| The same excuse time and time again
Posted: 7/8/2009 1:22:32 PM | How many others here have arranged a date only to have it cancelled the day before or even an hour before with the same excuse that a family member has suddenly become ill ?
If my memory serves me right,of all the dates that I have had cancel on me this has been the excuse used every single time.Now some may have been genuine but the problem now is every time I get the same text....and it's always by text,they never have the balls to ring you up and tell you....I think here we go again another timewaster.
Not very original you girls are you....do the guys trot out the same old tosh too ? | |
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| The same excuse time and time again
Posted: 7/8/2009 1:26:10 PM | That's a standart reply, when they don't want to show.
Others might be: going out of town for work, my son broke an arm, daughter needs "dady" time. All of them by text. Get use to it. People are flakes! and on the internet multiply that by 100 times!
Better luck next time! | |
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| The same excuse time and time again
Posted: 7/8/2009 1:34:15 PM | A lot of it is just that people get nervous and have second thoughts and lose the initial excitement and do something stupid. I will admit I've done it a few times in my life.
But I do always call the person because I don't want them to show up and be stood up.
I try not to do it so much anymore, but the last time I did it was actually a blessing. A guy who was kind of internet stalking me had created a fake profile and I didn't know that. Was going to meet that guy and got strangely cold feet. After I cancelled I found out it was him, so was I ever glad my gut told me not to go. | |
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| The same excuse time and time again
Posted: 7/8/2009 1:45:45 PM |
do the guys trot out the same old tosh too ?
Yes they do and twice it was a visit to the E.R. One guy called to cancel to say he was at the E.R. as his daughter slipped in the rain on his porch steps. However, I left a bit early and as I pulled up to his house, he was standing in his living room! | |
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| The same excuse time and time again
Posted: 7/8/2009 1:49:51 PM | Happens to me all the time too hon.
One guy tried getting together three times. He canceled ALL three times telling me he was helping his sister move to Toledo. Finally the third time, I asked him how many times a month does his sister move to Toledo. I never heard from him again.
But I sometimes wonder how their sister/mother/aunt would feel if they knew their brother/son/nephew used them as an excuse to ditch a girl he'd talked to for weeks. | |
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| The same excuse time and time again
Posted: 7/8/2009 1:54:07 PM | | It's annoying but not as much as when they text you to say they're on their way yet still fail to show. Fortunately when this has happened I've only been dressed up with nowhere to go in my living room as opposed to sat alone feeling like a lemon in a bar or restaurant! | |
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| The same excuse time and time again
Posted: 7/8/2009 2:40:30 PM |
How many others here have arranged a date only to have it cancelled the day before or even an hour before with the same excuse that a family member has suddenly become ill ?
That excuse (as well as being cancelled) has happened exactly once. After that, I learned my lesson. Move on at the first sign of flakiness. If you're getting cancelled like that a lot, I'd guess you are pushing women to meet you and who agree reluctantly. Don't meet anyone who isn't enthusiastic about meeting you. | |
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| The same excuse time and time again
Posted: 7/8/2009 2:46:25 PM | msg 8
you're wrong there mate,i'm never pushy in fact i'm often accused of being indifferent....perhaps that could be a reason,the women think I'm not that interested ,it's hard to judge isn't it ? | |
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| The same excuse time and time again
Posted: 7/8/2009 2:53:18 PM | After showing little interest in a man, he still wanted to meet me, then sent an email the day before we were to meet telling me had some bad chop suey and had the "runs." Since I wasn't gung ho anyway, I told him that we should "leave it alone" and not bother meeting.
But he STILL wanted to meet and being my usual gracious, kind, and silly self, I agreed. This time, on the morning we were to meet he sent an email saying he hadn't slept the night before, was going to bed, and didn't think he would wake up in time to make the 3:30 soda "date."
I told I was simply not interested enough in meeting him to keep getting his excuses. He sent an email back time stamped 12:30ish PM that he didn't understand my hesitancy, but would honor my wishes.
So, yah, guys do it, too. | |
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| The same excuse time and time again
Posted: 7/8/2009 2:59:47 PM | Don't meet anyone who isn't enthusiastic about meeting you.
AMEN! I think everyone has heard/used this excuse cause you were having second thoughts or because they couldn't get rid of wives/girlfriends/husbands/boyfriends. LOL! But bottom line is you should definitly know what you're getting into before you go out. People often reveal their true natures early on. Be glad that you dropped the flake early and keep it moving. | |
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| The same excuse time and time again
Posted: 7/8/2009 3:01:29 PM | When I was still semi-new to this thing, I told one lady I had met that my son had just broke his knuckle while skating.
This was after meeting her.
She thought I was giving her the shove off...but, in fact it was true.
Had to take him to a hand specialist. Still have the splints and doctors papers.
*shrug*
I guess next time something like that comes up, I'll have to be very specific and maybe schedule a date while sending the message.
I've sence learnt that real life issues are often code for 'bugger off.' | |
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| The same excuse time and time again
Posted: 7/8/2009 3:01:55 PM | Yes a guy I was going to meet sent a text that morning saying he went out the night before and got food poisoning.
I replied saying if he was that ill he wouldnt be able to send a text and was it just that he didnt want to show?
There was one man I arranged to meet and I got "cold feet" and texted him to say sorry but i felt that it was too soon to meet.
I mean they're unlikely to come wielding a hack saw to kill you just cos youve had second thought so you might as well be honest about it | |
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| The same excuse time and time again
Posted: 7/8/2009 3:15:11 PM | Life happens. I've had to rain-check a date or two due to work. I work in the energy sector and at any given notice something can happen that requires my staying at the office late - or having to go into the office to put out a fire.
I always CALL her and explain the situation and promise a make up date - which I've always honored as well.
I can honestly say that I've never had anyone cancel on me at the last moment. I suppose, having to have done it myself a coulpe of times, I would be understanding enough not to hold it against her - however - if it became a trend - I'd cut ties and move on. | |
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| The same excuse time and time again
Posted: 7/8/2009 4:56:26 PM | The ones that waffle on a meeting...have responsibilities that they don't want you to know about..family..soon to be ex and looking for an out...and just too chicken.
So are just happy with a FANTASY ..if they turn it into a reality? It just would not be the same. ..because the reality and fantasy will never mix. | |
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| The same excuse time and time again
Posted: 7/8/2009 4:58:56 PM | | OP, I haven't heard that excuse for cancelling a date (the family member who is ill or died). I've had a few dates cancel the day of the date because they said they had met someone else ... someone they wanted to get serious with. These things happen, that's just the way it is . | |
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| The same excuse time and time again
Posted: 7/8/2009 5:08:59 PM |
How many others here have arranged a date only to have it cancelled the day before or even an hour before with the same excuse that a family member has suddenly become ill ?
I wonder how many people that use this excuse for dating also used it on their professors in school to skip midterms or finals?
I remember a lot of teachers saying the number of family emergencies and deaths seemed to exponentially increase depending on the severity of the responsibility. It seemed family members only died or got sick on midterm/final day.
do the guys trot out the same old tosh too ?
Of course they do. People are people, use whatever excuse is convenient and causes the most guilt when questioned to keep them safe. | |
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| The same excuse time and time again
Posted: 7/8/2009 5:36:58 PM | Yup, guys do and say the same thing, that and not even showing up and not even calling to cancel and the ever popular, "I'll call you" and never do | |
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| The same excuse time and time again
Posted: 7/8/2009 6:40:22 PM | | Never missed a date, but I have run late because my daughter got ill. I also have refused a date or two because of being asked out at the last minute and had a sick child at home. Sickness does happen. If you are talking to them on the phone enough, usually you can tell if it is a sincere excuse or just an excuse. | |
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| The same excuse time and time again
Posted: 7/8/2009 7:41:35 PM | | I have only cancelled one date and it was for a legite reason and rescheduled the date with him. I have had a few dates that didn't show up (Stoodup) at all no phone calls, emails, etc. I have never stood up a man but I have cut the date short if I wasn't interested in him. | |
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| The same excuse time and time again
Posted: 7/8/2009 7:53:32 PM | I've had some bad excuses, and I've been stood up a few times. Some of the excuses were by text or by phone. I definitely realized some were excuses and the guy's interest was lukewarm at best, so I let it go.
The sad thing is that one time last year I had a date who did this (it was going to be our first date). The guy had been pursuing me hot and heavy, and I actually believed his daughter went to the ER. It sounded fishy, but he was such a nice guy and seemed so into me, I believed it. Well, we ended up going on a date the next week and dating for months, and then he broke up with me (went back to an ex-girlfriend). I now believe he was still dating this woman, and needed an excuse to get out of our first date because of her. It actually aggravated me later that I bought the excuse and believed it!
Now, I do believe things can come up. For example, I've cancelled a few dates on the day of the date because I of work obligations and my son buying a car (and needing me to help with papers) and sickness. But only a few, and I always called and assured the person I did want to meet them and was sorry for the inconvenience. I do try to value people's time, as I know a lot of people have limited free nights (I know I have limited free nights due to my sports leagues and such). | |
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| The same excuse time and time again
Posted: 7/8/2009 8:41:25 PM | guy from here also pursues me, good phone talks, make a date, then cancels nite before the first meet. "daughter flying in last minute" and disappears for two weeks.
then calls, sorry lot on my plate. we meet go out couple times, he again cancels nite before date, "son flying in last minute" and disappears for a week.
then when we talked about it, he forgot which kid came in which time sooo, well it was time to say javascript:smilie('') | |
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| The same excuse time and time again
Posted: 7/8/2009 10:05:32 PM | I had a guy tell me he got into a car accident. I knew he was lying. He lost interest and decided to bail. Guys use lame excuses too. I even had one guy pretend to have his "friend" tell me that he died. (seriously, that was one for the books) At the time, I even believed it because I was an innocent sucker back then.
Trust me, guys are no strangers to lame whales of excuses either. lol. | |
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