, perhaps the intimate encounters section? isnt that why its there? | |
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| no time for a relationship?????? WTF???
Posted: 7/6/2009 2:11:57 PM | | They are not very good writers, they don't really know how to express themselves in such a way that it doesn't come off as deterring. Also, different people have diferent needs in relationship. It is possible for some people to have very busy lives and still have good relationships. My parents for one were both super busy but they really loved each other and somehow made it all work. | |
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| no time for a relationship?????? WTF???
Posted: 7/6/2009 2:13:05 PM |
there aint nothing wrong with that but maybe , those types should try another section of POF, perhaps the intimate encounters section? isnt that why its there?
Well, I suppose, if that's ALL someone was looking for. Some of us are looking for DATING, but not a RELATIONSHIP. The boinking reply is sort of a joke. I actually answer that I have time for and interest in dating, when I'm asked. To me, that sometimes also includes boinking, if it's desirable for both people on the date. | |
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| no time for a relationship?????? WTF???
Posted: 7/6/2009 2:18:00 PM | | Intimate encounter carries a certain stigma that no doubt they don't want to be labeled with. They want the benefits without the title. Other reasons could include that intimate encounter is generally going to get bombarded with sleazy emails, so by not advertising it so obviously they hope to find a good guy to fool around with. Selfish to the guys looking for a proper relationship but this is a dating site, people cut corners. | |
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| no time for a relationship?????? WTF???
Posted: 7/6/2009 4:52:04 PM | i have a 30 minute slot for coffee on a tuesday afternoon, and about an hour on a saturday night for a quick bang (if you passed the coffee chemistry test!!)............. im a busy girl!
ha ha, seriously, people have different committments, family, work, kids clubs, friends.... when you meet the right one, you find the time! its a two way street after youve gotten to know someone, time can be spent at each others houses etc making things easier! | |
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| no time for a relationship?????? WTF???
Posted: 7/6/2009 4:58:15 PM | Here are some reasons.
1.Some people are just here to date...not find true love and settle down. Dating doesn't require a whole lot of time. Just some spare time here and there.
2. They say they live busy lives which makes it difficult for them to find someone out in the real world. They may work all day and come home for a few hours and crash and have little personal time to be out searching. Internet is easier.
3. They put that in the profile so that when someone they are not attracted to comes along they can use it as an excuse not to meet them. Remember if someone is interested, they'll make time. | |
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| no time for a relationship?????? WTF???
Posted: 7/6/2009 8:33:44 PM | | Many people who are 'only' open to dating would change thier outlook and priorities if they met someone really special to them-I know plenty of people who met online only wanting to date and three years later they are happily still together, in a relationship. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 8:42:43 PM | I would have to say that most people here on POF work full time.
Most people here are single and have to do all their own chores and everything else that is necessary to keep one funtioning as a productive human being.
With that said..... most people are busy unless one is retired, layed off, on disability or financially independent......all others are busy. It is called life.
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| no time for a relationship?????? WTF???
Posted: 7/6/2009 9:20:21 PM | | i have no idea, i ran into one of those, law school student had no time for something serious but could always call me up for a quick **** | |
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Posted: 7/7/2009 12:21:48 AM | OP, you and I know damn well what the situation is. Very few people are so busy they cannot find a way to date. If such a person is too busy to date, how can they expect to maintain a relationship? They are in Fantasyland without an "E" ticket. They love to watch the parade on Main Street, but would never participate because holding a balloon, a drink, and popcorn is just too darn much of a challenge as it is.
Most people are not excessively busy, but they are OCCUPIED with a myriad of activities they either enjoy, find convenient, or accept as the zenith of what they can achieve.
A person who wants to date must give up some activity to allow time for the dates. Many people are simply unwilling or unmotivated to make the effort. People who say "I'm too busy" are usually just being lazy with their writing. If they spoke the TRUTH it would be more like: "I am occupied 3 to 5 nights a week watching TV, chatting online, talking to friends on my cell phone, or doing small cleaning chores around the home. I will refuse a date in order to watch a repeat episode on TV. I will refuse a date to argue with my friends about what diet is the best and the weekend sale at Victoria's Secret. I will refuse a date the clean the muck out of the garbage disposal."
Yes. Right. OK. Most people would rather do the same-old, same-old than take a chance on being disappointed or embarassed. It's so easy to do the same thing. Besides, if you are disappointed or embarassed, it's a "waste" in the opinion of the common person. Wow....like if the date is lousy, they can't muster up the forethought to use the trip to get groceries or fill up the gas tank, or go to a restaurant they've never seen. Yup...it's just too much of a stretch to MAKE AN EFFORT.
And now I suppost a lot of people are screaming like their dog got run over. Yeah, sure, they want romance and companionship, but hey, if it means missing another repeat of "Friends" or "Everyone Loves Raymond" I guess it's just not worth it, huh?
That's what "I'm busy" usually means. You know it, I know it, every POF'n'F'er reading this topic knows it. I'm saying it. I don't begrudge people their hobbies and habits. If they want to watch a show or chat with friends all night 7 days a week, that's cool. But if they try to pass it off as "not having time" for dates, well that's just not true. "I'm busy" means they simply aren't going to make an effort to know you. | |
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| no time for a relationship?????? WTF???
Posted: 7/7/2009 1:02:11 AM | Well, I'm a full time student and I work. If I tell a guy I'm busy it's because I am. I want him to know that it's nothing personal if I don't call him everyday or if we don't see eachother all the time.
It also may explain why they're on here: if they're busy, they don't have much time to go out and meet people and the internet is convenient. They can check/read/send e-mails in minutes (or on the go with their phones) at their convenience. | |
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