| How many is too many?
Posted: 7/7/2009 2:45:33 AM | Ok i know that most people, myself included feel that there is no limit of restriction to the number of partners a person is entitled to. But how many would you say is really taking the pi$$? Lets take a standard 18-19 year old for example.
What do you reckon, 1? 5? 10? 50?
Just curious really 
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 7/7/2009 2:48:21 AM | It's all Relative. Depends upon attractivity and availablity and reactivity and attraction.
For an 18/19 year old??? They might have experimented, here and there. | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 7/7/2009 3:17:03 AM | | A person is entitled to whatever they want as long as they and their partners are being safe. Its completely subjective. | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 7/7/2009 3:24:29 AM | for a male 18-20 never more than 47 in any given day...excluding Sunday(day of rest)
for a male 18-20 never more than 94 as some males need service twice
for a male 21-25 .... zero they should be concentrating on making enough money to pay for all the children they fathered in the early years....
for females 21-25 as many as they feel like.... they are already making enough off the guys that are killing themselves..... to pay for "only riding bearback" | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 7/7/2009 4:05:00 AM | | Only insecure people are worried about the number of sexual partners their SO have had. | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 7/7/2009 4:38:58 AM | If you have to keep count, you're insecure and doubt your own ability to be perform.
This is an ego problem.
I've been onstage for over 45 years. I lost count by the time I was 20.
I stopped putting notches on my bed post because they all fell off. | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 7/7/2009 4:46:01 AM | At any given time, Miller's magic number seems to be about right.
In total, not so many that you can't remember each and every one. | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 7/7/2009 4:57:58 AM |
what about if they have an STD and don't even know about it? I'd rather not take the chance..
Your logic is flawed. What about the virgin who's contracted an STD thru non-penetrative contact with someone who's infected and didn't know it? What about the person who's had a 20 yr long marriage and has only been with one partner.. who cheated.. and brought it home with them? According to your logic, they've only had ONE partner.. should be safe... right? Yes... STDs are horrible and nasty and a real buzz killer. Leaving your house is a risk these days... for many reasons. If you are going to think in those terms, you might as well not get out of bed every day.
Practice safer sex. Get tested regularly, between partners, once a year minimum. It's not perfect, but it's better than nothing.
As for how many is too many?? Totally subjective. I have many more partners than my current guy does. Guess what? It doesn't matter. I have many more partners than my ex does. Didn't matter then either.
Decide what matters to you and go with it. No one else's opinion, outside your partner's, should matter or count. | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 7/7/2009 5:19:08 AM | I have never found collecting people as some thing I would do. I would enjoy and respect all the woman life sends my way.
I am a one woman man, I tried dating more then one woman but it was to much like work.
If you just want to screw as many as you can. it think it takes the special out of it. Dogs screw people ( I hope ) make love. | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 7/7/2009 5:46:01 AM | | To me no number is too many,unless of course they're still running up the tally after we've become involved. | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 7/7/2009 5:55:25 AM | Ok lots of good responses. I does seem to be the general rule that the correct number is just "X". I do agree with this as long as it's not because someone has deliberately tried to reach 100 lays before their 30 or something, that would be rediculous.
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 7/7/2009 7:10:29 AM | | Judging by the replies to various threads on this topic, she's had too many partners if she's had as many or more partners than the guy who wants to date her. | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 7/7/2009 7:20:03 AM | Only insecure people are worried about the number of sexual partners their SO have had.
I'm pretty sure everyone is, in fact, insecure. So not much to blackmail with there.
I don't think there's a problem with a number. But certain personal values that go with a very high number might be incompatible with me, and yes, might even make me insecure. (But more in the "am I going to be enough? How long are they going to be faithful to me?" sense, which actually, I think is pretty valid.) | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 7/7/2009 7:32:03 AM | i would say for a normal girl, 5-10 partners by the time they settle for "the one".
quite a few of my friends are married, and i can definitely say that they've had no more than 5 steady boyfriends before getting married. | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 7/7/2009 9:15:48 AM | I've been with many more people than my partner has. He doesn't know the exact number...when the conversation came up he told me that he doesn't care how many men I've slept with, as long as he's the last one.
I don't think the number matters when a woman is older and knows what she is doing and what she wants. However, a larger number for a young woman (under 25) would be worrisome for me, as I would wonder how good her self-esteem is. Every partner I had before age 20 was a mistake. I thought sex=love or that if they wanted to sleep with me, I was very desireable and attractive. It wasn't for my sexual pleasure.
Now that I've matured a bit, and I am more equal to the men I've slept with, it wouldn't matter how many there have been, as long as nothing nasty has been contracted. | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 7/7/2009 9:16:55 AM | It's really not the quantity (unless you're talking something like 20 or more by age 19, then whoa!), but more the reasons for this. You could have someone very insecure from a bad background where several partners is forseeable, similar to alcohol and drug-related problems. Then you could have a primadonna raised in a strict Catholic household who does it to rebel or become.
There's many reasons and you should use this as an opportunity to learn more about her. | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 7/7/2009 9:30:58 AM |
Only insecure people are worried about the number of sexual partners their SO have had.
Congratulations, you waved the insecurity card only 5 postings in... I didn't expect it to show until at least the 9th post...
There are numerous reasons to wonder about the number of sex partners their significant other has had...
Being worred about being asked about it or not being willing to be honest screams a lot more about insecurity to me... Remember we're talking a significant other... not a first date partner.... How can they be a SO if you're afraid to tell them something...? When I was asked, I had no problem telling her. Why should I? right or wrong, I can't change what I did... | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 7/7/2009 9:31:57 AM | | Cant say it matters,if you constantly look backwards ,thats the direction u end up travelling. | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 7/7/2009 9:42:51 AM | | I don't care about how many partners in the past I just worry about how many partners in the present. More than me is baaaaad. | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 7/7/2009 10:05:47 AM | "good girls don't sleep around".... perhaps you should start looking at WOMEN instead of GIRLS. You are old school where someone's sexual history is a reason to judge them harshly.
I have loads of confidence, I am happy and well rounded, and my numbers only reflect my ability to be comfortable around others. I am not disclosing how many but honestly, your logic escapes me as a woman who doesn't regret anything.
Humans can have sex for pleasure... we are lucky we are built that way. My suggestion is you find an Old School Woman. There are plenty of them around. But your name calling means that you are a close minded and petty person. I wish you luck with that. | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 7/7/2009 10:08:55 AM | Since when does having multiple sex partners equal low self-esteem?
What difference does child birth have in the equation?
In the end, if you feel that your partner has had too many sexual partners in the past then the two of you are not compatible and the both of you should move on. | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 7/7/2009 10:13:39 AM |
Your logic is flawed. What about the virgin who's contracted an STD thru non-penetrative contact with someone who's infected and didn't know it? What about the person who's had a 20 yr long marriage and has only been with one partner.. who cheated.. and brought it home with them? According to your logic, they've only had ONE partner.. should be safe... right? Yes... STDs are horrible and nasty and a real buzz killer. Leaving your house is a risk these days... for many reasons. If you are going to think in those terms, you might as well not get out of bed every day.
Actually the logic is not flawed... for a couple of reasons...
1... There is a reason they put 1 bullet in a gun to play Russian Roulette, and not 5 bullets... it's called "odds"... sure the one bullet CAN be under the hammer, but the odds are that it won't be... put 5 bullets in and you're pretty much certain to get it... the same thing applies to STD's... increased partners equals increased risk...
2... The same thing applies in long term partnerships. Sure the partner could cheat over that 20 year time frame, but the odds are still not as great as a partner who has been fcuking lots of different people regularly over a 20 year period...
3... Increased partners is not a linear expansion in risk, it is an exponential increase...ie if you double the risk with each partner how long before the risk becomes too great...? | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 7/7/2009 10:19:15 AM | Why are you even worried about keeping count?
Does it really matter how many they have or haven't been with before you?
Seems to me, that would be a hang up that would keep you from going there with me. | |
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