| Do guys really like....?
Posted: 7/6/2009 9:26:44 PM | | When girls are provocative and try to show off the goods before you even walk into the store? Do guys really care about whats on the inside or do you just want to kiss kiss bang bang? Do you want the stripper or the sexy librarian? I mean, every guy I've tried to get to know turned out to be a douche bag and all they want is sex. Where are all the good guys and what do you want from a girl? | |
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| Do guys really like....?
Posted: 7/6/2009 9:37:07 PM | Hey, here's a novel idea. Why not make it about what *you* really like, instead of molding yourself to win faceless strangers' approval?
I mean, honestly ask yourself - what if the majority of the guys who answer this say they want a stripper? Are you, eager-to-please young lass that you seem to be, going to become a stripper on that basis?
I'll tell you what 'good' guys want - we want someone who is secure in herself, and who won't let us use them as a doormat.
That said, I also posit that you don't know how to identify a good guy, or else you wouldn't be here asking this question. I also also posit that your super-puppy-like, eager-to-please attitude is attracting douchebags like flies to sheet. It radiates 'use me' like a beacon.
Have respect for yourself. Be who you really are, and who you really want to be, and don't prostrate yourself at the feet of some cute turd because he makes you all gooey inside. Then, and only then, will you find a good guy worth having. | |
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| Do guys really like....?
Posted: 7/6/2009 9:43:30 PM | Is the sexy librarian stripper on the menu?
I think that often women want a great relationship to lead into great sex.
Whereas men want great sex to lead into a great relationship.
women=relationship first, sex later
men=sex first, relationship later
BTW, what is YOUR definition of a "good guy"? | |
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| Do guys really like....?
Posted: 7/6/2009 9:55:31 PM | | My style is confident women who do not put themselves on display. Although women who display themselves might also be considered confident, I am still the sexy librarian type of guy. | |
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| Do guys really like....?
Posted: 7/6/2009 9:56:35 PM |
...When girls are provocative and try to show off the goods before you even walk into the store?
Guys are willing to pay money for that. Rarely do men toss wadded up ones at fully-clothed women to hear their opinions.
Do guys really care about whats on the inside or do you just want to kiss kiss bang bang?
It really depends on what is inside. Also, it's not a one-or-the-other decision. Finally, it depends on what point the guy is at in his life. Nowadays, few 18 year olds are ready to get married, buy a home, have children, and settle down.
I mean, every guy I've tried to get to know turned out to be a douche bag and all they want is sex.
That doesn't speak well for what you have to offer on the interpersonal level if it is indeed true. There are good guys out there. Maybe you are blowing them off for the primo uomos in the spotlight.
Where are all the good guys and what do you want from a girl?
The good guys in your age group are studying their brains out for bigger things, or are still in the process of discovering themselves (destined to be good guys, but not so much right now). | |
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| Do guys really like....?
Posted: 7/6/2009 10:41:15 PM | You know, there's a difference between being sexual, and coming across as "desperate"...
Some guys only want the sex, some guys also want the relationship.... women seem to get them confused and give the wrong thing to the wrong guys... | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 10:45:26 PM | Well.....when I was your age (18 years old) I wanted sex. If I could have a nice girlfriend that liked to have sex, that worked also.
The reality is, that when you are young, and still finding out who you are, and what you like and want out of life, it is not the best time to get serious relationshipwise.
Date, have fun and enjoy your youth while you can.
My two cents. | |
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| Do guys really like....?
Posted: 7/6/2009 11:54:13 PM | Guys like different things as they gain experience. Just like how you are going to like different things as you gain experience.
How ever you are choosing the guys you date, it is not working. Try dating the guy who doesn't have women chasing him. Try dating a guy for a quality not a look. Try dating a guy because he is a good person not something to parade.
Pretty much all guys want sex. It is biological. Just like how you can't help the emotional high's and lows that you have during the month. He can't control his desire to get laid. It's biology. He is at his sexual peek and unprepared for it. You haven't even gotten close to hitting yours.
When we get older we know what we want from a women. The guys your age think they do but in actuality they don't.
ps... until we get older we want both. when we get older we know the librarian sucks in bed and is annoyingly anal retentive but the stripper is annoying with her lack of intelligence and consistent yapping. The woman we eventually want is somewhere in between but varies by guy where in between. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2009 12:04:54 AM | | Yes no maybe. Thats about as good as a reply i can say. Personally, im not into a woman who dresses like a stripper because to many woman i have dated have been slutty, Some say sex is important in a relationship, others say wait on sex. Mosy women i have date made sure there was trust before the sex. I know i dont want to raise a child if I don't love the woman its coming from so I tend to be more careful. | |
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| Do guys really like....?
Posted: 7/7/2009 12:30:24 AM | Imagine the theme to Jeopardy playing right now........
Alex, the answer to todays 'daily double' in the 'NO BRAINER' category is
Do you want the stripper or the sexy librarian? | |
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Posted: 7/7/2009 12:49:52 AM | You're 18, so, um, guys around that age are mostly interested in sex. Okay, actually, MOST guys are actually interested in sex, but within your age range, it's particularly acute. I vividly recall what it was like when I was that age -- sex was pretty much the ONLY thing I cared about. Now, at 34, I'm still hugely obsessed with it, but it's no longer the center of the universe like it was when I was younger.
To answer some of your questions:
1. Guys are ALWAYS going to be turned on when you "show off the goods before you even walk into the store." That is a constant. Men are first and foremost visual creatures. That is why girls who show off major cleavage in their profile pics tend to get a lot of hits and a lot of messages.
2. Ideally, guys want the stripper who's also a sexy librarian. Nobody ever said sexual stereotypes have to make sense. A lot of women would probably like the guy who's a swimsuit model with six-pack abs who ALSO happens to be a trust-fund millionaire AND a Nobel-prize-winning chemist. If you can find that guy on Plentyoffish, spread the word.
3. Yes, men do care about "what's on the inside," believe it or not. The basic problem is that men approach the question in a different order than women. For men, sex comes first. That is, their foremost goal is to find a great sex partner. Only AFTER they've found that do they stop to consider "what's on the inside." Women, for the most part, tend to focus on finding a great guy first. The sex is something they believe that (sometimes correctly, sometimes not) they can "work on."
4. Experience and age tend to mitigate the effects of the above conundrum. As they get older, both sexes begin to realize that they can "train" a partner who is otherwise wonderful to be "good at" sex, provided that said partner is willing. And if they're not willing, why would you want to be with them, anyway?  | |
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Posted: 7/7/2009 1:31:32 AM | Everyone is different. But yes, most guys do want sex.. it's sorta important..but certainly not everything. First off the sexy librarian thing,,,, would be considered derogatory to women by most feminists; the stripper goes without saying.
The problem with nice guys, most women aren't looking for them unless they're hot. Lets face it,,, if women just liked guys because they were nice then MTV and BET would have been outta business long ago. hehe. | |
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| Do guys really like....?
Posted: 7/7/2009 1:51:57 AM | You're asking if we find a woman physically attractive do we only want sex? Ridiculous. A lot of other feelings come with being beside a woman who we find physically attractive.
Proudness at walking down the street with her.
Eleation when people see us kissing.
Butterflies when she smiles....
Shall I go on??? | |
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Posted: 7/7/2009 1:59:43 AM |
Why do Peacocks have such pretty feathers?
To attract the female peahens! | |
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| Do guys really like....?
Posted: 7/7/2009 4:55:30 AM |
When girls are provocative and try to show off the goods before you even walk into the store? Do guys really care about whats on the inside or do you just want to kiss kiss bang bang? Do you want the stripper or the sexy librarian? I mean, every guy I've tried to get to know turned out to be a douche bag and all they want is sex. Where are all the good guys and what do you want from a girl?
Men want a lot more than sex, and we have vulnerabilities and tender emotions as well.
However, most men have discovered empirically that women just mock our tender emotions and also seem to want to believe that men are simply horndogs, and stupid ones at that.
Young men actually are stupid, and so they think that by playing up to this stereotype of them, they increase their chances of getting at least something. | |
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| Do guys really like....?
Posted: 7/7/2009 5:07:55 AM | Most guys, at least guys I know, and around my time of life care much more about what's on the inside than you'll ever know...not just about getting laid.
Look at your age group...you are meeting a lot of little boys who are walking mounds of testosterone.....and not really developed mentally.
A good fantasy , such as the stripper or sexy librarian lives on forever, thank god...
and, it's much more fun to play that stuff out with someone you know, and love and trust.
Kimbo | |
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