| Honesty?
Posted: 7/8/2009 12:49:26 AM | So many people say they want honesty. At least 1 out of 3 will state they want honesty and do not want liars or to be lied to.
Unfortunately, when you are honest, people RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN!
This is not a pity thread, it is a fact. True honesty means that you will not hide things like being unemployed or the fact you smoke, or other things about yourself.
If you ask for honesty, be prepared to receive it, even if it is something you may not initially like, at least the person is being honest.
I would rather spend my life single than to lie about myself just to get a date. Some will agree with me, and some will not and that is ok. | |
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| Honesty?
Posted: 9/7/2009 6:38:21 PM | | Dam right! WTG!! | |
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| Honesty?
Posted: 9/9/2009 10:00:39 AM | | I always wonder why so many people lie in their profiles about weight, height, fake pics up, etc. If you decide to meet the other person they will obviously see that you lied. No matter what kind of connection is made when chatting online or phone, if I meet someone and find that they have lied about such things, I am turned off right away. It makes me wonder if they cant be honest about their own appearance and so forth, what else do they lie about? I want a person to like me for me. | |
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| Honesty?
Posted: 9/12/2009 2:55:47 AM | Some people may think its easier to lie about themselves. Little realizing that all lies eventually come out in the open. In my own profile, I make sure that certain things about myself is known like the fact I smoke cigerettes, and ocasionally will smoke a bit of Mary Jane. As for people putting up fake pictures, that is the dumbest thing anyone can do. When it is time to meet, that will blow up in their face.
I said it before and will say it again. I will spend my life single before I lie just to get someone. | |
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| Honesty?
Posted: 9/16/2009 1:47:27 PM | One of my favorite sayings is this:
I'd rather have you hate me for who I am, than have you love me for who I am not.
That's pretty simple and I live by it. It gets me into sooooo much trouble though!
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| Honesty?
Posted: 9/17/2009 7:05:31 AM | | I am honest or at least as honest as I can be on here. No point in lying is there! OMG I have to meet a man who I told I was 5'8, blonde, a sucessful business owner with no kids.... so now how can I hide the fact I am 5'6, bigger than what I let him think, got a couple of kids and work a job! I think I would rather get to know a real person and if things click go from there! | |
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| Honesty?
Posted: 9/19/2009 5:27:59 AM | I understand your point, tracyms, it's very hard to be honest, and the penalty for fudging the truth is even worse! LOL, Maybe it's a case of degrees, perhaps a few degrees can be forgiven. After all, this is the net, and we're all trying to make the best impression we can.
For the most part, we all keep honesty as a guide(guard) post, we keep it honest on the larger issues, but to fudge a few inches in height or weight is forgivable I'm sure! LOL | |
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| Honesty?
Posted: 11/3/2009 3:47:40 PM | H AH AH
Check out my profile,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
I lied,,,,,,,,,,,,honesty wasn't working,,,,,,,seems it made ppl lie to me.
Cheeky monkey,,,,,,,,,,,I am. | |
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| Honesty?
Posted: 11/5/2009 11:41:38 PM | | amen sister!!!!! orange park, florida, US, from the rock, 1964 | |
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| Honesty?
Posted: 11/28/2009 4:07:20 AM | In my view, the plea for honesty is too often thrown into a profile with careless disregard. This mandatory prerequisite, most often made by women has become a misused and misrepresented buzz word. The word’s inclusion into dating profiles has become reactionary and routine. Most who order up a heapin’ helpin’ of honesty fail to examine what they are truly asking for. I contend that the vast majority of women do not desire honesty. What they are really seeking is to avoid be deceived. These are two vastly different notions. If you are truly honest with a woman you'll often be treading on very thin ice. Being up front about her appearance, attitude, hang-ups, manners, culinary skills, lifestyle, kids, quirks, previous relationships and life's choices will not score you any Brownie points. Instead, you'll be rewarded with hostility, resentment and rejection. Like Lucy pulling the football away from Charlie Brown at the last second, believing a woman who promises to admire a man who gives her honesty, will too often leave him flat on his ass. Women tend to desire candor so long as it benefits them. When it hits too close to home, the truth is no longer a virtue but a unsought burden. Women are wise to examine carefully in advance, whether the truth they seek is psychologically manageable.
By instead, expecting a man not to mislead her, a woman has a better opportunity to capture her real objective which is to prevent herself from being hurt. In addition, she will spare herself the indignation that unrestrained honesty is almost certain to produce. A woman’s main concerns are fidelity, devotion, respect, dependability and affection so why not preclude the ambiguity and cut right to the chase?
Always give a woman what she wants which is not necessarily what she asks for. | |
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| Honesty?
Posted: 11/28/2009 2:32:04 PM | | Well....whether if you're on POF or in real life everybody (myself included) just reveals what they want about them. While it isn't lying, you're not being completely honest. But who is? | |
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| Honesty?
Posted: 11/28/2009 2:34:07 PM |
I always wonder why so many people lie in their profiles about weight, height, fake pics up, etc.
Because people are quick to judge based on height, weight, apperance, etc. | |
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