| why does a guy stop calling?
Posted: 7/8/2009 10:43:45 PM | I met this guy on this site...we hit off, talked everyday and night. We then met up for coffee for the first time, seemed like things were great. We shared a good night kiss and then I coincidently ended up at the same club as him saturday night...random I know. We spent the whole night hanging out and dancing. Then after he asked me to come over but i told him i couldn't i was staying at my friends house for the night. Since that time no phone calls, texted me all day yesterday but didn't call once. I just dont get it honestly...
I just don't know if hes playing hard to get, maybe he wants me to chase after him? I thought that was a woman's place.
A male perspective would be much appreciated here. | |
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| why does a guy stop calling?
Posted: 7/8/2009 10:55:50 PM | Hmmm ... ur hot n beautiful OP, if he doesn't call or contact ya back then its his loss!!! Dont worry about it -- I'd just move on if I were you.
The part where he "asked you to come over" and you refused ... could be flags that he's just lookin for booty call. .. My guess is: When you said "no" ... thats when he lost interest.
As a woman, by all means show interest if you like the guy, but to have to "chase" him .... thats a bit too over-the-top. | |
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| why does a guy stop calling?
Posted: 7/8/2009 11:07:20 PM | Getting some sort of instant gratification is on top of his priority list (rather than getting to know you), since he knows he is getting nowhere with you, my guess is he's working on another project.
He can't be too busy to call you all of a sudden but you know that already right?  | |
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Posted: 7/8/2009 11:40:56 PM | | Totally about the sex. Guys suck and we're really sorry. I wouldn't sweat it too much, as stated you seem attractive so I'd shrug it off and hit refresh...you'll probably have 5 new messages. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2009 12:16:37 AM | If he "texted you all day yesterday" then it isn't as though he hasn't been in touch at all.
The problem with texting is when you respond to it "all day", it sets the bar very low. You accept texting in lieu of real communication or phone calls.
The only text I'll send is "call me when you have a chance to talk".
That said-- kissing a man you just met, then spending the "whole night hanging out and dancing" might have given him the impression that you were ready to get intimate. Because he basically he asked you to sleep with him. Since you said no, he's only making the minimal effort (texting).
My advice is to stop responding to text messages. He'll either call, or not. Then you know his intentions. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2009 1:08:43 AM | "Getting some sort of instant gratification is on top of his priority list (rather than getting to know you), since he knows he is getting nowhere with you, my guess is he's working on another project. "
Simply put, she is right.
Instant gratification is easily one of the biggest faults a guy can have. Mind you, its not applicable to every male out there, but its an easy generalization to make.
By the sounds the of it, he doesn't see the 'thrill of the hunt' as worthy enough for him to pursue possibly. There can be countless reasons responsible for his lack of communication. Simply lost interest... Found someone else... Who knows.
In the end, you just have to enjoy the little things, the spur of the moments, and hope they can continue. If not... move on. | |
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| why does a guy stop calling?
Posted: 7/9/2009 3:50:49 AM | | After having looked at your profile photos there only one reason why a guy would stop calling. HE'S A FREAKIN MORON. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2009 6:07:49 AM |
After having looked at your profile photos there only one reason why a guy would stop calling. HE'S A FREAKIN MORON. Wow... just wow.
Op... a man stops calling because of one reason. You aren't what he wants.
Sometimes the simple truth is bitter to swallow, but better realizing the truth than to delude yourself with lies... | |
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Posted: 7/9/2009 6:51:06 AM | A guy stops calling when he has lost interest.
He keeps texting you to keep you on the line just in case. A lot of guys I know keep all the cute 'chatty' things they thin will work with a girl saved in their notes so all they have to do is hit a send button. | |
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| why does a guy stop calling?
Posted: 7/9/2009 6:55:55 AM | Stop calling??? He's found a better alternative. She's higher on the priority scale or she requires less of our time.
Stop calling you??? Insanity. WOW are you gorgeous. The guy must be nuts. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2009 7:26:58 AM | I appreciate all your responses. I am happy to see that you all agree with my thoughts on the situation. I am much better off, its his loss. Its funny cause he came across as this really great guy who wanted to find "the one" but actions speak louder than words. I am just glad I didn't give anymore of myself than a kiss.
Thanks again,
Frenchdutchess | |
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| why does a guy stop calling?
Posted: 7/9/2009 7:40:59 AM | NEVER worry about somebody who does not call you back or who does not get back in touch with you.
They are obviously NOT interested and saved you much time and disappointment.
Even when you think a first meeting or date has gone well, often, some people are just polite and civil and can still enjoy a nice evening, date or get-together even if they decide it will probably be your last meeting with them.
Sadly, dating is a lot like telemarketing, you dial and dial and dial, and you already know not every call you make will be answered and those who do will often say NO, but you're interested in the one who says YES.
its God's way of showing you who and what is DEFINITELY NOT for you.
just wanted to chime in on this particular thread
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Posted: 7/9/2009 9:06:51 AM | A guy will tell you he wants 'the one' if he thinks it will get you in bed. What he really means is 'the one that will sleep with me tonight'.
His actions were quite clear. His words were lies. This is extremely common. Glad to see you were smart enough not to fall for it. | |
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| why does a guy stop calling?
Posted: 7/9/2009 9:57:43 AM |
he came across as this really great guy who wanted to find "the one" as opposed to a really big jerk who wanted to get laid? | |
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Posted: 7/9/2009 4:30:42 PM | | You gave off some negitive vibes, he just figures you're not that interested, so why bother wasting his time with you. At some point you do have to give us a clue of what you are thinking, or be ready for us to look somewhere else. Guys are not going to spend a lot of time trying to guess what's up with you, if you don't say something or like in your case when you say no we decide it's time to move on. Also this isn't about sex, it's about your level of interest. | |
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| why does a guy stop calling?
Posted: 7/9/2009 4:49:31 PM | | In this case it is not about my interest...he knew I was interested trust me, I am always clear. I never gave him a negative vibe at all. The only time he msged me after that night at the club was all sexually text messages, that really turned me off. Ok I know all men think with the wrong brain but when you don't know someone you should be interested in getting to know them better. Basically he told me everything I wanted to hear about romance and love etc. Now he doesn't even seem like the same person I first met. | |
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| why does a guy stop calling?
Posted: 7/9/2009 6:10:50 PM |
After having looked at your profile photos there only one reason why a guy would stop calling. HE'S A FREAKIN MORON.
Or just not worthy of something so beautiful!
Yeah, hes a freaking moron.. indeed.  | |
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Posted: 7/9/2009 7:15:55 PM | He must`ve simply lost interest in the chase since it was leading one way then went the next.
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Posted: 7/10/2009 5:37:31 AM | Are you really serious? Since you asked...
He was likely driving hard to the hoop on Saturday night with you and then gets fouled out. When you didn't respond to any of his sexually suggestive txt msgs he bailed on out. Sorry, but you are probably better off. If it isn't moving forward, he's moving on, at least in his mind.
PS, I can't fathom how much mail you must receive. Your profile must garner a staggering amount of attention. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2009 5:46:14 AM | | He wants to get laid my vixen!! there are very few men who will look at you and not have sexual thoughts so you must decide if you want to climb aboard or move on. I`d say that is your only choice. At his age that`s probably his main concern. Bottom line, you don`t gotta wait for nobody baby!! | |
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| why does a guy stop calling?
Posted: 7/10/2009 6:00:04 AM | Maybe he didn't have the minutes?
Either way her is the problem ladies. Yeah you ladies love to talk on the phone it is like a gift or something. Us men not so much. Yeah I don't mind a short sweet conversation.
If you want to talk to him arrange a date, don't just call for the sake of conversation. Do that in person.
Sorry, but I've got more constructive things to do than spend hours on the phone. Do you think these zombies up and kill themselves in this game? Of course not it is my duty to put them out of their misery. Unless you want to meet got to take care of them. | |
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